Better Dates - Will They Hold the Door Open For Others?

Have you ever dated someone and wished you could know if they were right for you? Do you know what qualities you want from them and what that lets you feel? Read on and discover how improving your observational skills may also help to get you better dates.

In this article I want to show you how simple observations can help get you better dates.

By simply practicing this exercise in people watching you will become more observant and more accurate in your reading of people.

Just about everything in life involves communication skills and that includes nonverbal communication and body language. My attitude is that it is easier to learn something when the exercises are fun to do and this can allow you to incorporate the skills as a natural habit.

The next time you go out in a public situation I want you to notice someone that you find attractive and then watch to see what they do.

Bring a book with you and relax and enjoy a cup of coffee or tea and just every so often notice someone and watch what they do. Notice how they move and how they carry themselves. What is it about them that made you notice them? Good reasons, bad reasons, etc.

You may agree that it is best to trust what a person SHOWS about themselves more than what they say and so this exercise will help you to be a better judge of character.

You can observe their behavior and how they treat others. If someone is very critical of themselves and others, it is only a matter of time before YOU become their next target. Do their good qualities balance out this potential negative? Does it matter to you?

This simple people watching exercise will also help you to know what type of partner or partners you really want (besides the obvious "physical" characteristics)

So while you are traveling to and from work and on your lunch break,etc. you can find yourself noticing some attractive person you might want to approach. You do not have to approach them--just notice if they hold the door open for the person behind them.

OR do they just slam their arm out, push the door open, go through the door and leave the door to swing into the next person?

Of course you are capable of opening your own door and paying attention and being aware yet it is a nice thing when someone treats you as a human being.

So if you do not mind someone who may be a bit selfish or inside their own head then you can find a variation of this exercise that screens for the type of person you DO want.

Regardless of what you want, you will find that this method helps you to improve your cold reading tremendously because you will notice the energy of the person, their body language, facial expressions, etc. and become much more accurate about the people you meet at work and at play.

And if you want to find someone to spend time with, date, etc. who will at least notice the people around them and hold a door open for someone behind them, then this simple exercise can help you to find that kind of quality person.

As with most things in life, this works best if you do it yourself---if you hold doors open for those behind you, regardless of whether they are Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt or Woody Allen, or a 90 year old man walking with a cane, then this is a part of who you are and people can tell. If you JUST do this to "appear" a gentleman or lady or seem courteous, etc. it will not have the same positively powerful effect.

Consider what qualities you most want and need in a relationship (work or play) and then how you know you are getting those things you want.

Tip Summary:

1. Make time in your schedule to people watch and notice how they behave.

2. Learn to anticipate their actions and test to see how accurate you are.

3. Improve your accuracy.

A lot of these UNIVERSALS apply to any type of relationship and just about EVERYTHING is some sort of relationship or another. When you are too sick with the Flu to even feel romantic, etc. you will still appreciate someone who is willing to help you feel better. And they deserve the same from you. How many "hot dates" will want to come over and bring you hot chicken noodle soup when you are burning up with 102 degree fever and there are 3 inches of snow on the ground?

Should I Call Him When He Doesn't Call?

When a guy doesn't call you as much as he used to much, or a man you've been seeing stops calling cold turkey, that needs to be perceived as a red flag. No doubt about that. However, most women have no idea of what that means when he stops calling and how to deal with it.

Have ever been in a situation whereas a man and suddenly stopped calling you after you have gone out on a great date? Have you ever found yourself wondering why he stopped calling after a few great dates?

But what about a man who you go out with once in a while and who does not call you much in between dates? Have you ever wondered what that meant when he said he'd call and then didn't call?

Have you tried calling him? And if you have tried calling him at least once without a response, without a call back, you are probably wondering if he is still interested.

But what if you became close intimately and after a great night of passion he stopped calling and you have not heard from him since?

Being a professional dating coach and a writer on the subject of dating and relationships I have heard similar questions thousands of times from women all over the world and I have decided to put together a whole book that explains all possible reasons why men stop calling and what to do about it.

The situations in the book are numerous starting with men who stop calling after a first date, provided it was a great date and you in fact expected a call back and going all the way into commitment phobia issues whereas a man displays certain commitment fears. I also show you how to recognize a man who is a commitment phobic and how to make him call you when he stopped calling because of his commitment issues.

