6 Reasons Why You Should Not Have Sex Too Soon With the Man You Are Dating

1. When a man is attracted to you he is not just attracted to your personality and outer beauty, he is also infatuated with the idea of how making love to you will feel. And once you give him the opportunity to bring what he is imagining to life by making love to him, he feels that he has captured you and no longer has to dream about being with you. His interest in intensely pursing you starts to diminish and in some cases evaporates completely.

2. The other thing that happens when you make love too soon to the man you are dating is that you run the risk of being perceived as cheap and easy. You may have had sex with him because he told you that he would still respect you and not think less of you, but the minute you fall for this popular line, the value he places on you diminishes slightly.

3. If you want to build a long lasting relationship with any man, you are better off building that relationship on the foundation of friendship than lust. Get to know him better so that when the right time comes to make love, your lovemaking will be a culmination of the love you have for each other -- the icing on the cake, if you will.

4. Your self-esteem will suffer if you make love to your man too soon. Think about it for a minute. How do you think you will feel if you wait to make love to him versus when you make love to him within the first week of meeting him. If you are honest, you will agree with me that you will feel much better about yourself if you make love to him after knowing him for a few months or even after you get married, depending on your beliefs.

5. If you make love to him too soon and he dumps you right after that, you will feel used and devastated.

6. If you make love to him too soon, you run the risk of building a relationship that is based on how he makes you feel in bed, even when it is clear that he is not the best guy for you. Have you ever dated a man just because of how good he was in bed and not because of how good he treated you? How did that relationship turn out? I bet you it did not turn out very good.

So be careful about making love too soon to the man you want to develop a long term relationship with. More often than not, men will say that they are tired of waiting for the right time to make love to you, but you don't have to let what he says pressure you into doing something that you are not quite emotionally ready handle. If the man you are with now cannot wait for that special moment when you are emotionally and spiritually ready to make love to him, then he is not the right man for you. The man that is right for you will always be willing to wait for the time that is right for you.

Five Tips For Nice Guys

WHAT IT MEANS TO BE NICE

A lot of people are familiar with the "nice-guy" syndrome. If not, there is plenty of information available: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nice_guy. It is a title given to a group of men who constantly hear the mantra "men are pigs," yet can't understand why women constantly overlook their gentlemanly conduct and overall "nice" behavior.

These nice guys often find and pursue women, yet they are more often than not met with rejection and occasionally the phrase "let's just be friends," or "you're such a good friend."

There are many different theories as to how and why this happens. Many researchers have tackled this question. Nice guys have also published their own explanations, some involving detailed sciences about "the friend ladder" and others being rants on involuntary celibacy. I myself have written pages and pages regarding this "syndrome." As of yet, all of these efforts have returned inconclusive results.

However, what all of these studies have failed to take into consideration is the mathematical aspect of the syndrome rather than the scientific. Instead of searching for some flaw in oneself, nice guys should consider more the more global perspective. This discovery could perhaps end, if anything, some of the blind frustration nice guys often feel when rejected.

NICE GUYS AND NICE GIRLS

Before discussing my findings, it is important to classify the types of men and women to whom this study directly relates. Those who are familiar with the nice guy most likely have heard of his opposite: the jerk. Though the men are intricate aspects of the study, it is equally important to classify the women into groups.

The stereotypical jerk will often say that he seeks to date "some chick." This alone provides some insight as to why jerks are statistically more likely to attract a girlfriend. While nice guys search for a "suitable" woman, jerks are comfortable with "some chick." The "chick" is a girl who is not particularly discriminating in her taste in men. She is comfortable dressing in revealing clothing in order to get the attention of the most attractive male she can find. This is not to say chicks are not selective; however, they are more interested in finding a handsome man rather than a charming one.

The counterpart to the chick is the nice girl. A nice girl is "more than just a pretty face," as they say. She has personality, aspirations, and intelligence. She is also selective about who she takes home. Not just any guy will do (even if that guy happens to be a nice guy).

PLAYING THE ODDS

This brings me to my more statistical analysis. I know not everyone is an expert in mathematics, so I'll try to keep this as elementary as possible.

Picture a canvasser on a sidewalk. He has a clipboard in his hand and a brightly colored t-shirt and he is asking everyone who passes by for their signature on a petition. Most people have seen this sight before while walking down a busy street. If not, this person has probably knocked on your door for the same reason. For our purposes, this is the jerk. He is determined to get your attention, perhaps your signature, but his ultimate goal is to get your contact information so that he can call you later with more information.
The jerk will essentially "make his move" on whatever girl comes along with the expectation that many will turn him down. However, he also knows that with enough effort, he can eventually find someone who will show interest in his cause. She may not stay very long, but this will keep his confidence up until he finds a keeper.

