Should I Make Him Wait For Sex?

If you are looking for a short fling, I would say go for it, as long as you won't mind never seeing him again! But if you find yourself really liking this guy, have dreamed about the perfect wedding with him more than once, and have come up with the names of your three children with him, there is one thing you must do before anything else: Make Him Wait for Sex.

This is not just a recommendation. It is something that has proved to dramatically improve the chance of making relationships work. Let me show you the three reasons why this is the case:

* How do you know he's not a player?

It is unfortunately the case that many men are just not ready for a relationship and won't be ready for many, many years. Although they know this, they will never tell you straight up from the beginning. Making him wait for sex will allow you to test his true intentions. The fact is that when a man is just looking for a fling, he won't spend too much effort. If you make it a bit difficult, he will move on to an easier target. For you, this is a good thing!

* "Hmm, does she do this a lot?"

Another disadvantage of sleeping with a man too soon is that he can't help but wonder if you do this with all the guys you meet. This is not a suspicion that you want to plant in your man's head early on.

* Give time for emotional bonding

A man doesn't consider a woman his girlfriend until he has emotionally bonded with her. Emotional bonding only comes through spending a lot of time with each other ... outside of the bedroom. When you join him for a camping trip or watch his favorite sports team play with him, that is emotional bonding. When you sit and listen to the sad story of how he lost his cat at age 5, that is emotional bonding.

Give yourself and your guy some time to form an emotional bond and make it known to him that you are selective, and the relationship will be much more likely to work!

Women Don't Like Needy Men

Sometimes you'll feel like you're right on track. You can sense there's some chemistry going on there. Perhaps people tell you that you're both flirting a lot with each other. You brush it off and go 'Nah', but you know deep down that you want this girl more than anything else going on in your life right now. So far, everything is fairly casual and it looks like it's going pretty good.

You call her up and ask her if you she wants to meet up for a drink on Tuesday, she tells you she's busy, you go, "Ohhhh, really?" Then you ask, "How about Wednesday?" You finally manage to get her out. Because there's been some resistance you begin to feel a little self conscious and awkward. You start to laugh at inappropriate times to break the tension. She looks away and tries to divert the attention away to what drink she's going to have, which of course you will jump at the chance to buy for her (in an attempt to gain her approval). The more you feel her slip away from you, the more you want her and the more you do to try and keep her. Every day you see her, you become more and more needy, and in her eyes, less and less attractive.

If you come across as needy to any woman then you've instantly destroyed any attraction that you may have built up. You will come across to her as a wussy wimpy child man who is weak and desperate. Research by psychologists at Harvard University showed how women are far more alert to body language than men; with women reading nonverbal signals twice as effectively. Believe it or not but you can also communicate 'neediness' on a nonverbal level too. Ever notice yourself leaning forward trying to engage her? You turning to face her while her legs are crossed and diverting her attention away from you? I'll just say now, don't do that, relax, lean back and try to communicate that you don't need her. Don't laugh awkwardly just to try and break the tension. Don't try and chase her up to go out for a drink. Don't offer to buy all her drinks.

Instead you want to focus on being an assertive alpha male. You want to be cool, calm and collected. Be interesting, mysterious and unpredictable.

Surviving Long Distance Relationships

There are many couples who are physically separated by huge distance. However, because their love for each other is strong, they still try to make it work. Long distance relationships are difficult to maintain. This is the reason why many of them fail. If you are in the same kind of situation, here are some tips on ow to survive long distance relationships. Both parties should really want to make things work. This means commitment from both of you. If you can't fully commit, then don't bother.

Communication is the key to make a long distance relationship work. Even a simple "I LUV U" in text message is enough. Or you can call using Skype or those kinds of services, or send emails or even letters. As long as you let your boyfriend or girlfriend knows that you are thinking of him/her even though your miles apart.

Try to see each other as much as possible. If the distance is not so far, try to see each other every week. Or every month. Set a date for your meeting and do not cancel.

Make your date special so that it is something that your partner is looking forward to. Plan a trip somewhere really nice and enjoy the day with each other's company.

Technology is something that people in long distance relationships should be thankful for. While chatting or calling each other using the internet, use a webcam so that you can at least see each other.

Most importantly, trust each other. Nothing could ruin a relationship than a couple not trusting each other. If you can't trust somebody you can't see, then don't continue with the relationship.