Happiness From Happening - 4 Simple Opportunities For Couples

Let's face it, keeping a relationship happy requires a lot of hard work, and if you're still together despite all the odds, then kudos to you my friend, that's more than just a milestone. You have to admit though that at times, the excitement easily dissipates in a new relationship and that you feel like you can't contend with the sad reality that only a few lucky souls have managed to find "Destiny" (not unless Destiny calls you up one day and tells you she's not coming back due to boredom, well don't mind me, I'm jaded).

Moving on, infatuation, physical and sexual attraction is nature's way of allowing us to take part in the eternal dance of man, woman and procreation - in the most basic of instincts, it really is about SEX. After the first few months of bliss, things will definitely die down but hopefully, you rabbits were able to establish enough connection that you can morph this heady feeling of sexual urge into something more pure, one that is filled with love. I believe that love doesn't start during the boyfriend-girlfriend stage but actually around 6 months from the time you declared your romantic relationship. It is during that time when reality sets in and emotions start to settle down. Somehow, love has to kick in so you'll both be more than willing to work on your relationship to make it stronger and to have it last.

I'm a pragmatist but I haven't always been that way, I used to be a romantic, hoping that some day, I could be the Romeo to a Juliet. However, things don't always go as planned. I just couldn't get a hold of Juliet because she was either washing her hair, out with friends, was studying, is working, is busy with mom, dad, baby sister, cat, pet dog, pet hamster, and all strange bullshit you can think up of.

So I tried figuring out what the real problem was and I realized that perhaps I've been choosing the wrong women, I'll tell you about that some other time, I'm digressing. What I did end up committing to myself though, was that when my Juliet finally saw me, met me and took me in, I would do everything to make her not regret that choice. I guess my practical facet was also my romantic side because I knew early on that this wasn't going to be a walk in the park; that choosing to be with someone was something that we both had to work on continuously.

A good friend of mine once told me, the word happiness comes from happening, which means, creating an event or producing opportunities that can lead to happiness that the both of you can share. Knowing that relationships won't always be fresh, new and fun, couples have to create opportunities that they can both share and remember.

I know everyone can be busy and that things just have a tendency to pile up so we can start with the simple things in life. The great thing about making events for your relationship is that they don't need to be huge events all the time. It doesn't have to be a full production of full weekend getaway or coordinating with the local home team basketball court to get her name up on the large TV. If there was one thing I learned about women is that they are emotionally broken, they are genetically defective in that aspect, like a tea cup with a hole at the bottom where you have to constantly tell them how much they mean to you and I guess that's why women talk more than men as well; they need constant affirmation. So knowing this little bit of secret, it's good to keep on doing small things here and there:

1. Get flowers for no reason at all.

You don't need to wait for your anniversary to get her flowers. Getting a stem (because she's the only one) or a bouquet (because that's how much you love her), it doesn't really matter so as long as you do something thoughtful. Sure, times are tough but that's the point, these things don't need much effort and add to the fact that there are tons of online stores that will deliver! Heck, if you're reading this now, it's probably that easy to click on a site to order flowers!

2. Grab a bottle of wine and make a date out on a park!

It is a misconception that enjoying wine is expensive. No it's not. You don't need an expensive vintage to enjoy it with your lady (but at least make sure you don't get one that's out of a box). When you come to think of it, it's not even about the wine but the company and being able to spend the moment with her. Just get something you're comfortable with spending and that would be fine, she'll cherish you more for taking the time of preparing this for her and a few months down the line, I'm sure she won't even remember what bottle it was you had - not unless you too had such a good time that you've kept the bottle on your cupboard as a keepsake. One thing you should know about wine is that the best wine is really one that you enjoy and not what other people tell you that you should enjoy so don't get overwhelmed with the thought of knowing what to get.

3. Share a delicate moment

Who doesn't enjoy nice lingerie? It's one of the few things you can really enjoy together and it almost doesn't matter who buys it for whom but of course it's always better if you actually got it for her. One thing to really remember though: get her the RIGHT SIZE! You don't want to get her something too small because she'll think she's too fat or get her something too big because she'll think that you think she's that fat. Scoot along to the hamper and make sure you get the numbers right. Another thing to remember: be sensitive enough to get her something that you'd think she can feel sexy in as well. Sometimes, we tend to create all of these fantasies in our heads and we go way over board.

