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среда, 11 февраля 2009 г.

Understanding Why Men Leave a Relationship

For as many men as there are in relationships there are likely as many reasons as to why men leave a relationship. I don't mean to try and oversimplify this or make light of it but in this article I will discuss a few reasons why men leave a relationship, at least some men that I know. This is not by any means a scientific survey but simply a summary of a conversation that I had with a bunch of my idiot friends. This information is not backed up with any psychological basis or theory. These are just the honest words spoken from the mouths of real guys in real relationships. Take from it what you will.

When one guy in the group made the statement "I'm thinking of leaving my girlfriend." Another responds "why would you want to leave her, that's a nice set up? Seems like you've got it made." The conversation starts. So why would he leave a relationship that seems to be going so well? His answer was tangential and scattered. He really didn't make any sense at all. Another guy jumps in and says answer the question with the first one or two words that pop into your tiny little brain. So he's asked again and this time he instantly says "I'm bored."

We decided to ask that question of everyone in the group with the challenge of stating the first one or two words that came to mind. Here's the responses: I'm bored (2); the thrill is gone (2); I miss the hunt (3); no variety (1); I can do better (2); I want my freedom (1). Looks like a common theme here. The majority of the responses are centered around boredom and routine. It sounds like the excitement has vanished and the relationship has lost its spark.

Our group of guys enhanced on this theme stating that in the initial phases of a relationship there is that excitement of trying to win over the lady. Trying to do anything that you can to make her notice you or express some interest in you. We are out there hunting and we want to capture our prey. The ritual of trying to impress a woman comes with a certain exhilarating thrill. We want that conquest and it really builds our egos when we make it happen.

So as long as we can keep the thrill of the hunt going we stand a better chance of keeping the relationship alive. Is that what it comes down to? Some of my bozo friends responded with a resounding yes! But how do you keep that feeling as you settle into a relationship and spontaneity is replaced with routine and responsibility? Our discussion came to a quick halt when our wives and girlfriends started to join us. We would have to solve the world's relationship problems on another day.

4 Steps - How to Get a Girlfriend

My goal in working with men just like you is to help you learn how to get a girlfriend, and a hot girlfriend at that as no one should "settle" for what is just available.

This is not a format for how to get a girlfriend online, but rather - in real life (nothing wrong with meeting women online, but it's not my specialty).

Well I'd like to teach you the four steps that you need to take to meet a woman; not only an attractive woman, but a woman who is right for you so that she becomes your girlfriend. These four steps will help you get a girlfriend at 13 or 53. It's kind of an art, as you will see.

STEP #1

Step number one seems pretty obvious, but it's really important. Get A Life!

Stop surfing the Internet. Stop reading articles like this every single day. Stop looking at the internet, or playing video games, or watching endless hours of "South Park" (my personal favorite TV show by the way). Get out into the world and start doing things.

Ask yourself this question, "How many people do you know who you can honestly say are really interesting people?" They are doing things that are different than other people. They are what I like to refer as individuals. Does that describe you??

I'm being a little snobbish and arrogant here, because I want to inspire you. In fact, I want to piss you off.

You need to get a life. If you're a guy who sucks with women, you're probably not very happy or interesting.

You're probably not really living the life you feel you should be living. A happy man is a man who lives in harmony with his nature (my short definition).

If you want to get a girlfriend, you need to get a life FIRST. So, get out into the world and do the things you've always wanted to do! OK?

If you don't have a lot of money, be creative. Be imaginative. Be active. Get a life. Do cool, fun, interesting, adventurous things. I refuse to believe that those are not available to you right now. As soon as you finish reading this article, you can leave your house and do something interesting.

STEP #2

Step number two in how to get a girlfriends is to get some social skills. This actually happens as a result of being a socialized human being. Guys who are kind of private, insulated, and introverted tend to struggle with this.

Guess what? I'm an introvert. Typically men who need to learn social skills, don't have them naturally, are kind of introverted and unsocialized.

If you get a life, (remember, that's step #1), suddenly you will be around people and you'll see that social skills are essential to learn to help you with things like approaching women.

When it comes down to how to get a girlfriend, approaching a woman is something you need to learn how to do. In fact, I would call it a right of passage. Regardless of whether or not you meet the woman of your dreams through a cold approach (and I'm here to tell you that probably won't), you need to learn to do a cold approach.

This is an experience that every man needs: to, on a certain day, see a woman and approach her, talk to her, and get her phone number. Every guy needs to have the experience of going from not knowing a woman to knowing her. It's very powerful, and it changes your reality. It helps you know that you can go after the things you want in life, not only women, but everything.

