Keep the Control When Your Dating

One of the Key Ideas that men need to grasp when it comes to attracting women is that we are actually very good at losing them. One fact is that most of us are already very good at losing women.

The Fact is that we as men actually have the Power to begin with. We have the power in the relationship because women will inherently give away there power and become submissive in most areas.

So why is it then that we are so good at losing Women and why do we fail all the time at dating women even though we are trying to dam hard? Well one of the reasons is exactly that, we are trying to hard but I will get to that a little later. Guys, we need to hold to the position of power in the relationship.

This is so important because you will gain so much respect from the women you are after which as I always say is what your after. So then why are we so good at giving away the power that we had to begin with? Well most of us didn't no we had it to begin with.

I agree that it is daunting thinking that you have the dominant position in the relationship before you even begin. Unfortunately you probably hold this position up until you say your first word to her.

Then she realises you weren't as confident as she had hoped. The decision that she has already made however is not a conscious one so you are not to judge her for it. Attraction is largely BIOLOGICAL and for most very hard to understand. But the main thing to remember is that you need to come across as confident and in control of the situation as possible.

Don't give away the power that you already have by asking here to order or make the decisions of the date. That is actually turning her off you quicker than you can imagine.

All this talk of women wanting power in the relationship therefore becomes awfully confusing for a man who naturally thinks that he should play the dominant role. Women want respect from men that is completely understandable but many men are confusing this with giving away the decision making.

It is important that you understand that these are completely different aspects to dating and once you understand how to utilise them in the real world you will be greatly rewarded for it.

Because the hardest thing is to gain respect from the your date while keeping the upper hand as far as control.

Women crave this control and it is actually a delicate balance between going to far and becoming the complete controller of every situation or stepping right back and being to submissive. You will find most of the guys who are successful with women have mastered this game of power balance and most say it slightly towards the side of being to dominant.

Once again I will say that this is NOT a situation where you should stop respecting your date because this obviously a huge turn off.

So guys another step towards dating success is to keep the upper hand in the relationship and you should be on your way to impressing your women and making sure you will get that second date.

5 Reasons Why Your Weight Could Be Affecting Your Love Life

1. When most men think of their ideal woman, they often have images of women who are healthy and in good shape. Does it mean that you will never find a man that loves big beautiful women? Of course not. There is a man for every woman, but it becomes more difficult for men to become attracted to you when all they see is your weight.

2. Most men want beautiful women in their arms. As we all know, the American culture defines a beautiful woman as one that is a size six with a slender build, beautiful skin and long flowing hair. If for some reason you do not fit this mold, most men do not want to take the chance to get to know you.

3. Since men are by nature visual creatures, they tend to quickly assess a woman 's value (which is definitely wrong), based on her beauty. Since it is nearly impossible for a man to get that opportunity to get to know your inner-self due to the problems they may be having getting over the fact that you have gained weight.

4. Men tend to passively seek the approval of their friends when it comes to the women they date or want to marry. They typically want their friends to think that the girl they are with is "hot". And if for some reason you have put on a few pounds a lot of men will have difficulties going beyond what they see to get to know you.

5. Men in general are attracted to women who look good in their clothes. So if your weight gain has made it tough for you to fit into the fashionable clothes men drool over, then your love life is bound to be affected.

So if you want to attract a lot of men or keep the attention of the one you have, it is important that you make the time to keep fit on a daily basis. Set a goal to lose weight gradually. No matter what, it is important that you understand that a lot o men will fall in love with you just the way you are, but you will have to work harder to project your personality more so that men do not judge you solely on the weight you have gained.

Romantic Ideas For Your Fun and Pleasure

How To Be Romantic
Warning! The ideas I will share in this article are mostly intended to guys who are already in a relationship. If you're picking up women, I'm a proponent of not revealing too much of your romantic side. Why? Because being romantic is not enough to get you a girl. Triggering attraction and being seductive does.

If you've been in a relationship for quite some time, you might want to bring some romance to revitalize it.

Romanticism has this "magical" side to it. It will not go as far as transforming an ordinary relationship into a fairytale but it can add some fantasy, wonder and charm. And being romantic is sometimes necessary to show your lover that you actually care about her.

As a rule of thumb, showing your romantic side is mostly effective when your partner does not expect it. You must be able to surprise her. It means that you do not wait for Valentine's Day or for her anniversary to show you romantic side. Express it at any given moment. Spontaneity is key.

Below are two of my favourite ideas.

Dinner by candlelight
Classic. But it never gets outdated.