4. Get your own custom shirts.

OK, I initially cringed on the thought of having cheesy printed shirts but I figured it really starts with good design but hey, if this is something that rocks the both of you, go for it! There're a few outfits out there that could do this for you and it shouldn't be too difficult to do.

Happiness From Happening - 4 Simple Opportunities For Couples

Let's face it, keeping a relationship happy requires a lot of hard work, and if you're still together despite all the odds, then kudos to you my friend, that's more than just a milestone. You have to admit though that at times, the excitement easily dissipates in a new relationship and that you feel like you can't contend with the sad reality that only a few lucky souls have managed to find "Destiny" (not unless Destiny calls you up one day and tells you she's not coming back due to boredom, well don't mind me, I'm jaded).

Moving on, infatuation, physical and sexual attraction is nature's way of allowing us to take part in the eternal dance of man, woman and procreation - in the most basic of instincts, it really is about SEX. After the first few months of bliss, things will definitely die down but hopefully, you rabbits were able to establish enough connection that you can morph this heady feeling of sexual urge into something more pure, one that is filled with love. I believe that love doesn't start during the boyfriend-girlfriend stage but actually around 6 months from the time you declared your romantic relationship. It is during that time when reality sets in and emotions start to settle down. Somehow, love has to kick in so you'll both be more than willing to work on your relationship to make it stronger and to have it last.

I'm a pragmatist but I haven't always been that way, I used to be a romantic, hoping that some day, I could be the Romeo to a Juliet. However, things don't always go as planned. I just couldn't get a hold of Juliet because she was either washing her hair, out with friends, was studying, is working, is busy with mom, dad, baby sister, cat, pet dog, pet hamster, and all strange bullshit you can think up of.

So I tried figuring out what the real problem was and I realized that perhaps I've been choosing the wrong women, I'll tell you about that some other time, I'm digressing. What I did end up committing to myself though, was that when my Juliet finally saw me, met me and took me in, I would do everything to make her not regret that choice. I guess my practical facet was also my romantic side because I knew early on that this wasn't going to be a walk in the park; that choosing to be with someone was something that we both had to work on continuously.

A good friend of mine once told me, the word happiness comes from happening, which means, creating an event or producing opportunities that can lead to happiness that the both of you can share. Knowing that relationships won't always be fresh, new and fun, couples have to create opportunities that they can both share and remember.

I know everyone can be busy and that things just have a tendency to pile up so we can start with the simple things in life. The great thing about making events for your relationship is that they don't need to be huge events all the time. It doesn't have to be a full production of full weekend getaway or coordinating with the local home team basketball court to get her name up on the large TV. If there was one thing I learned about women is that they are emotionally broken, they are genetically defective in that aspect, like a tea cup with a hole at the bottom where you have to constantly tell them how much they mean to you and I guess that's why women talk more than men as well; they need constant affirmation. So knowing this little bit of secret, it's good to keep on doing small things here and there:

1. Get flowers for no reason at all.

You don't need to wait for your anniversary to get her flowers. Getting a stem (because she's the only one) or a bouquet (because that's how much you love her), it doesn't really matter so as long as you do something thoughtful. Sure, times are tough but that's the point, these things don't need much effort and add to the fact that there are tons of online stores that will deliver! Heck, if you're reading this now, it's probably that easy to click on a site to order flowers!

2. Grab a bottle of wine and make a date out on a park!

It is a misconception that enjoying wine is expensive. No it's not. You don't need an expensive vintage to enjoy it with your lady (but at least make sure you don't get one that's out of a box). When you come to think of it, it's not even about the wine but the company and being able to spend the moment with her. Just get something you're comfortable with spending and that would be fine, she'll cherish you more for taking the time of preparing this for her and a few months down the line, I'm sure she won't even remember what bottle it was you had - not unless you too had such a good time that you've kept the bottle on your cupboard as a keepsake. One thing you should know about wine is that the best wine is really one that you enjoy and not what other people tell you that you should enjoy so don't get overwhelmed with the thought of knowing what to get.

3. Share a delicate moment

Who doesn't enjoy nice lingerie? It's one of the few things you can really enjoy together and it almost doesn't matter who buys it for whom but of course it's always better if you actually got it for her. One thing to really remember though: get her the RIGHT SIZE! You don't want to get her something too small because she'll think she's too fat or get her something too big because she'll think that you think she's that fat. Scoot along to the hamper and make sure you get the numbers right. Another thing to remember: be sensitive enough to get her something that you'd think she can feel sexy in as well. Sometimes, we tend to create all of these fantasies in our heads and we go way over board.