In canvassing, they say that approximately 10 people will show interest every hour spent asking. If you translate that to a jerk in a bar, for example, he might talk to 10 girls who don't immediately ignore his advance. Maybe five of those will actually give him their phone number. And of those five, perhaps one will be interested in seeing him again. This math seems pretty solid.

Unfortunately for nice guys, canvassing does not make as much sense for them. While a jerk is comfortable asking chicks, nice girls, and anyone in between for their phone numbers, a nice guy is more selective. He doesn't want to waste his time with "some chick" because he's interested in a relationship, not a fling. This means he has to wait to come across a girl who will display her personality to him in some way.

Once a nice guy finds a girl he thinks is a good match, he begins the courting process (a process that looks very different for each nice guy). The one thing that is usually similar for each nice guy's attempt at courtship is that it takes a very long time. While a jerk's courtship process will take only minutes, a nice guy could spend hours, days, weeks, or even months trying to develop a rapport. This is often where the frustration of being considered a "friend" comes in. The nice guy sees himself laying the groundwork for a potential relationship, while the girl may only see him as a friend being kind.

Then comes the rejection. A girl may reject a guy for any number of reasons, just as a nice guy will bypass a "chick" to speak to a nice girl; however, after spending so much time and effort attempting to build a relationship, the nice guy often attributes this rejection to some fault of his own.

After going through this process multiple times, it is no wonder why nice guys are often beaten down and skeptical of romance in general.

NICE GUYS FINISH LAST JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE

What nice guys must recognize is that girls are going to reject them. Everyone gets rejected, this is no mystery. Instead of treating every girl that comes along as the next great possibility, try to recognize the statistics. Since nice guys already weed out the "chicks" from their minds, the math is certainly different. No study has been done to find the exact number, but for the sake of argument, imagine only 1 out of every 10 girls you court will show some interest in you. Keep this in mind so that you don't overreact if you are met with rejection. Here are some tips that can help you utilize this math:

1. KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN

Instead of focusing on one girl who may or may not want you back, don't be afraid to show interest in other girls. Many nice guys fear this will discourage another interest of theirs. Recognize that girls are more likely to be jealous than immediately disregard you as an option.

2. CUT DOWN ON COURTSHIP

If you are a nice guy, you probably spend too much time in the courtship process. Don't skimp on the gentlemanly conduct, but do try to find some way of getting the girl to reveal her feelings about you earlier on. This will save you the frustration of being "lead on" and it will also allow you more time to search for someone else.

3. WHEN YOU SENSE A HINT OF DISINTEREST, MOVE ON!

Assume the worst when it comes to girls. If you catch what you think is some kind of "hint," assume it's her way of saying "no thank you." Be the first to put her in the "friend zone" for a change. Always leave room for her to get in touch with you, but let her to do some of the work. You've probably already made it clear that you're interested, so if she shares that interest, she'll seek you out. But don't always feel the need to be the one to make the first move.

4. TREAT YOUR SEARCH AS A MATTER OF VOLUME RATHER THAN TIME

A lot of times people say to nice guys "don't worry, the right one will come along eventually." Take this advice with a grain of salt. The "right one" will come along, but first you have to get through the wrong ones. Imagine that you have to get rejected a certain number of times first before you can get a "yes." Go for as many nice girls as possible and accept as many no's as you can. This is the only way to shorten the amount of time it will take.

5. DON'T BLAME YOURSELF!

Now that you know there's nothing wrong with you, stop being so hard on yourself! Not even a jerk will get it right the first few tries. This doesn't mean you're a failure. Ms. Right is going to accept you for who you are. All you have to do is spend some time weeding through the possibilities.

The research is out there! In study after study, women are shown to prefer men with "nice guy" qualities. Nice guys just need to spend more time searching and less time sulking. I know that no one likes to hear it, but there are plenty of fish in the sea. If you feel like there's no one out there for you, then you've given up too soon. Take a page from the jerk's book and play the odds. If you keep at it, you're bound to hit a jackpot sometime.

DISCLAIMERS:

*A note on canvassing: I have no issue or qualm; instead, only the deepest of appreciation for canvas workers. I have done this work myself and can appreciate how hard it is. Please do not misinterpret any analogy or comparison I made to be an attack on these people.

**A note on homosexuality: I did not mention homosexuality in this article because I am only aware of the nice guy attribute in heterosexuals. I cannot accurately say what kind of similarities exist between nice guys and nice gay guys because I personally am not familiar with the matter.

Sugar Daddy Dating Parties - Stunning Singles

Sugar daddy dating has been catching on quickly, and you can probably thank a downward looking economy for that. First appearing in 2004, sugar daddy sites have silently become the hottest trend in online dating, and what would seems to be the latest evolution of the trend is stunning singles across the country...

