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среда, 21 января 2009 г.

How to Make Her Yours

So, you have a girl already in mind and you want to make her yours?

You see her all of the time and she is so beautiful, but she would look even more beautiful if she was with you. Do you think you can really do this? Do you really think you can have her wanting to spend all of her time with you?

Of course this is possible. Look, even ugly guys with no money have attracted some pretty hot girls. Number one thing to do is to ask yourself if you really do think it is possible. Confidence is one of the most important things that you can possess if you really want to enjoy some success with the girl you have your eye one.

Also, you have to be open to the idea of being different. Not different than who you are, but different from all of the other guys that may be after her as well. You see, they will all be running the same kind of game on her. And after awhile, this kind of game will have no effect on her because she is already used to it.

You have to be willing and able to show her a side of you that is fun and stands out from the rest of the guys that she has been with. She has to really want to be with you anytime that she wants to go out and have a good time. So, you have to become that guy that she knows will give her a fun time.

Learning how to attract the girl you want does not have to be as hard as you think it is. Learn the real way to attract her and anything else that you want in your life and you can become the kind of guy that other guys wish they were!

Should You Romance a Woman on Dates?

Here's a familiar story...

Boy meets girl

Boy gets girl's number

Boy calls up girl and sets up the first date.

Boy shows up on girl's doorstep with flowers (or a fancy gift), brings her to an expensive restaurant and talks about how he REALLY likes her.

Girl quickly ends the date and doesn't answer any of his follow-up phone calls.

This is familiar because it's something that almost every guy has done at some point in his dating life.

The truth is we've all been PROGRAMMED to behave this way. In your average romantic movie, the male character wins over a girl's affection by professing his undying love. And if you've ever watched one of these movies with a girl, you'll see how emotional and choked up she gets.

So naturally, it seems logical to think that romantic gestures on your first couple of dates are the best way to attract her interest.

My question is- Should you be romantic when you first meet a woman?

The short answer is NO. And here's the reason why...

Men and women approach dating in different ways. We guys pretty much know we like a girl before the date begins. If she's attractive and seems interesting, we're already hooked.

For us, the first couple of dates is the time where we're obsessed with proving ourselves (and maybe get a little action)! And the one way that's been proven to work is to do the "romantic" gestures we see "working" in Hollywood movies.

Women on the other hand, view dating as a way to "qualify" a guy. Sure she might be interested, but in truth she's also subconsciously looking for the specific qualities which can ELIMINATE a guy as a potential dating partner.

ONE wrong move and you'll get the "Let's Just Be Friends" speech!

So when you come on too strong with the romantic gestures, you show that you really don't care about who she is as a person. Instead you're giving away your power and showing that you're already into her before she's even proven herself.

A woman wants to feel like she's EARNED a guy's interest. And not solely because of her looks. While she's still trying to figure him out, he's already demonstrating his interest.

So what do women want from men?

The answer is all girls are looking for one primary thing:

SEXUAL ATTRACTION

Sexual attraction is that feeling she gets when she's with a guy who resonates in the EMOTIONAL side of her mind.

You can't create this feeling by buying her gifts or being romantic. These actions only speak to the LOGICAL side of her mind.

To create sexual attraction, you have to demonstrate the qualities of someone who makes a woman feel excited and stimulated. For instance, the qualities include

• Challenging her actions and statements
• Using humor to tease and banter
• Showing a spontaneous attitude
• Demonstrating a high level of confidence
• Being trustworthy with a little bit of danger
• Showing independence in your life
• Making her feel important

Now the last quality can be a little confusing.

Most guys act romantic because they THINK they're trying to make her feel important.
This is wrong because at first she's done nothing to prove herself.

With that being said, you want to show you're interested & make her feel important as you're getting to know her. So while you should never show up on your first couple of dates with an armful of roses, you should show your interest IF she's passing your tests and meets your standards.

In other words, if you're having a great time and she meets the qualities that you're looking for, then you can start showing that she's earning your approval.

Finally, I want to emphasize one important thing...

You ALWAYS want to want to be a gentleman (ie: Opening the door, leading her with your body language, and paying for the first date). But at the same time, you want to also tease and create the sexual tension that's necessary for attraction.