4. Get your own custom shirts.

OK, I initially cringed on the thought of having cheesy printed shirts but I figured it really starts with good design but hey, if this is something that rocks the both of you, go for it! There're a few outfits out there that could do this for you and it shouldn't be too difficult to do.

How to Attract Girls Online

If you want to attract girls online there are few steps you must take in order to be successful and actually be able to attract them to you. Many guys have this false belief that good looks is all that matters when in reality this is just one aspect of attraction. There are other ways that you can attract a girl and the best way to start is to be a funny friendly guy.

The key to a girl's heart is to make her laugh and make her feel comfortable around you. If you are able to achieve this you will be having girls go to you for help and comfort. The only thing about this approach is that you must be patient and must be willing to wait. If you have the patience for this you will begin to attract girls online.

If you are able to accomplish this girls will trust you beyond believe and will feel very comfortable around you. This is very important because this way they will be able to open up to you. Not many guys have the patience for this, so of course they are not able to attract girls online.

If you ask yourself what is better, to get rejected fast or be patient and actually get the girl within time? This is why many guys fail when trying to attract girls online. The one thing that they seem to forget is that there are endless number of girls out there and by being patient and building a conversation and relationship with a lot of girls is the key.

When is the Right Time to Romance Him?

When is time for you to romance him, this main man in your life? First lesson is to let him romance you first. Men love the hunt and chase which they have been doing for centuries. Regardless of changing times, and current acceptance of women calling men, they still like to be in control.

Being too available can often be the kiss of death in a relationship. After the initial pursuit and several dates, it is okay to start showering some romance. It is important that you feel comfortable with his feelings towards you. Coming on too strong is one way to end this relationship.

It is okay to romance him when the time is right. You will have this gut feeling when you should start moving forward. Perhaps it is old fashioned to let the man do the romancing in the beginning. This time gives you a chance to sort your feelings, and let him know how you appreciate what he is doing.

Why not invite him to dinner, and cook his favorite foods. Hopefully you know what they are by now. Candles are good and of course some romantic music. Look beautiful but not too obvious. Be really subtle by not overdoing it, and remember not to rush the relationship.

When you have found someone you really care about what fun it is to romance him. By letting him romance you first you can be assured of his interest in you for an ongoing relationship. The romancing you add to the relationship could influence what happens between you two.

Do I Call Him?

You met or have been chatting with a man you're really into. The attraction is amazing. The connection unreal. You're hoping that he'll take your connection further and get to know how great you are.

But his calls are declining and you're trying to figure out why. You're been thinking about him for days. You can't seem to get him off of your mind. You're wondering why he's no longer calling and what you could do about it.

You don't want to appear too needy or desperate. If you make the wrong move, he could pull further away from you. You're trying to give this man a great impression of you, put your best foot forward. You just don't want to screw it up this time but you're dying to hear from him.

You're starting to panic. You miss chatting and you want to hear his voice. Your mind begins to wonder where he is and what he's doing. Why did you seem to have such a great connection and he's stopped calling?

Men respond to attraction much different than women do. If you understand male psychology, it will be far easier for you to get what is really going on inside his mind. But since you're not a man, it's better to learn the reasons why men stop calling and what to do about it.

Your situation might seem difficult but men are easy to understand. You need to end the torture right now and know exactly what to do to get you the results you're looking for.

7 Pick Up Lines You Can Use to Meet Women With on St Patrick's Day

When it comes to meeting and approaching women at bars using pick up lines certain holidays lend themselves to the practice of doing such things better than others. With the exception of New Year's Eve the best time to use a pick up line to meet women would be on St Patrick's Day which for a variety of different single men and women everywhere is simply a good excuse to drink early and often at the bar, pub, or club of your choice.

However, it is important that you realize that using pick up lines to meet women pretty much is guaranteed to only attract the kind of women that would have been attracted to you no matter what your approach may have been, which depending on how you look at it could be either a good or bad thing.

Nevertheless, at the end of this article you will discover a much more empowering way to interact and approach women with that hands down is much better way at actually attracting women.
Right now, here are the 7 best pick up lines to meet women with on St Patrick's day.