Sugar Daddy parties are becoming a new favorite way for sugar daters to meet, arrange and explore activities in mutually beneficial relationships. The idea for the party was spearheaded by one sugar daddy dating site in particular that caters to men and women who "Seek Arrangement" (website name) with no-strings-attached. The parties are intended "to bring the website to life" - says Brandon Wade, founder and CEO of the leading company for sugar daddies, sugar babies and sugar mamas.

"I don't have the time to play around online to find a sugar baby to make an arrangement... I'd much rather have a chance to meet them in person for quick and easy decision making"- says one sugar daddy. The announcement came amidst heightened controversy over mutually beneficial relationships, thanks in part to the recent John Edwards sugar baby scandal.

According to industry insiders, these kind of engagements are bound to draw plenty of attention. The lack of existing venues in which wealthy men can arrange dates and related experiences with young and attractive singles may add fire to these parties flame. And if that wasn't enough, take into consideration how badly the economy has affected the wallets of young students and entry level professionals, eh hem... shall I say, societies newest sugar babies?

The surge in new accounts on most sugar daddy dating websites proves that this is no one-year-stand kind of a trend, "you can expect a lot more of these kind of sites to pop up in the near future" says one industry insider. The sites don't leave much to the imagination, and now they are adding gay and lesbian relationships into the NSA dating fold. Gay sugar daddies looking for arrangements with young stud muffins are creating profiles en masse. Though one type of sugar dater is in the highest demand, and lowest in number...

Sugar mamas! Sugar mamas do exist, yet they are greatly outnumbered by their wealthy male counterparts. Heterosexual male sugar babies do their best to woo these powerhouse women, and they don't succumb to just the ordinary flattery... there serious women with serious cash, so come correct.

Quit Your Boyfriend If He's Not the One

You know when you're dating a man and something feels off? Well, that is because something really is off. I'm not talking about having disagreements every once in a while, that's natural. I am talking about something in your gut that tells you something just isn't right. It's the feeling that something is missing, but you may not be able to put your finger on it.

You may have thought it was your problem, that maybe you were going through something, but it's because your relationship with the man you're with isn't the real deal. When you find "THE ONE" you will feel complete in every way. Although it is nice to have someone who cares about you, it's even better to find the person who is your soul mate.

My advice to you today, quit wasting your time on someone who was not made for you. You have to be a woman who will not settle in order to make this bold move. It's not about hurting someone else but it's about allowing yourself to find true love and allowing your boyfriend to find the woman he was meant to be with.

You both deserve this.

If you hang on to your boyfriend because you don't want to be alone or you can't do without sex, then you are going to make both of your lives very miserable and worst. If you actually end up marrying the wrong person, well that will be a lifetime horror story!!

Believe that you have what it takes to attract and find true love by deciding today that you will not settle for good enough. Then start the process of releasing your boyfriend so that you can embrace your soul mate. When your soul mate finds you, you'll will have everything you could possibly dream for in a man.

How to Get the Girl of Your Dreams - 3 Astonishing Keys to Getting Her to Like You Instantly!

Obviously there is something about this girl; she's not overly open, but you want her to be. It's hard to do anything with someone who has walls up at every corner; you are always feeling lost and confused. She has her walls up for her own protection, and a lot of girls just want to see if you can climb them, go the limits; and some other girls are just shy. Whatever the girl, she's still as closed as the curtains of a play after the show. Here's how to get in on the show before the curtains are closed, and see behind the scenes with a girl:

Compliment her- the best way to win anyone over is to immediately compliment them! Find anything; this is how sales people work, this is how business interactions work, and same in the dating world; showing them you appreciate qualities in them boosts them up to be more able to do what you want. You want her to be open, compliment the things you know so far, and even things she didn't think you knew. Tell her talents- make it go beyond her physical appearance, she will be surprised and honored at the same time; and will be more likely to open up as she sees now you are worthy, and like to do your research.

Don't be predictable- obviously there are plenty of fish in the sea- however they all tend to be the same species and have all the same habits. She wants something different, she has the wall up for a reason, she's afraid of being let down, and getting the typical stereotypes. Don't treat her like every other person does. Surprising her is best- with many ways; ways she didn't expect- you don't have to be a romantic, you just need to present new interesting things, that she didn't see coming; but will love; you don't have to know her to know what she does- so once you know what she does go from there.

Don't talk cheap- cheap talk is the kind that is all about you, what you make and how great you are in bed. It will be seen as badly exaggerated in her mind; and it's exasperating to her. This doesn't mean that you have to concentrate entirely on her- just don't bring work home, stop bringing up yourself every second- obviously you have intentions for yourself. Talk about intentions that will involve both of you; if you feel you are coming on too fast and she is getting afraid; then do it subtly with hints. Also don't apologize for suggesting the things you will- as long as they are in the boundaries (as in not abrupt sudden talk about sex); she will see it as a weakness, and you are merely pointing out your intentions, which is nothing to be ashamed of or sorry for.