Surviving Long Distance Relationships

There are many couples who are physically separated by huge distance. However, because their love for each other is strong, they still try to make it work. Long distance relationships are difficult to maintain. This is the reason why many of them fail. If you are in the same kind of situation, here are some tips on ow to survive long distance relationships. Both parties should really want to make things work. This means commitment from both of you. If you can't fully commit, then don't bother.

Communication is the key to make a long distance relationship work. Even a simple "I LUV U" in text message is enough. Or you can call using Skype or those kinds of services, or send emails or even letters. As long as you let your boyfriend or girlfriend knows that you are thinking of him/her even though your miles apart.

Try to see each other as much as possible. If the distance is not so far, try to see each other every week. Or every month. Set a date for your meeting and do not cancel.

Make your date special so that it is something that your partner is looking forward to. Plan a trip somewhere really nice and enjoy the day with each other's company.

Technology is something that people in long distance relationships should be thankful for. While chatting or calling each other using the internet, use a webcam so that you can at least see each other.

Most importantly, trust each other. Nothing could ruin a relationship than a couple not trusting each other. If you can't trust somebody you can't see, then don't continue with the relationship.

Pick Up Women - How to Pick the Right Women to Date

When you are dating a woman, think the opposite of most people. Always think about the best that can happen in a dating relationship and not the worst. Negative, pessimistic people never win. They are always looking for excuses and blaming others for their failures, problems, and frustrations in life. You be a good finder and look for what's good in every new encounter that you are faced with in dating a woman. With the end result, most of the time, you will be the one to come out on top, smelling like a rose.

Now, after a period of time, you've made the effort to develop a relationship with a particular woman. You are sensing that your views and outlook in life are just too different. This has caused pretty much a conflict of interest. You feel that no matter what you do, or how hard you try, you just are not going to be compatible. Then it might be time for you to make a decision. Either you deal with it and try to make it work, or you cut bait, go back into the world, and meet someone new.

Here is a problem that so many men and women are faced with in dating. They seem to be attracted to the same person over and over again. The names might be different and the faces might be different, but if you turned out the lights, you could not tell one person apart from the other.

Internally both men and women are attracting people with the same bad habits, hang-ups and other problems that made them breakup with their boyfriends and girlfriends to begin with. People who are in these situations are suffering from some serious, chronic psychological problems that most likely revert back to parental upbringing.

In order to change their thinking, these issues need to be addressed by a professional. Of course the majority of people out there will never seek any kind of professional help. To begin with, they are, for the most part, in denial of their social problems. You do not want to put yourself in this type of situation.

Sometimes we make mistakes in the way of choices. And sometimes, if a relationship gets stale, we have to move on. But don't try to date carbon copies of whomever you just broke up with and assume that you are going to have a better dating relationship with someone new. You will be disappointed, and before you know it, you are going from woman to woman, looking for the rest of your life for something that doesn't exist. Stop, take a deep breath, and think before you leap from the frying pan into the fire. If you meet a good woman, then use good judgment. Have enough common sense to hold on to her, and stick with her through thick and thin.

Another problem, with a lot of men in general, is that they are going from one woman to another. They don't have a clue as to what they want and need or what they are really looking for in a woman. There are women who do the same thing with men.

You are different because you already know what you want, and that is the cream of the crop, who's the belle of the ball. You need to have the attitude that the more unapproachable a woman is, the more you want to find a way to meet and date her. The tough catches and the most challenging women around are the most rewarding in the end. The more of a determined fearless champion you are, the more likely you are to meet and date that impossible beauty queen. Also you are going to feel better about yourself as a man who knows how to win.

There is no real easy way of dating a woman. Make sure that she is receptive towards you before you invest your feelings and emotions on her and shower her with gifts, flowers and candies. If she expresses any disinterest in you at all, then your best bet is to move on to someone else. Sometimes there is a very thin line between someone who is interested in you and someone who is not.

Any dissatisfaction on her part, especially after you've treated her with kindness and respect, is a good indicator not to hang in there with her. Keep your eyes and ears open at all times looking for signals as to whether or not she's interested in you. If she's receptive, after all you've done in making a gallant effort to show her a good time, and you feel the same way about her, then you are in the ballgame to win her heart.

Get Out of the Friend Zone With the "Outcome Independence" Technique

So you think that you actually have a shot at getting out of the friend zone with a particular woman. Before you do anything, you need to ask yourself the following questions:

- Do you ignore the possibilities you have with other women because you're "saving yourself for her"?