1. Well, ye caught me, lass! Now I can grant ye one wish, as long as it involves sex.
2. Lassie, it's your ancestral duty to drive the snake out of my pants!
3. How'd you like to help put the Irish Spring back into me shillelagh? I ain't got four leaves, baby, but if you pluck me, I'll give you luck!
4. Why don't you come catch a leprechaun with me? Maybe together we'll get Lucky!
5. Well, lass, we're the only ones still standing. How about a go?
6. You look magically delicious, and I just happen to be a cereal love maker.
7. Tip o' the Trojan to ye!

As you can see these particular pick up line would work best on St Patrick's day although depending on what kinds of bar and pubs you like to go to might work on different days as well. Yet, as mentioned earlier in this article, using pick up lines to meet women is pretty much the second least effective way you can expect to actually attract women with the least effective being doing absolutely nothing in regards to approach her.

Once you begin to realize that no matter what you say to a woman the possibility of rejection exists it will actually allow you to take advantage of the most powerful way to approach and more importantly attract women. Of course that would be by staying present in the moment and simply approaching a woman with what is truly on your mind no matter how dumb you think it may or may not be.

Believe it or not, when it comes to attracting women one of the most powerful ways to do so is by being the real you, which isn't what you are doing when you use pick up lines that you read on the internet to meet women.
Will being the real you work every time?

Of course not and neither will any pick up line that you use, however it is much easier to maintain the flow of a conversation with a woman when you are simply being who you are rather than being someone that you aren't when you use pick up lines.

In the end, if all you are really after is a good laugh with your friends and one of those "I can't believe I just asked her that" moments then go ahead and use a pick up line to do so.

However, for those of you who are actually looking to attract women more often than not being in the moment and trusting yourself is going to be far more effective than any pick up line can ever be, no matter how well scripted.

7 Pick Up Lines You Can Use to Meet Women With on St Patrick's Day

When it comes to meeting and approaching women at bars using pick up lines certain holidays lend themselves to the practice of doing such things better than others. With the exception of New Year's Eve the best time to use a pick up line to meet women would be on St Patrick's Day which for a variety of different single men and women everywhere is simply a good excuse to drink early and often at the bar, pub, or club of your choice.

However, it is important that you realize that using pick up lines to meet women pretty much is guaranteed to only attract the kind of women that would have been attracted to you no matter what your approach may have been, which depending on how you look at it could be either a good or bad thing.

Nevertheless, at the end of this article you will discover a much more empowering way to interact and approach women with that hands down is much better way at actually attracting women.
Right now, here are the 7 best pick up lines to meet women with on St Patrick's day.

1. Well, ye caught me, lass! Now I can grant ye one wish, as long as it involves sex.
2. Lassie, it's your ancestral duty to drive the snake out of my pants!
3. How'd you like to help put the Irish Spring back into me shillelagh? I ain't got four leaves, baby, but if you pluck me, I'll give you luck!
4. Why don't you come catch a leprechaun with me? Maybe together we'll get Lucky!
5. Well, lass, we're the only ones still standing. How about a go?
6. You look magically delicious, and I just happen to be a cereal love maker.
7. Tip o' the Trojan to ye!

As you can see these particular pick up line would work best on St Patrick's day although depending on what kinds of bar and pubs you like to go to might work on different days as well. Yet, as mentioned earlier in this article, using pick up lines to meet women is pretty much the second least effective way you can expect to actually attract women with the least effective being doing absolutely nothing in regards to approach her.

Once you begin to realize that no matter what you say to a woman the possibility of rejection exists it will actually allow you to take advantage of the most powerful way to approach and more importantly attract women. Of course that would be by staying present in the moment and simply approaching a woman with what is truly on your mind no matter how dumb you think it may or may not be.

Believe it or not, when it comes to attracting women one of the most powerful ways to do so is by being the real you, which isn't what you are doing when you use pick up lines that you read on the internet to meet women.
Will being the real you work every time?

Of course not and neither will any pick up line that you use, however it is much easier to maintain the flow of a conversation with a woman when you are simply being who you are rather than being someone that you aren't when you use pick up lines.

In the end, if all you are really after is a good laugh with your friends and one of those "I can't believe I just asked her that" moments then go ahead and use a pick up line to do so.

However, for those of you who are actually looking to attract women more often than not being in the moment and trusting yourself is going to be far more effective than any pick up line can ever be, no matter how well scripted.