So get some social skills. Learn how to approach women. Learn how to flirt. Learn how to escalate. Learn how to get a date. Learn how to date. There is an art to that. It's not just dinner and a movie. Social skills are important.

Guys like me teach it. There are plenty of us coaches out there. I personally think I'm excellent at it. I know a number of others that are good at it too.

But again, get some social skills. That's step #2.

STEP #3

Step number three is to get a social life. The nice thing that happens when you get a life and you get social skills is that you can merge these together into what I would call a healthy, balanced social life.

Things like: being the leader of your social circle & doing interesting things are pretty important.

Becoming the "go 2 guy" in your social circle - which means you're out there in the community and you know what's happening. You know what's fun and adventurous. You know what's just opening or what's gotten the great reviews. Or, you know the kind of quiet, low key hidden places that no one else knows about and you lead your social circle in and through these adventurous experiences.

Suddenly, you become the "it" guy, the "cool" guy. People want to go and be with you and do the things that you're doing.

This is again something that I had to undertake after Project Hollywood (you read "The Game" right? Yeah, that was me man...). Once that dissolved, I realized that "sarging" (aka, going out for the sole purpose of picking-up girls) wasn't the end-all be-all to attracting women into my life.

I had to get out into the world and get a real social life. This means making friends and bringing those friends along with you on the particular outings you're going on and making them fun and adventurous.

In other words: start doing the things you want to do and meet the other people who are there doing it with you.

It aint rocket science man.

Leave your house right now (well, as soon as you finish this article). Start doing all the things you want to do. And, meet the other people who are there doing it with you. This is how to get a social life.

STEP #4

Step number four might seem counter-intuitive, but that's exactly why it's the hardest one.

Step number four is to stop trying!

Step number one, you get a life. It becomes a natural way of life for you. Your lifestyle is fulfilling. It's interesting. It's adventurous. You're out there doing it and living it on a regular basis.

Step umber two, you get some social skills. You don't have to become Mystery, me, Tyler Durden or Neil Strauss. You don't need to become an expert pick-up artist or an expert at socializing. It makes people weird. Just get decent at meeting and attracting women. You don't have to be great.

Once you get a social life, and you're meeting women naturally and on a regular basis, THEN you stop trying.

Wanna know "the secret"? No, I'm not talking about the tacky movie that came out a couple years ago.

The secret is that in order to get a girlfriend, you have to not be trying to get a girlfriend. Relationships happen when you're not looking. It happened to me that way and it happens to most people that way.

It's rare that a guy sees a girl across the street, approaches her, gets her number, takes her out on a date and they fall in love and live happily ever after. Usually, there's a little more art to it than that. The art is in how you live your life.

This is step number four because it's the highest level, the level of not-doing (ever read Zen??).

For a while, you're going to have to try and try hard. You're going to have to put a lot of energy into this and lean into your comfort zone on a regular basis. At a certain point, once you reach a level of aptitude, (not mastery, just aptitude) - stop trying.

Stop thinking about it! Stop reading websites about it (yes, this means YOU man). Get out into the world and make this a part of how you live on a daily basis. The right woman will come along when you least expect it.

Thanks for your time!

If You're Trying to Get Out of the Friend Zone - Should You Be Her Emotional Tampon?

Are you trying to get out of the friend zone with a female friend when she comes running to you with yet another problem? In your case, she might be in a relationship with a jerk who takes her for granted all the time, and she simply needs someone to cry to so she can feel a little better.

Most men trying to get out of the friend zone would have a very difficult time saying no to this. Her boyfriend messed up, and it's your opportunity to show her that you're better than him! And given that every woman on the planet loves to talk about EMOTIONS, this has got to be a blessing. Only an insane man would let that chance go.

But you have to understand one thing -- everytime a woman unloads all of her emotional baggage on you, you're destroying your chances to get out of the friend zone.

The Reason Why You Shouldn't Do It

So why shouldn't you do this if you're trying to get out of the friend zone? Since the two of you are already friends with each other, she already have some emotional connection with you. The only thing keeping you in the friend zone is her not being sexually attracted to you.

There's no doubt that females have a more powerful reaction to emotions than us males, but that doesn't mean that it should be the only ace you keep in your deck. The only way the two of you will be more than friends is if you work on getting her sexually attracted to you and keep your emotional connection at the same time.

If you're trying to get out of the friend zone, you are definitely better off amplifying her sexual attraction to you instead of further building your emotional connection with her. Think about it; whenever you see a woman you're physically attracted to, you're not going to think, "Oh, she might make a good friend" are you? No, you want to be more than friends with her, automatically.

What's happening to you right now is that you're hanging around trying to make her feel better about herself because some jerk she's sexually attracted made her cry -- and no, you're not reducing her physical attraction to him by one bit.