Choose a quiet place - preferably one she doesn't know with a sifted light where you won't be disturbed (don't forget to turn your mobile off!). There's no romantic dinner without candles. At some point, put a letter under her plate that says something special about your relationship.

You want to have something for the five senses. Not only do you want to have some tasty food, you also want the place to look good - you want to look good! The place should have soothing and relaxing music in the background. Put on a light fragrance. And last but not least, touch your lover lightly from time to time.

Better still, do it at home. Put on romantic tunes from your own collection. And for those who may wonder... indeed that would be a dinner you would have prepared yourself and not the traitor.

The perfumed bath
If you have access to a bath, what more romantic than a shared bath. Simply add in water some perfumed oils and bath salts. You can also make bath foam. Candles and a glass of champagne may complete this perfect romantic picture.

Some more ideas
While she's not there, put on rose petals in her bedroom, and a chocolate box under her pillow...

Watch a romantic movie: I suggest not going for obvious or classic movies such as Casablanca or Titanic. I especially like Before Sunrise and Before Sunset with Julie Delpy and Ethan Hawke. It begins with a young man meeting a woman on a train in Europe, and winding up spending one romantic evening together in Vienna...

Take her dancing. And no, taking her to a rave party is not romantic. Go for a dancing session where you can dance eye to eye. Salsa or tango will do.

Try the theatre. And as for with the movies, I suggest not going for some big production but rather for some youth or amateur play.

Just changing environment can be romantic. Take her out of town, maybe stay in a nice hotel and go for a walk in the neighbourhood or even milking cows in a farm.

And if you're lucky to reside near the coast, go to a quiet beach on a nice evening, build a fire and have a picnic.

That's it. Have fun with those ideas.

And don't forget romance is meant to be use as pepper, something to do once, at most twice a month! Over used it and you'll suffer.

Dating Tips

Starting a conversation sounds simple enough, but it can be the most difficult part of a date because you want to make a good first impression. You can't just wait for the man or woman of your desires to talk to you because it may never happen. So you must make the first move whether you are male or female. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Here are some fun opening lines you might want to try.

OPENING LINES
- I'm really kind of shy, but I saw you and knew I had to get over myself and meet you.
- Excuse me, can you tell me the best way to meet someone like you?
- I'm tired of people wanting me for my brain and not my body. Can you help me?
- Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend with a Mustang? (name your car) Well, you do now.
- Can I buy you breakfast in the morning?
- I think I should be committed to an insane asylum 'cause you drive me crazy.
- Hi, my name is Chance. Do I have one?
- Do you know CPR? I hope so because you're so beautiful I'm having a heart attack.
- You smell really good. What scent are you wearing?
- I just wanted to come over and introduce myself, because I have the feeling that I'll see you again.
- I was looking in the dictionary, and there isn't a word that fully describes your beauty.
- Do you believe in love at first sight, or do I have to walk by you again?
- Beauty like yours is like a ghost, many have heard about it, but few have actually seen it.
- I'm going to Hawaii on vacation next month. How about joining me and making it a honeymoon?
- Do you mind if I sit down? When I saw you I went weak in the knees.
- You look like someone I should know.
- I've lost my phone number, can I borrow yours?
- I just had new shocks put on my car. Care to help me test them?
- Hi, I'm Mr. Right. Someone said you were looking for me.
- If good looks were against the law you'd be arrested, booked, and jailed for life.
- Weren't you in the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue?
- Didn't I see you on the cover of GQ magazine?
- I finally met a girl I can take home to mom. So what are you doing Sunday?
- The world is coming to an end. Have dinner with me.
- My dog would like to meet your dog, but she's very shy.
- I'm doing a poll on where single people like to go. Can you help me?
- You look familiar. Did we meet at Club Med last year?
- Hi, can we pretend that I used some line that worked really well and move on to the next stage?
- You look like the kind of person I would really like to get to know better.
- Can I have your autograph? I'm your biggest fan
Remember to say something. Anything is better than nothing! Start by commenting on the other person or the environment, then sustain the conversation by asking questions and close by getting their number.

FIRST DATE CAUTION
Caution is essential on a first date, especially if you got your date through the personals. It's a good idea to take your own car - you can leave whenever you want and stay only as long as you want.A lot of date rapes are induced by drugs and alcohol, so the obvious steps to take are to be very careful not to drink too much or accept any kind of pills from anyone accept your doctor.
If you have had a previous abusive relationship, do not confide in a new date. By letting them know that you allowed someone to abuse you, you are in essence telling them that they can do the same thing and they won't respect you as much. Trust is something that has to be earned so don't trust everyone you come in contact with because they might just use your weaknesses against you.

