Don't Be a Sugardaddy Gold Digger

There's a new kind of online dating phenomenon that has caught on like wild fire. They are called sugardaddy dating sites, or wealthy dating sites. But just how legit are these sites and why do people register? The reason people register with these wealthy dating sites is because they promise you will meet rich handsome men easily and you will live happily ever after. What's wrong with that? Nothing - if it's the real thing. Unfortunately there are a lot of scammers out there. First let me explain what a "sugardaddy" is. A sugardaddy is usually a middle aged very successful white businessman (he doesn't have to be Caucasian, but in general they tend to be) who is married and is looking to spoil a younger, beautiful woman by pampering her and buying her clothes. Lots of times they will pay their rent and utility bills and give them a monthly stipend.

Gold Diggers and Wannabe Sugardaddy

Unfortunately, men get on these wealthy dating sites pretending to be rich only to dupe the women into sleeping with them and then dumping them. Well, I say it serves these women right. Between the gold diggers online and the wannabe sugardaddies online, it's really hard to know when you are being scammed. That's why it is important to be successful yourself before you go on these types of wealthy dating sites. Stop looking for men to take care of you!

Have Some Self-Respect

First of all, it shows poor taste to go on one of these sites looking for handouts. Any man who is successful will not be attracted to a woman who cannot take care of herself. Men love confident women - women who can hold their own. The best way you can snag a sugardaddy is to be successful yourself. But you might argue, "Then what is the point of having a sugardaddy if I have to be successful too"? I say be really honest with yourself. To put it bluntly, you should not be looking to prostitute yourself and for you to think that a wealthy businessman who has worked all his life to become wealthy should just hand all of his cash over to you. Some women really believe that they are entitled to this. I used to get on these rich dating sites before I became a very successful internet business owner, looking for rich men to take care of me. But that is such a complete turn off to men and it made me lose respect for myself.

So How Do You Snag a Sugardaddy?

So what did I do? I became a very successful business owner myself. I can now afford to pamper myself. Yes, I'm on these wealthy dating sites but I'm on an even keel - I can hold my own. I'm not looking for a rich man to take care of me - rather, I seek an equal - someone who compliments me. It's alright to want to meet rich men and have them spoil you - but you have to be realistic, you have to have something going on for yourself, or you will not attract the sugardaddy of your dreams! Here are some valuable tips to snag a sugardaddy:

1. Get educated - get your college degree. There is nothing worse than an airhead. Rich men are intelligent and need mental stimulation.

2. Become current with worldly events - it makes for interesting conversation.

3. Never ever come across as expecting him to take care of you - he'll run in the opposite direction.

4. Most importantly, be a success yourself! Have your own successful business. This shows that you are ambitious and not looking for handouts.

That Which is Like Unto Itself Is Drawn

You can only attract that which you are! Be successful yourself - don't look for a man to take care of you. You owe it to yourself to be a successful woman. Once you've become a successful woman, you will attract a successful wealthy man, or, shall I say, a sugardaddy.

Understanding Men - How to Know If He's a "Keeper"

Do you feel like you struggle to understand men? In more than a decade of coaching women, a question I get more and more often from my female clients after they meet someone is "How do I know if he's a 'keeper'?"

What is really surprising to me is how often these questions come from women who are in their 30s and 40s. These women have a lot of life experience, and I always have to ask them the same question - When did you stop trusting your gut and your intuition?

Very often when women say they are having trouble understanding men, they are really just neglecting to trust their own gut and their own intuition. Understanding men is not nearly as complicated as many women believe it to be.

In the case of wanting to know whether a man is a "keeper," the way to evaluate that is to look at a few very simple things about the man's behavior and at how that man makes you feel. Understanding men can be as simple as observing what he is doing, and how he is making you feel.

For instance, if a man does things that make you happy then that's how you know he may be a "keeper." He pays attention to you when you're talking. A man who takes you out on dates to places or to do things that interest both of you. A man who actually pays attention to all the things that you say and the conversation is effortless. All of these things are signs that a man is a "keeper."

The key to understanding men for women is to know that while men are wired differently than women, what is always most important in evaluating whether someone is a potential connection is to look at how they treat you and how they make you feel.

If you're able to share the same interests or enjoy the same TV shows, for example, that is someone with whom you may be more likely to be compatible. You do not need to like all the same things, though, in order for someone to be the right one for you.

How you understand men and know whether a man is a keeper is seeing whether he's into you, whether he pays attention to you and whether he listens to you in every way. So understanding men is very often all about observing their actions.

How do you know if a man is not a "keeper?" Understanding that kind of man is just as easy. Does he try to have sex with you but doesn't want to connect with you in any other way? That man is easy to understand. A man who plays games, is evasive and ignores you is not a "keeper."

Compare that to the man who calls you every day just to check in and see how you are doing. He texts you back right away. He calls you back right away. He's concerned about you and if he is interested in who you are as a person. A man like this is a "keeper."

Many times women feel like they need to learn about understanding men when they don't like how a man is acting or treating them. They want me to tell them that certain things they don't like about what men do or say has nothing to do with whether a man is right for them, and is instead because men just express themselves differently as a gender.

I'm sorry to tell you that while understanding how men ARE wired differently is invaluable in knowing how to meet and attract men -- and even in some aspects of understanding differences in conversation and communication styles -- that understanding men in certain areas is as simple as looking at what they are doing.

So when you want to know whether a man is a "keeper," you need to ask yourself some questions. What turns you on as a woman? What turns you on mentally? What turns you on physically?

Understanding men in this situation requires you to take an honest look at the man with whom you're currently involved and see whether he meeting your needs in all of those areas. You need to also see whether he is just playing around and messing with your head.

A man who satisfies you emotionally and mentally is a "keeper." A man is a keeper if he does all those things and much more. Understanding men is looking honestly at their behavior.

If you are a woman who has real trouble evaluating whether a man is a "keeper" or who consistently dates men who are not "keepers," then you need to start looking deeper into yourself to see really why you put up with men that aren't keepers and why men who aren't keepers seem to be sticking around in your life.

I can tell you volumes of information about how to understand men and exactly how they are wired. In fact that is a big part of what I teach to women every day. One of the other big things I teach women, though, is how to create within themselves the ability to trust themselves when they are dating men. So the next time you want to know if a man is a "keeper," remember to trust yourself about what is going on .... you will make the right decision every time.

Dating Frustration?

I recently came across this headline on a dating site from a woman, "frustrated big time"...hmmm..not many men will find THAT appealing. If you're feeling this way, get over it.

As I continued to read her profile, it was just more of the sad melodramatic story about how she was tired of jerks and men who done her wrong. Good grief.

Men run away from these kinds of women like running away from a tsunami. Well, if you were a man, would you want a woman who appears this negative? Do you want to carry this sort of dead weight?

Probably not.

If you are frustrated about dating, don't wear it like bad makeup. Inspite of it all, there is always another way and another day.

It's ok to vent to your girlfriends about this but don't advertise your frustration to men. They'll think you're a drama mama who can't be successful at anything including trying to land a man.

The best position to take is to look inside of you. Why do you keep putting out the sort of energy that brings in these types? Is there something about your thinking, your attitude that you can change? How can you become the best woman who can really shine in every area of your life?

It's just not a good idea to tell men that you're tired of the creeps, that you've been hurt, that you're been locked away with a dragon for years or that you're on your second season of men "who did me wrong."