- Do you call her on the phone and feel rejected if she can't talk or doesn't pick up the phone?

- Do you make plans with her and make a fuss if she cancels on you?

If that's the case, then you are what I would call "attached to the outcome." Obviously, you are after one goal, and that is to get out of the friend zone ASAP. But because you are so attached to the possibility of making her your girlfriend, any other outcome deals a severe blow to you and you lose all forms of composure.

Do you know what outcome dependence smells like? It smells an awful lot like DESPERATION. You need to stop it RIGHT NOW, because it is a main reason that's killing your chances of getting out of the friend zone.

Desperate people are not attractive, and repel other people away. And since women have an amazing ability to read people (they didn't call it "woman's intuition" for nothing) you best believe that she can sense your desperation a mile away.

How Would You Go About Doing This?

One of the most effective ways to kill your desperation is to open yourself up to the possibilities of dating other women. It's okay to like her and want to turn her into your girlfriend, but you can't watch life pass you by while waiting around for that to happen.

Be aware that many women intentionally stand up guys to send them a message, so send a message back. Stand up for yourself and let her know you don't appreciate getting stood up, but play it cool and don't make a fuss. Tell her that she's going to have to make up for it, and don't say anything more about the matter.

Once you develop a certain independence to the outcome, a funny thing will happen -- the situation will actually turn around and she'll start chasing you. Give it a shot today; you'll be amazed at the positive results you'll see.

Dating Tips For Single Women - 7 Tips in Preparing Yourself and Where to Go to Find Single Men

Here are the 7 tips on preparing yourself and where to go to find single men who are wealthy.

1. First, purchase or borrow an evening dress or gown that you can wear multiple times. Usually, a full length black dress with an exposed back will do. Single men will take notice to this.

2. Next, make sure your shoes match the dress and you have a necklace, preferably pearls.

3. You will need a small black purse that you can hold in your hand or with a long chain to carry on your shoulder. The chain must also match your dress and the texture of the purse must match.

4. Only keep in your purse your drivers license, credit card, cash and lipstick. If you have business cards, take a handful. And don't forget a small, elegant pen. Why the pen...to write your cell phone or your newly met single men phone numbers down.

5. Very important is to make sure your undergarments are not visible and in most cases, the elegant dress or gown will be worn with a strapless bra, or even without a bra.

6. Now, you are ready to find single men who are wealthy. That's right, the best venues for finding single men who are wealthy is to attend several black tie charity events.

7. You can locate these events by performing a Google search, "black tie charity events." Usually the tickets are expensive, even though they are tax deductible. If you can't afford the ticket or don't want to spend the money, I suggest you volunteer and get on their list. This way, you can attend multiple events as a volunteer and be exposed and meet and greet all those single men who are wealthy that pay the big bucks to attend.

Ladies, make sure to market yourself to the proper venue. Some charity events are attended by as an example, 1,000 young professionals, featuring an open bar, light dinner, dancing and an opportunity for attendees to try their luck at various games and activities.

Ticket prices range from a low of $150 to a high of $25,000. Pick and choose your target market wisely.

That's it for now. My suggestion is wear the proper attire and attend one of these events and email me back and tell me how your first black tie charity event went.

Get Out of the Friend Zone With the "Outcome Independence" Technique

So you think that you actually have a shot at getting out of the friend zone with a particular woman. Before you do anything, you need to ask yourself the following questions:

- Do you ignore the possibilities you have with other women because you're "saving yourself for her"?

- Do you call her on the phone and feel rejected if she can't talk or doesn't pick up the phone?

- Do you make plans with her and make a fuss if she cancels on you?

If that's the case, then you are what I would call "attached to the outcome." Obviously, you are after one goal, and that is to get out of the friend zone ASAP. But because you are so attached to the possibility of making her your girlfriend, any other outcome deals a severe blow to you and you lose all forms of composure.

Do you know what outcome dependence smells like? It smells an awful lot like DESPERATION. You need to stop it RIGHT NOW, because it is a main reason that's killing your chances of getting out of the friend zone.

Desperate people are not attractive, and repel other people away. And since women have an amazing ability to read people (they didn't call it "woman's intuition" for nothing) you best believe that she can sense your desperation a mile away.

How Would You Go About Doing This?

One of the most effective ways to kill your desperation is to open yourself up to the possibilities of dating other women. It's okay to like her and want to turn her into your girlfriend, but you can't watch life pass you by while waiting around for that to happen.