What You Should Do Instead

Don't be the default person she unloads her emotions on; an emotional tampon, if you may. Don't rush to console her when she has problems with life; save that job for her girlfriends. If you're trying to get out of the friend zone, work towards improving yourself and being that sexy, confident man that she can actually see herself being together and having physical intimacy with.

4 Steps - How to Get a Girlfriend

My goal in working with men just like you is to help you learn how to get a girlfriend, and a hot girlfriend at that as no one should "settle" for what is just available.

This is not a format for how to get a girlfriend online, but rather - in real life (nothing wrong with meeting women online, but it's not my specialty).

Well I'd like to teach you the four steps that you need to take to meet a woman; not only an attractive woman, but a woman who is right for you so that she becomes your girlfriend. These four steps will help you get a girlfriend at 13 or 53. It's kind of an art, as you will see.

STEP #1

Step number one seems pretty obvious, but it's really important. Get A Life!

Stop surfing the Internet. Stop reading articles like this every single day. Stop looking at the internet, or playing video games, or watching endless hours of "South Park" (my personal favorite TV show by the way). Get out into the world and start doing things.

Ask yourself this question, "How many people do you know who you can honestly say are really interesting people?" They are doing things that are different than other people. They are what I like to refer as individuals. Does that describe you??

I'm being a little snobbish and arrogant here, because I want to inspire you. In fact, I want to piss you off.

You need to get a life. If you're a guy who sucks with women, you're probably not very happy or interesting.

You're probably not really living the life you feel you should be living. A happy man is a man who lives in harmony with his nature (my short definition).

If you want to get a girlfriend, you need to get a life FIRST. So, get out into the world and do the things you've always wanted to do! OK?

If you don't have a lot of money, be creative. Be imaginative. Be active. Get a life. Do cool, fun, interesting, adventurous things. I refuse to believe that those are not available to you right now. As soon as you finish reading this article, you can leave your house and do something interesting.

STEP #2

Step number two in how to get a girlfriends is to get some social skills. This actually happens as a result of being a socialized human being. Guys who are kind of private, insulated, and introverted tend to struggle with this.

Guess what? I'm an introvert. Typically men who need to learn social skills, don't have them naturally, are kind of introverted and unsocialized.

If you get a life, (remember, that's step #1), suddenly you will be around people and you'll see that social skills are essential to learn to help you with things like approaching women.

When it comes down to how to get a girlfriend, approaching a woman is something you need to learn how to do. In fact, I would call it a right of passage. Regardless of whether or not you meet the woman of your dreams through a cold approach (and I'm here to tell you that probably won't), you need to learn to do a cold approach.

This is an experience that every man needs: to, on a certain day, see a woman and approach her, talk to her, and get her phone number. Every guy needs to have the experience of going from not knowing a woman to knowing her. It's very powerful, and it changes your reality. It helps you know that you can go after the things you want in life, not only women, but everything.

So get some social skills. Learn how to approach women. Learn how to flirt. Learn how to escalate. Learn how to get a date. Learn how to date. There is an art to that. It's not just dinner and a movie. Social skills are important.

Guys like me teach it. There are plenty of us coaches out there. I personally think I'm excellent at it. I know a number of others that are good at it too.

But again, get some social skills. That's step #2.

STEP #3

Step number three is to get a social life. The nice thing that happens when you get a life and you get social skills is that you can merge these together into what I would call a healthy, balanced social life.

Things like: being the leader of your social circle & doing interesting things are pretty important.

Becoming the "go 2 guy" in your social circle - which means you're out there in the community and you know what's happening. You know what's fun and adventurous. You know what's just opening or what's gotten the great reviews. Or, you know the kind of quiet, low key hidden places that no one else knows about and you lead your social circle in and through these adventurous experiences.

Suddenly, you become the "it" guy, the "cool" guy. People want to go and be with you and do the things that you're doing.

This is again something that I had to undertake after Project Hollywood (you read "The Game" right? Yeah, that was me man...). Once that dissolved, I realized that "sarging" (aka, going out for the sole purpose of picking-up girls) wasn't the end-all be-all to attracting women into my life.

I had to get out into the world and get a real social life. This means making friends and bringing those friends along with you on the particular outings you're going on and making them fun and adventurous.

In other words: start doing the things you want to do and meet the other people who are there doing it with you.

It aint rocket science man.

Leave your house right now (well, as soon as you finish this article). Start doing all the things you want to do. And, meet the other people who are there doing it with you. This is how to get a social life.

STEP #4

Step number four might seem counter-intuitive, but that's exactly why it's the hardest one.

Step number four is to stop trying!