So ditch the romantic gestures on your first couple of dates, act like a gentleman and use this time to find out if she's right for you!

How to Initiate Romance With a Stranger You Admire

What would you do if you stepped outside right now saw the man/woman of your dreams?

Would freeze with fear? Or pretend you didn't notice, because s/he might reject you?

Have a contact strategy. Rehearse in your mind any such situation and image several possible ways of making contact.

Why?

You may never get a second opportunity to make a first contact. This contact may or may not lead to other possibilities but you can never know unless you try. Even if this does not turn out to be partner, you can be sure that s/he has a network of other males friend that you can possibly access.

Why practice?

Meeting some who kindle attraction in you can stall your normal routine behaviour and make you look and behave awkward. This does nothing for your image. If you practice constantly like an actor, your subconscious mind will take over and you will not have to stand there trying to think of what to say. What you visualized will kick in.

What to do?

Use the 7 by 3 rule

Any possible suitor who gets between 7 yards of you, make contact within 3 seconds of seeing them. The longer you wait the more your mind will interfere and cripple you with fear. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

Simple ways to make contact

- Smile.

- Greeting "Good morning/evening/afternoon, how are you?"

- Or a simple "Hi"

What are some of the things you can say?

The greatest line there is in the world is "Hi?" with a smile and possibly followed by "how are you?" You can even add, "My name is ______, what's your name?" - Quickly followed by, any number of general statement about yourself and a question e.g. "Can I ask your opinion on something. May you will be able to help me. My friend and I have been debating why girls tend to jerks. As a woman what do you think?"

If he is from out of town give him some info about the best places to visit. What is even better is to invite him to a fun session you and your friend are having. If you don't have one create one and make if happen.

Make the conversation short and concise. After initial banter, simply indicate that s/he seems like an interesting person and it was good meeting him, and you hope to bounce into him/her again, because s/he seems like someone who you like to get to know.

At this point don't worry about collecting phone number or any such thing. Just make a courteous exit. This will indicate that you are not a desperate pushy person. It will also say that you are confident and willing to build organic rapport.

If you find it very difficult to talk to stranger you admire at first, start by talking to children and the elderly. Once your confidence is established you will be very surprised at how easy it will be to talk to potential suitors.

Men Who Are Too Forward - 6 Ways to Stop a Man Who Wants to Be Physically Intimate With You Too Soon

6 ways to stop a man who wants to be physically intimate with you too soon! "He is too forward," Christine's mouth twisted in disgust. "Just image, I just met him and he wants to touch me up. What does he think I am - a tramp?" Her indignation was beginning to grow into mixture of anger and embarrassment. Another girl told me how utterly despicable this guy was because all he seem to want to do is have sex and they had just only met. She crossed him off immediately. Should you reject a man because he makes sexual advances on you before getting to know you properly? Well this is what Christine (and most women) did. Do you agree? Well on the surface of things she is probably right.

However let's drill down some more. After much studied thought I am slowly coming to the conclusion that a lot of women are missing out on having a great relationship and a good man because of something that can be fixed. First let me say that most men in one way shape or form entertain a remote idea of what it would be like to have sex with you. Most men - thank goodness - manage this thought and feelings. They don't let you know that, because they realize that you may be offended like my client. By the way if you are attracted to the man you will think likewise but you won't show this because you don't want to appear like a common prostitute. FACT: most men are psychosexually programmed for sex. This has nothing to do with him being nasty, earthy etc. It is simply when his seminal vesicles (the part of his testicles that store sperms) are full; he gets a strong biological urge to have sex. This may be when he goes on the "prowl". It is similar to the urges you get around your menstrual cycle.

That said most men make an intelligent effort to control it. Another reason when some men try to push your hot buttons is to test you. He wants to find out how easy it is to score on you. Of course if you give in he will have a great time but you ratings in his eyes will drop significantly. Of course if you give in he will have a great time but you ratings in his eyes will drop significantly. What can you do? How to you handle this?

1. First you must be clear about your boundaries and principles.

a. When do you feel safe to begin physical contact. No I don't mean sex. Holding hands, kisses, necking petting
b. Determine if you want a good night kiss and what type of kiss you will allow eg peck on cheek, light mouth peck etc

2. Also be clear about how many dates or how well you want to know a guy before having sex e.g 2,3,4 months or dates. My strong suggestion is never to have sex on the first few dates.

