Keeping Secrets in a Relationship

Sometimes, as our relationship perseveres, we tend to have a hard time keeping secrets.
You may have a secret about mysteriously seeing someone at your work that your current boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't know about. Or perhaps you secretly don't want to tell your love that you're not really a big fan of their foreplay techniques and would rather them getting a guide or something to make you more aroused.

In relationships, secrets can be a good or bad thing. For example, if you had a current boyfriend for many months and you went on a date with another guy that you happened to be attracted to and kissed him on the date, then that would be a big no-no. Actually this happens to a lot of people and the person who did the damage has a secret to keep, which is that they have to confront their boyfriend about kissing another guy or confront the guy that they already have a boyfriend! This also can be the same situation with guys to girls.

Either way, the worse thing someone can do in this situation is keep the secret from one party and continue on as if nothing happened. The best thing to do is to confront both parties about what happened and suffer the consequences. Most likely you'll be forgiven.

Enough about these types of secrets though! A lot of times secrets can have a negative connotation to them, like if someone was holding a secret from someone else. However, you should try to keep secrets fun in relationships rather than making them something to worry about.

Here are some ways to keep good secrets in relationships. Before your lover goes to work, whisper in their ear that you have a secret waiting for them tonight. Emphasize the word - secret. You can do it in a seductive tone of voice that sends chills down their body.

Now, you may have no idea what the secret will be, but rest assured, your lover will think about you all day long. Unless you have a very adventure-like job, most jobs can be boring and tedious. After you tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that you have a secret for them tonight, they'll constantly be thinking about what it will be and it will drive them towards high anticipation and temptation to seeing you.

Now, even though you may be clueless to what the secret will be, you don't have to worry. The point of doing that was to create anticipation and mystery in your relationship. The secret you will give to your girlfriend or boyfriend can be anything simple. It's not that hard to make a spaghetti candle-lit dinner and takes less than an hour. Your lover will appreciate this time you guys have together. Or perhaps when your love comes home, the first thing you can do is blindfold them, grab them by the hand, and lead them to the shower. You can then proceed to give them a fifteen-minute massage after a days worth of hard work, enter the shower together, and make love afterwards. This would be a very cool secret for them, giving you kudos for heating up the relationship.

10 Tips to Date a Cougar

There are many reasons a Cougar can appeal to you. When I think of a Cougar, Samantha off "Sex in the City" comes to mind, she plays a vivacious, sophisticated woman with a sexual libido that rivals rabbits in spring.

Although her character is fictional who she portrays is not. Women at older ages are more attune with there wants, needs and desires.

While Men's sexual stamina is slowing down, Women's desire for intimacy is coming into full bloom. It seems like the worlds cruel joke to have such a wide gap in the ages of sexual maturity but it true, while guys are thinking about sex in there 20's, women are hitting there peak in their 30's or 40's.

This age gap gives a perfectly logical reason why cougars exist but there are other reasons as well.

Men aren't the only ones that get mid-life crisis. Women want to feel young again too but instead of buying that corvette or going skydiving, they look to a younger generation. There are many appeals to dating young. Most younger men don't have any strings attached, a youthful personality, and are more willing to try new things.
Revenge can also be a reason; don't be surprised if your new cougar is recently divorced, like recently divorced professional wrestler Hulk Hogan. When word got out that Hulk Hogan had found a girlfriend that could pass as his daughter it wasn't long after ex-wife Linda Hogan had found a 19 year-old boy toy of her own.

So what are the best tips for getting and keeping a cougar?

1. Treat Her Like A Queen -
Treat any women like a queen and she will be flattered and curious. Pay her compliments, open doors for her, notice the details. Did she get her nails done? Tell her you love the color.

2. Don't Ever Tell Her She is a Cougar -
It's another double standard term label put on women that can be offensive. When men go after younger women its ok, but when a women does it, watch out! She's a "cougar".

3. Move to the City -
Places like California and New York see Cougar Dating as the newest hot trend. Think Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, a very hot couple.

4. Don't Make Her Feel Old -
Just like the feeling you get when a waiter ask you for an ID when buying alcohol you want to replicate that feeling again and again. But don't be fake about it, like saying she looks like Cindy Crawford if she doesn't. Tell her you love how smart she is, or how amazing her legs look in those jeans.

5. Dating Sites -
These are exceptional places to find Cougar Dates, browse for your cougar in comfort of your house and let them come to you.

6. Give Her New Experiences -
Most women are looking to do things they never did when they were younger, whether that is shooting pool at the billiard, going to a concert, or playing mini golf with friends.

7. Don't be to Needy -
Older women are independent and don't want a guy controlling there life.

8. Make her Feel Young but no too Young -
Beer Binging and Halo War parties are out of the question. She doesn't want to feel like she stole you from the crib.

9. Let Her Rule the Bedroom -
She is probably way more experienced in this department, let her show you what she knows and what she likes.

10. Same Expectations -
Make sure you are both on the same page before getting into a deep relationship. Is she looking for a casual relationship or long-term. This is important to know so you're both not wasting your time.

Dating For Men Part 7 - What to Look For in a Woman (Hint - It's Not Her Chest)

Sometimes, knowing what's really important to you in a woman can be more complex than you'd think. It seems like a simple thing at first, I mean what does anyone want in a woman? Kindness, good looks, a woman who "pulls her own weight" instead of relying on you for everything. But when you get out into the dating world, you'll find that many women posses many other characteristics that may or may not be to your liking. Well don't fret, I'm going to walk you through my method of screening out women I'm not interested in.

First of all, remember to always keep an open mind. You can't be judgmental or a woman will feel that you are looking down on her. Plus, you might be surprised at some of the amazing women who you might have never gotten to know if you hadn't stepped outside your box.

Also, forget what all your friends say. They have no idea what's best for you.

Ignore maxim, playboy, lingerie ads and the like. These women are so airbrushed and covered in makeup from head-to-toe that they'd have to TRY to look bad. Plus they have the advantage of professional photographers who know what posses to put them in to show off their best features and hide their worst.

Something I encourage men to do is to just think for a moment about what makes two PEOPLE compatible. Not a man and a woman, just two people. What types of things do people commonly bond over? What types of things make two best friends so compatible?

Also, in choosing a woman I would encourage all of you to consider the entire person, not just her looks. Think about her personality, her interests, her ambitions and such. What type of strengths do you want a woman to have? What types of weaknesses are not such a big deal to you? You'll find that a woman who turns you on mentally will soon become very attractive to you, regardless of her body.

As men we tend to be very visually stimulated. We are visual creatures. When we see a beautiful woman and get excited, our brain tells us "THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT!" But it's to our advantage to have more self control than that. This woman who's exciting us may be completely psychologically unstable. Or even if shes not, she may not be a person who you can enjoy yourself with for very long.

I'm a big fan of the outdoors. I also like to watch sports on television. Finding a woman who enjoys these things with me is a HUGE turn on. Plus, it's nice to be able to talk about things with a woman that you would talk about with your friends.

So, in closing, try to keep an open mind and really concentrate on the IMPORTANT things first. Good looks are great, but they're really of secondary importance.

I hope you've found this report helpful and that in the future you'll approach women with a better sense of what's important to you.