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понедельник, 21 июля 2008 г.

Ensuring Your Safety With Online Dating Sites

The world is hardly a safe place to live in at the moment. With all sorts of violent crimes happening on a daily basis, the news is always full of rapes, fraud and attacks. This is hardly painting a great picture but you do hear of plenty of problems, especially as some of them are linked to online dating sites. However, not all online dating sites are unsafe, and you can help to protect yourself as well.

You should only ever use secure online dating sites. Those that offer assurances and are backed up by secure payment systems are always the best option. You can check this in the information given on the site itself as well as via the payment system. For example, the web address of the online dating site will be displayed as beginning with https:// rather than http://. There will also be a small lock appear in the frame of your browser. This ensures that your payment details will remain secure. In terms of your own personal details, good dating sites will ask you for your details in order to verify that you are in fact human but will also allow you to choose what you reveal and what you do not.

You can also guard your personal details when using online dating sites by following these suggestions:


  • Never reveal your phone number - This is a recipe for disaster and plenty of crank calls. The safest way to communicate when online dating is via the site itself or via email. Never give your number to someone until after you meet him or her for the first time.

  • Never reveal where you live - Again, this is a recipe for disaster. When you do arrange a date, both of you should make arrangements to get there yourself. As such, you have no need to reveal your home address until you get to know your date well.

  • Choose your picture very carefully - It should not reveal anything about you or your home. You should not feature any expensive personal possessions, the outside of your home, your car number plate or anything else that could make you a target. Online dating pictures may be seen by thousands so play it safe.

  • Never divulge your daily routine or a specific work location - Stalkers and potential attackers may well target people that they have found via online dating as a result of their workplace or places that are part of a daily routine (the gym for example). Do not reveal this information. Of course, this only happens in a minority of cases but the risk just is not worth it.

  • Always meet in a busy and public location - This is just basic offline and online dating safety. You do not know anything about your date when you meet them other than what they he or she has told you so just be careful. Your well being is the most important thing.

#1 Reason Relationships Don't Work Out

Everyone knows the statistics out there: 50% of marriages end in divorce, and of the ones that don't, a high percentage are miserable and unhappy, sucking the soul out of both partners. And that's the statistics for marriages, so what can be said for the success rate of all relationships in general? It's not a pleasant picture.

Every relationship is complex and has its unique characteristics and reasons for success and/or failure. When all is said and done, things can be so confusing, that both partners feel like they still love each other, but can't be together, but don't know why, and blame each other with vague reasons for why things didn't work out.

So why the hell do most relationships not work out??

As mentioned, there are many reasons both true and imagined about why each unique relationship failed. But when it all comes down to it, it boils down to the same thing:

People picked the wrong people to get involved in a relationship with in the first place.

Most relationships start because people are horny, or lonely, or tired and desperate or just finally found someone who they feel "comfortable" with and it's better to be with someone like that than alone. But that does not make for a recipe for relationship success.

The main reason people end up with the wrong person is that they don't have enough choice. They'll date around a bit and join up with the first or second decent person who comes along who fulfills a list of certain criteria and makes them feel good. But they don't really think long-term about whether this person has the same long term goals, ambitions and lifestyle as they do. People tend to get into relationships based on short term lust and short term needs satiation, rather than with a practical understanding of whether the two individuals are really compatible.

Of course, it's never really obvious if you will have a good relationship until you get to know someone over an extended period of time. The best advice is to date many people and take your time making a decision. You want a large pool of potential applicants to choose from and you want to choose wisely.

Maybe it sounds too practical and calculating, but really, with modern life, the only way to make a good choice is to have an abundance of choice.

Being Successful at Long Distance Dating

You have joined multiple dating sites and you have been a member for several months and you have finally found a person who matches your criteria very well and you have communicated with them enough to label yourself as being in a relationship.

Everything seems so perfect with the relationship from the way you met each other to how well you complement each other's life. However, the problem has not been resolved despite this realization because you are hundreds of miles apart from each other. So, how do you manage a relationship that crosses continents?

Being in a long distance relationship is not easy. You will have to sacrifice a great deal in terms of finances and physical longing. However, there are ways for you to handle this situation which you will find helpful in connecting with your beloved thousands of miles away.

Long distance relationships need you to cross obstacles, mainly the distance between both of you. Desire to actually meet the person who makes your heart beat a little bit faster will need you to travel to the place of your loved one. Undeniably, travel entails cost so you have to check if your budget allows you to do so. To save money, you should make a one way trip to the country where he/she lives. Consequently, more trips can be arranged if your budget supports it.

One way to maintain communication with your sweetheart several miles away is to have daily phone conversations, no matter how short one is. Today, there are various long-distance plans that you can avail of, allowing you to talk every single day.

If you have decided to pursue the long distance relationship you have created, you should keep the lines of communication open until one of you decide to move to either place to bring the relationship to the next level. And because making this decision can be very stressful, you must support each other through the whole process.

With long distance dating, feeling insecure is unavoidable. To deal with overwhelming insecurity, you have to trust the other person fully. And since communication is done via chat, email, and phone, your response should be immediate to assure the other person that you are committed.

There are also fun things you can do while dating long distance. One thing you can do is to have a candlelit dinner date over the internet or phone. This can be achieved by preparing dinner in each of your respective place of residence and talking over the phone or chatting through the internet while eating. By doing this, you are creating the anticipation of the first one-on-one candlelit dinner date.

Most importantly, with long distance dating, you have to build trust with a solid foundation because if not, the relationship can easily crumble and succumb to temptation. You should give assurance at the end of every conversation or message so both parties will know where things stand in the relationship.

First Date Tips - 4 Recommended First Date Tips and Activities

Breaking out of the usual date pattern to impress your date is a surefire way to long-term relationship building. No matter who your date is, the first date is usually an awkward occasion. Well, in order to stand out and really make an impression, it is really necessary to ditch the usual dating habits and methods, such as going for drinks at that noisy and rather overcrowded bar, trying to scream over the music.

If your first date occurs during the daytime, choose a coffee house which serves some great food as well. Depending on whether or not the date goes well, feel free to stay on for a meal and get little more personal.

Go on a nature or urban hike. The scenery will be something to really take in, and it provides your partner and yourself an opportunity to relax and appreciate the moment together. If the hike proves a success, you might want to grab some lunch down at the beach.

Go on a wine tasting tour. It is something that can really take the pressure off, and at the same time, both of you get to visit different wineries and taste the different beverages. This also helps to keep the conversation flowing well. All in all, this could be the most exciting date your partner has ever been on!

Always consider going on active dates. Some examples include working out together at high end gyms, attending aerobics classes, taking a romantic stroll in the park or even biking along a garden trail filled with pretty flowers. Active dates are sure to set the pulses racing and in the process, create a positive impression about you.

In conclusion, you don't really get to know someone like you would in a less crowded, and rather calm and intimate setting. I am sure these fun first date ideas are guaranteed to sweep your date off his/her feet.

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