3. If a man begins to touch you in uncomfortable places, do not get angry, simple take his hand and gently but firmly move it back on his leg, calmly explain that you don't feel comfortable doing that at this point.

4. Tell a story of one of your friends who gave in to a guy recently, fell pregnant and the guy didn't want to know. Explain how cheap and worthless she feels now. Emphasise that it's never a great idea for a woman anyway since may be just a test.

5. Be sure to be light hearted about it all. Indicating through you attitude that it good to have fun and even do things together with him but you are not about to go down that (necking, petting and sex) road at this point.

6. If he continues get up and immediately terminate the date or meeting. Here the attitude you should adopt when men try to hit on you. "Sex is great but I don't feel comfortable doing it unless I am in a secured relationship."

How to Initiate Romance With a Stranger You Admire

What would you do if you stepped outside right now saw the man/woman of your dreams?

Would freeze with fear? Or pretend you didn't notice, because s/he might reject you?

Have a contact strategy. Rehearse in your mind any such situation and image several possible ways of making contact.

Why?

You may never get a second opportunity to make a first contact. This contact may or may not lead to other possibilities but you can never know unless you try. Even if this does not turn out to be partner, you can be sure that s/he has a network of other males friend that you can possibly access.

Why practice?

Meeting some who kindle attraction in you can stall your normal routine behaviour and make you look and behave awkward. This does nothing for your image. If you practice constantly like an actor, your subconscious mind will take over and you will not have to stand there trying to think of what to say. What you visualized will kick in.

What to do?

Use the 7 by 3 rule

Any possible suitor who gets between 7 yards of you, make contact within 3 seconds of seeing them. The longer you wait the more your mind will interfere and cripple you with fear. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

Simple ways to make contact

- Smile.

- Greeting "Good morning/evening/afternoon, how are you?"

- Or a simple "Hi"

What are some of the things you can say?

The greatest line there is in the world is "Hi?" with a smile and possibly followed by "how are you?" You can even add, "My name is ______, what's your name?" - Quickly followed by, any number of general statement about yourself and a question e.g. "Can I ask your opinion on something. May you will be able to help me. My friend and I have been debating why girls tend to jerks. As a woman what do you think?"

If he is from out of town give him some info about the best places to visit. What is even better is to invite him to a fun session you and your friend are having. If you don't have one create one and make if happen.

Make the conversation short and concise. After initial banter, simply indicate that s/he seems like an interesting person and it was good meeting him, and you hope to bounce into him/her again, because s/he seems like someone who you like to get to know.

At this point don't worry about collecting phone number or any such thing. Just make a courteous exit. This will indicate that you are not a desperate pushy person. It will also say that you are confident and willing to build organic rapport.

If you find it very difficult to talk to stranger you admire at first, start by talking to children and the elderly. Once your confidence is established you will be very surprised at how easy it will be to talk to potential suitors.

Internet Dating Advice - A Must Read Before You Begin Online Dating

Internet dating can be intimidating for many people. First you have the worry of meeting a complete stranger and you may even be confused about how to use the popular online dating sites. Below is some useful advice to help anyone who wants to enjoy the entire internet dating process from browsing profiles to the first date.

Use an Updated Photo

One of the biggest complaints many online daters discuss is the fact that many people use outdated photos of themselves. Upon meeting up for the first time, many people are disappointed that their date does not look anything like their photos. Imagine meeting someone you really have an interest in, only to disappoint them because you do not look like your photo.

Don't Take Things Personally

Have you "winked" or "flirted" with a potential date or even sent an email that you are interested in meeting them? Some may respond and some may not. Once you have struck up an email conversation with someone, don't freak out if they do not reply to you right away. Many people take it too personally. Everyone's circumstances are different. Many folks are busier than you may be and not able to respond to your emails right away. Try not to take things personally when it comes to online communication.

Meet Up Someplace Casual

The first date can be very intimidating and the last thing you want to do is meet up at a fancy restaurant. Keep things casual at first. A coffee house makes a great first date. It keeps things laid back and provides an easy atmosphere. Chances are you will feel comfortable and will be more of yourself which is what you want to present on your first date.