Be aware that many women intentionally stand up guys to send them a message, so send a message back. Stand up for yourself and let her know you don't appreciate getting stood up, but play it cool and don't make a fuss. Tell her that she's going to have to make up for it, and don't say anything more about the matter.

Once you develop a certain independence to the outcome, a funny thing will happen -- the situation will actually turn around and she'll start chasing you. Give it a shot today; you'll be amazed at the positive results you'll see.

Dating Tips For Single Women - 7 Tips in Preparing Yourself and Where to Go to Find Single Men

Here are the 7 tips on preparing yourself and where to go to find single men who are wealthy.

1. First, purchase or borrow an evening dress or gown that you can wear multiple times. Usually, a full length black dress with an exposed back will do. Single men will take notice to this.

2. Next, make sure your shoes match the dress and you have a necklace, preferably pearls.

3. You will need a small black purse that you can hold in your hand or with a long chain to carry on your shoulder. The chain must also match your dress and the texture of the purse must match.

4. Only keep in your purse your drivers license, credit card, cash and lipstick. If you have business cards, take a handful. And don't forget a small, elegant pen. Why the pen...to write your cell phone or your newly met single men phone numbers down.

5. Very important is to make sure your undergarments are not visible and in most cases, the elegant dress or gown will be worn with a strapless bra, or even without a bra.

6. Now, you are ready to find single men who are wealthy. That's right, the best venues for finding single men who are wealthy is to attend several black tie charity events.

7. You can locate these events by performing a Google search, "black tie charity events." Usually the tickets are expensive, even though they are tax deductible. If you can't afford the ticket or don't want to spend the money, I suggest you volunteer and get on their list. This way, you can attend multiple events as a volunteer and be exposed and meet and greet all those single men who are wealthy that pay the big bucks to attend.

Ladies, make sure to market yourself to the proper venue. Some charity events are attended by as an example, 1,000 young professionals, featuring an open bar, light dinner, dancing and an opportunity for attendees to try their luck at various games and activities.

Ticket prices range from a low of $150 to a high of $25,000. Pick and choose your target market wisely.

That's it for now. My suggestion is wear the proper attire and attend one of these events and email me back and tell me how your first black tie charity event went.

Let's Get Personal

Who doesn't want that perfect relationship? We all strive for it, but we don't all end up with it. We search, endlessly, using all types of methods trying to meet our perfect mate (soul mate to those who prefer it). Going clubbing, to bars, partying, meeting people at strange places, well, that's not for everyone. And that's where personal ads can help.

Personal ads are a short, sweet compilation of a person and then another short message of what that person is interested in. It's a simple, effective way to find exactly what you're looking for.

Sometimes however, a place to put or search for personals can be difficult to find. The newspaper is the medium of the past and is slowly becoming extinct. What's the wave of the future? The online personals have become an increasingly popular answer. No longer do you have to run in the local paper to get noticed, not with the internet around!

So, what are some types of personal ads you can post online? Well, the types are the same as anywhere else, but here's a breakdown of a few you might encounter (or might want to utilize).

Married Personal Ads

A married personal ad is exactly what its name implies: either a married person who is looking for someone, or someone looking for a married person. No one need know about the details of searching for such ads beyond the knowledge that they are there to be searched.

Adult Personal Ads

Perhaps the personal being looked for is something more of an Adult nature, if you get my drift (an adult personal ad for those who can't catch a drift). No problem! You can find that, too.

Christian Personal Ads

And what online personal ad would be complete without a Christian personal ad? It goes without saying that there are a lot of religious people in the world, many of them Christian. So, it's reasonable to assume that, sometimes, they'll want to find other Christians in the world. It only makes sense, and that's why it's there.

Luckily, there are many places online that offer the advantage of posting free personals. In other words, no monetary donation will be required to start posting about yourself. And a vast majority of the time, no money will be necessary to browse through the personals of whoever you may be searching for too.

We can all safely say that we love us some personal ads. And we love them more when they're free (who wouldn't). The range and diversity is boundless, and the sheer number of people you can find (because it's the internet) is astronomical. At times, you aren't even restricted to searching in the city you live in, if that's what you want to do.

Personals are a personal thing, and that remains true, even on the internet. The convenience has changed a bit, and that's what makes online personals so appealing. And I can safely say myself that, personally, I prefer the internet.