Dating Dilemma - Should I Wait For Him to Call?

Here's a dating dilemma that one of my clients, Renee, found herself facing. She had attended a speed-dating event and when she received the "match" results, she was delighted because the man she liked had expressed interest in her! A few days later, he sent her very nice e-mail asking if she wanted to continue their conversation" Renee said yes, sent her number and mentioned she'd be away on vacation the next week. He said he'd try to reach her when she returned.

Well, she didn't hear from him and another week went by. Renee was in a quandary and not sure what to do. Should she wait to see if he contacts her? Should she assume "he's just not that into her?" Should she drop him a brief, but friendly e-mail saying she's back from vacation and wondering if he'd still like to get together?

One of Renee's girlfriends said she should be patient and wait. He has three young kids and things may be really busy. Two other friends thought she should go ahead and e-mail because "life is short." Then Renee asked what I would advise, as her dating coach.

The Dating Coach's Perspective
Normally I prefer that men take charge and reach out. Yes, he did that one time, but then didn't follow through. Who knows why - his reasons, however might not have nothing to do with Renee.

The Situation Analysis
For all we know one of his kids got sick, he met someone else, or he's working on his taxes . It's anyone's guess. I do feel however, that this is a sign - because you want a man who can follow through - who seeks you out and wants to date you. On the other hand, people do get busy and then after not calling, sometimes a guy feels too embarrassed to reconnect. Maybe he lost her number - oh no, sounds like I'm making excuses for him now - and that's not good.

The Advice
Renee liked him and hates to let this go. I understand. What the heck? Send him an email. Go for it! The last thing Renee wants is to wish she had emailed. That's a regret not worth creating.

Renee could say either "Hi, how are you? I'm back from vacation." Or if she can handle the possible rejection, suggest getting together to do one of the activities they have in common. But make the suggestion without a specific time - position it as an opportunity during the next week. There's really no big downside to either type of message.

The Fine Print
What I encourage women to AVOID is making the first move more than once because it could become a habit. Ultimately Renee (or any woman) could waste a lot of time and heart on a guy who's just curious or flattered by being pursued, but not that interested.

Sending a friendly nudge is not a bad thing to do, ONCE. Then see what the guy does. Does he pick up your lead? Does he call and follow through? Or does he do nothing or talk a lot without taking action? If he doesn't attempt to see you, then move on to someone else. It's a big world out there with plenty of fish. Don't get stuck on one lone "sole" when there's a whole school swimming by.

How to Get Your Ex Back - 3 Earth Shattering Tips Which Will Make Your Ex Crawl Back to You

A lot of people break up due to the emotion of the moment but later on a lot of people realize that a mistake was made. So what can be done under this situation? What if your ex has moved on? There are some sure shot ways using which you can easily get your ex back. Read on to discover what these tips and make your ex crawl back to you.........

Start talking to them- You see your ex might try to move on if you totally ignore them. It's always better to get in touch with them and remain in touch with them as much as possible. You should get in talking terms no matter what. You see it's often recommended to show up to a place where they would normally go as that would be more of a coincidence and you will get a chance to talk to them.

Start improving your personality- Another thing which you must do is to improve your personality and work on yourself. You see when your ex would witness this new change in you a new sense of interest would raise in their mind for you. They would get more and more anxious regarding and would be willing to know you again.

Make them jealous- Now this might be a dirty trick but sure does work in most cases. You should show up with a date where your ex would be normally found and let them see you being happy and having fun. You see humans have a strong tendency to want things which are out of their reach. Therefore when you show up in a happy mood with your new date your ex would completely burn and his/her emotions would make him/her want to crawl back to you again.

Secret Tips on How to Make Him Chase You - Dating Advice For Women

It's only natural that men chase women. They were bread to go after the chase; that's what they thrive upon when going after a women. On the other hand, women are pros at playing hard to get. Especially in the dating world, it's best not to look too eager to accepting a man's invitation to want to be with you. You want to ignite his burning desire to want to be with you.

Playing hard to get can be effective in getting a man to want to chase you, however there is the right way to do it and the wrong way to do it. If you make the chase worthwhile, you can be assured that the man is sincere about wanting to be with you.
 
When playing hard to get, you don't want to put up such a front that you look stuck up or that you think you are better than others. Some women make the mistake of putting on a look that will deter any man from wanting to talk to you. Or a woman will put their guard up in a way that doesn't allow themselves the ability to be open to a man long enough for him to see if he really does like her or not.
 
To play hard to get the right way, you don't want to make yourself too available to him. Don't return his calls right away and make it seem as though you have a lot of things going on in your life and are not just waiting at his beck and call. On the other hand, you want to show your true positive personality and sweet side when you are around him. Treat him nicely, but make it known that you are still not going to go out with him.
 
One mistake most women make is never letting their guard down. If you actually like the guy, set a date when you will actually give in to his advances. If you hold out too long, at one point, he may really think you are not interested and look for someone else to court.
 
If there is a man that you feel strong attraction to, make sure that you find the best way to know if he's interested in you the same. Play hard to get for a while. If he really likes you, he will chase you until you say yes. You'll know when it 's time to let your guard down.