Internet Dating Advice - A Must Read Before You Begin Online Dating

Internet dating can be intimidating for many people. First you have the worry of meeting a complete stranger and you may even be confused about how to use the popular online dating sites. Below is some useful advice to help anyone who wants to enjoy the entire internet dating process from browsing profiles to the first date.

Use an Updated Photo

One of the biggest complaints many online daters discuss is the fact that many people use outdated photos of themselves. Upon meeting up for the first time, many people are disappointed that their date does not look anything like their photos. Imagine meeting someone you really have an interest in, only to disappoint them because you do not look like your photo.

Don't Take Things Personally

Have you "winked" or "flirted" with a potential date or even sent an email that you are interested in meeting them? Some may respond and some may not. Once you have struck up an email conversation with someone, don't freak out if they do not reply to you right away. Many people take it too personally. Everyone's circumstances are different. Many folks are busier than you may be and not able to respond to your emails right away. Try not to take things personally when it comes to online communication.

Meet Up Someplace Casual

The first date can be very intimidating and the last thing you want to do is meet up at a fancy restaurant. Keep things casual at first. A coffee house makes a great first date. It keeps things laid back and provides an easy atmosphere. Chances are you will feel comfortable and will be more of yourself which is what you want to present on your first date.

How to Tell If a Guy is Dating Other Girls - 5 Tip-Offs That He's Playing the Field

Have you ever wondered if the guy you are seeing is playing the field? Have you ever had any suspicion that he is not just dating you? Have you ever suspected that you are one of the dozen or so girls he goes out with? Do you want to make sure that he is on the same page with you before the "exclusivity talk?" Read on to discover the 5 signs that he is dating someone else ...

  • It takes him forever to return your phone calls. No matter what excuses he uses, such as "I'm swamped with work," or "I have a project deadline," the chance is that he is indeed very busy ... dating other women. Remember, if a guy doesn't call, he is either not interested or is too busy with other women. As a busy woman, do you really want to spend your time with a guy who doesn't place you high on his priority list?
  • He doesn't keep his promises. If a guy asks you out for a date, then fails to follow through with setting up the specific details, guess what? He is busy setting up dates with other women. When a guy really wants something, he follows through, always!
  • He never asks you to visit his place. If a guy never wants you to get close to his house or apartment, the chances are that he has something to hide. Maybe a girlfriend, a wife, or even a few kids. If you feel that something doesn't add up, you should question him directly and get the answers you want.
  • His phone is constantly off and you get his answering machine 95% of the time. If a guy's phone is always off, you can be sure that he is screening his calls and only returns the calls of women he wants to see that night.
  • His kissing style suddenly changes. The only reason for this one is that he got some "feedback" somewhere else.

Low Budget Dating - Cheap Date Ideas

Nowadays everyone is looking to save a penny or two, but that doesn't mean that your dating life has to suffer! There are plenty of creative and fun ways to treat your hunny to a fun night without breaking the bank. This doesn't mean that your significant other won't appreciate a big night on the town every now and then, but the dates that cost you less can be just as exciting and enjoyable as those that cost you an arm and a leg. Low budget dating does not mean staying in every night either, there are still plenty of options to get you out of the house and into the dating scene.

While spending a small fortune at a fancy restaurant is fine on important occasions such as birthdays and anniversaries, it isn't very practical for every date. Plus, treating your partner to big lavish dates on a regular basis will take the special aspect out of it and won't give you much to look forward to. Instead of picking the swankiest restaurant in town, try checking out the local diner for some good home cooked food and funky atmosphere. Or if you have already eaten, diners are great place to drink a coffee and sample some killer desserts. If the diner isn't your style, take your date out for drinks and appetizers instead. This is a great way to cut down on expensive meals for low budget dating while still bringing your significant other to the new hotspots in town.

Another great alternative to eating out is cooking at home. Everyone enjoys a home cooked meal after a long day, so don't be afraid to exhibit your culinary genius for your date. If you aren't a big cook, stick to the dishes that you know you can pull off without burning the house down. Also, cooking together can be a fun and relaxing way to spend time with each other. Making dinner together with a bottle of wine and soft jazz music in the background is a great way to spend a quiet evening together without spending a ton of money.