A MEMORABLE KISS
- Build anticipation by kissing all around your lover's face.
- Trace the outline of your lover's lips with the tip of your tongue.
- Begin your kiss slowly and gently with emotion and sensitivity.
- Kiss without using your tongue, slightly open mouthed, with sweet breath.
- Take your lover's bottom lip between the two of yours and suck gently.
- While kissing, lick you lover's teeth with your tongue.
- To increase sexual excitement, make your kiss wet.
- Wrap you're your lips around your lover's tongue and suck passionately.
- Follow your lover's kissing techniques and emulate them.
- Use hot or cold liquids to create erotic sensations.

THE BEST WAY TO SET THE MOOD FOR LOVE - Stimulate all five senses:
- Hearing - music and love-talk before, during, and after.
- Smell - flowers, incense, and favorite perfume or cologne.
- Sight - pretend someone special is going to be staying in your bedroom, add ornaments and candles, (a candle can turn a plain room into a romantic one).
- Touch - oils, lotions, powder, satin sheets, and lingerie.
- Taste - order in a gourmet dinner or buy favorite snacks and drinks (never make love on an empty stomach)

- Don't answer the phone or pager.
- If you have children, tell them mom and dad need to have their private play time.
- Turn the TV off.

WOMEN NEED TO BE PREPARED FOR LOVE
- Men should learn to undress a woman slowly and appreciate every part of her skin before making love to her. Every man should be able to remove a woman's bra with one hand in the dark.
- Bubble baths are so romantic if only men would try them.
- Phone calls during the day to prepare your lover for the evening's events are very effective.
- Bring home little trinkets for no special reason. A single flower or some chocolates will let her know that you were thinking about her.

SLOWER IS BETTER
- Every man should learn to give his lover a sensual massage.
- Take time to discover her erogenous zones from her toes to the top of her head and ask her to rate your caresses and kisses from 1 to 10.
- Use ice, whipped cream, or strawberry jam for foreplay.
- Build sexual anticipation and always wait to have your orgasm last.

LET YOUR LOVER KNOW HE/SHE'S MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE
- Make them breakfast in bed.
- Write love letters.
- Ask for his/her wish list.
- Give lots of compliments.
- Go on romantic walks.
- Surprise him/her with a picnic.
- Always kiss goodbye and give a big welcome home.
- Kiss at unexpected times in unexpected places.
- Tell him/her what you love about them the most.
- Phone in the middle of the day just because.
- Take him/her on a fantasy date once a week.
- Record a message of love and leave it where it can be found.

SEX TIPS
- Always urinate after sex to prevent infections.
- Don't say -I love you- during sex unless you mean it.
- To intensify your orgasms, change your regular sex position.
- Gargle with mouthwash before oral sex. It provides a tingling sensation for your lover.
- Never compare penis or breast size with your lover. It reminds them that you're thinking of another lover.
- Discuss sexual fears as well as pleasures with your lover.
- Use a lubricant before you need it, to prevent soreness.
- Arouse your lover by licking their eyelids.
- Always use water-based lubricants. (Oil or petroleum-based ones can destroy latex)
- Try latex gloves for finger penetration, especially if you have cuts or abrasions. (gloves will offer a new form of stimulation)
- Don't forget to put a condom on a sex toy that will be used by more than one person.
- Change condoms when going from the anus to the vagina.
- Don't leave a hickey high on your lover's neck, or some other noticeable place, unless they ask you to.
- Don't place anything used for anal play into a woman's vagina before cleaning it thoroughly, including your finger.
- Never discuss past lovers with your current partner, unless they ask you to.
- Never let someone tie you up unless you know them well and trust them.
- Never criticize your lover's mother.
- Never leave the wet spot on your lover's side.
- Don't take it personally if your lover doesn't climax every time.
- Never talk about your daily problems during love-making.
- Don't send flowers and think everything is OK without communicating with your lover.
- Never seal your mouth over a woman's vagina and blow air into it when she's pregnant. It could cause an air embolism and be fatal.
- Don't argue, insult or criticize your lover in front of friends, family, or in public.
- Be careful about placing food inside a woman's vagina, especially sugary foods. They can cause infections.
- Don't use nylon stockings to tie up your lover because they are difficult to untie.
- Keep your eyes open during love-making and watch your lovers face for a different sensation.
- Never argue with your lover before you go to sleep.
- Don't forget to cuddle after sex.
- Lack of sexual desire is mainly caused by stress and overworking.
- Don't forget to return your lover's phone calls without delay; it shows you care