A great way to spice up an ordinary home cooked meal is to turn it into a picnic. Picnic style dates are always fun and easily arranged for low budget dating. Bring the feast outside by candlelight for a romantic night under the stars or just spread a blanket on the living room floor to avoid the bugs! During the day, go for a walk in the local park or ecological reserve and bring something to snack on. Spreading a blanket and spending time with each other outdoors is a great way to bring couples closer without spending a ton of money. For daytime picnics bring finger foods such as fresh fruit, crackers, and cheese to munch on or add a bottle of wine for nighttime picnics. Since dining out can be an expensive date, try these alternatives to save a few pennies while still enjoying a delicious meal with your special somebody.

How to Tell If a Guy is Dating Other Girls - 5 Tip-Offs That He's Playing the Field

Have you ever wondered if the guy you are seeing is playing the field? Have you ever had any suspicion that he is not just dating you? Have you ever suspected that you are one of the dozen or so girls he goes out with? Do you want to make sure that he is on the same page with you before the "exclusivity talk?" Read on to discover the 5 signs that he is dating someone else ...

  • It takes him forever to return your phone calls. No matter what excuses he uses, such as "I'm swamped with work," or "I have a project deadline," the chance is that he is indeed very busy ... dating other women. Remember, if a guy doesn't call, he is either not interested or is too busy with other women. As a busy woman, do you really want to spend your time with a guy who doesn't place you high on his priority list?
  • He doesn't keep his promises. If a guy asks you out for a date, then fails to follow through with setting up the specific details, guess what? He is busy setting up dates with other women. When a guy really wants something, he follows through, always!
  • He never asks you to visit his place. If a guy never wants you to get close to his house or apartment, the chances are that he has something to hide. Maybe a girlfriend, a wife, or even a few kids. If you feel that something doesn't add up, you should question him directly and get the answers you want.
  • His phone is constantly off and you get his answering machine 95% of the time. If a guy's phone is always off, you can be sure that he is screening his calls and only returns the calls of women he wants to see that night.
  • His kissing style suddenly changes. The only reason for this one is that he got some "feedback" somewhere else.

Low Budget Dating - Cheap Date Ideas

Nowadays everyone is looking to save a penny or two, but that doesn't mean that your dating life has to suffer! There are plenty of creative and fun ways to treat your hunny to a fun night without breaking the bank. This doesn't mean that your significant other won't appreciate a big night on the town every now and then, but the dates that cost you less can be just as exciting and enjoyable as those that cost you an arm and a leg. Low budget dating does not mean staying in every night either, there are still plenty of options to get you out of the house and into the dating scene.

While spending a small fortune at a fancy restaurant is fine on important occasions such as birthdays and anniversaries, it isn't very practical for every date. Plus, treating your partner to big lavish dates on a regular basis will take the special aspect out of it and won't give you much to look forward to. Instead of picking the swankiest restaurant in town, try checking out the local diner for some good home cooked food and funky atmosphere. Or if you have already eaten, diners are great place to drink a coffee and sample some killer desserts. If the diner isn't your style, take your date out for drinks and appetizers instead. This is a great way to cut down on expensive meals for low budget dating while still bringing your significant other to the new hotspots in town.

Another great alternative to eating out is cooking at home. Everyone enjoys a home cooked meal after a long day, so don't be afraid to exhibit your culinary genius for your date. If you aren't a big cook, stick to the dishes that you know you can pull off without burning the house down. Also, cooking together can be a fun and relaxing way to spend time with each other. Making dinner together with a bottle of wine and soft jazz music in the background is a great way to spend a quiet evening together without spending a ton of money.

A great way to spice up an ordinary home cooked meal is to turn it into a picnic. Picnic style dates are always fun and easily arranged for low budget dating. Bring the feast outside by candlelight for a romantic night under the stars or just spread a blanket on the living room floor to avoid the bugs! During the day, go for a walk in the local park or ecological reserve and bring something to snack on. Spreading a blanket and spending time with each other outdoors is a great way to bring couples closer without spending a ton of money. For daytime picnics bring finger foods such as fresh fruit, crackers, and cheese to munch on or add a bottle of wine for nighttime picnics. Since dining out can be an expensive date, try these alternatives to save a few pennies while still enjoying a delicious meal with your special somebody.

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