Step number one, you get a life. It becomes a natural way of life for you. Your lifestyle is fulfilling. It's interesting. It's adventurous. You're out there doing it and living it on a regular basis.

Step umber two, you get some social skills. You don't have to become Mystery, me, Tyler Durden or Neil Strauss. You don't need to become an expert pick-up artist or an expert at socializing. It makes people weird. Just get decent at meeting and attracting women. You don't have to be great.

Once you get a social life, and you're meeting women naturally and on a regular basis, THEN you stop trying.

Wanna know "the secret"? No, I'm not talking about the tacky movie that came out a couple years ago.

The secret is that in order to get a girlfriend, you have to not be trying to get a girlfriend. Relationships happen when you're not looking. It happened to me that way and it happens to most people that way.

It's rare that a guy sees a girl across the street, approaches her, gets her number, takes her out on a date and they fall in love and live happily ever after. Usually, there's a little more art to it than that. The art is in how you live your life.

This is step number four because it's the highest level, the level of not-doing (ever read Zen??).

For a while, you're going to have to try and try hard. You're going to have to put a lot of energy into this and lean into your comfort zone on a regular basis. At a certain point, once you reach a level of aptitude, (not mastery, just aptitude) - stop trying.

Stop thinking about it! Stop reading websites about it (yes, this means YOU man). Get out into the world and make this a part of how you live on a daily basis. The right woman will come along when you least expect it.

Thanks for your time!

Asking the Right Questions to Get the Right Woman For You

Sometimes you meet several women you like in the same time. For some guys this would be a very good situation because they have options to choose. For some guys it is a dilemma, especially if you already have little interest with the women. 

Let me help you in this. You have their phone numbers and emails and now you are going to start a contact with them. What now?  How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who do not have any potential at all?  You need to find out more about who they really are and not just who they want you to believe they are. 

It would be a lot easier if women wore labels like Gold Digger or Nice Girl but they are not so it is up to you to find these things out and you can not just ask direct questions about it to them. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress them if you decide you want to do that. These are some things to ask to them personally.

After the initial small talk, you should ask her about what are the biggest mistakes guys do when dating with her. Listen carefully to her answers.  She is going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general. 

Next you should ask her opinion about dating. Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating and help you to avoid making the same mistakes. 

Now for the important one, you should ask her about the cause of the break up in her last relationship. If she puts all the blame on the guy, it means that she is the kind of person who blame it to the other. If she takes all the blame herself, she is the kind that submissive to bad situations. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just was not right for either of them, then she is pretty fair in handling situations. Move forward but always with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you the right answers. Those answers are the best ingredients for your personal evaluation, so you can decide which one is the most appropriate candidate for you. No matter what are the answers and the evaluation result, you also need to listen to your own answers from your heart.

Asking the Right Questions to Get the Right Woman For You

Sometimes you meet several women you like in the same time. For some guys this would be a very good situation because they have options to choose. For some guys it is a dilemma, especially if you already have little interest with the women. 

Let me help you in this. You have their phone numbers and emails and now you are going to start a contact with them. What now?  How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who do not have any potential at all?  You need to find out more about who they really are and not just who they want you to believe they are. 

It would be a lot easier if women wore labels like Gold Digger or Nice Girl but they are not so it is up to you to find these things out and you can not just ask direct questions about it to them. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress them if you decide you want to do that. These are some things to ask to them personally.

After the initial small talk, you should ask her about what are the biggest mistakes guys do when dating with her. Listen carefully to her answers.  She is going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general. 

Next you should ask her opinion about dating. Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating and help you to avoid making the same mistakes. 

Now for the important one, you should ask her about the cause of the break up in her last relationship. If she puts all the blame on the guy, it means that she is the kind of person who blame it to the other. If she takes all the blame herself, she is the kind that submissive to bad situations. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just was not right for either of them, then she is pretty fair in handling situations. Move forward but always with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you the right answers. Those answers are the best ingredients for your personal evaluation, so you can decide which one is the most appropriate candidate for you. No matter what are the answers and the evaluation result, you also need to listen to your own answers from your heart.

Online Dating Cons

There are a lot of reasons to use an online Christian dating service. Conversely,there are also some good reasons not to use one.

Christian Dating Site Users Can Lie

Of course, lying can occur in any forum, whether it's through an online Christian dating site, or in a Christian singles group. Pathological liars who date make the rounds everywhere. But it is a little easier to lie in front of a computer screen. And most of us have stories of folks pretending to be somebody online that they're really not, like the dating married guy, or that single girl who manipulates that lonely single guy into spending big bucks on her.

Dating Site Photos Can Lie Too

Boy, we ain't kidding! That's all I've got to say about that. Next! If you are a little insecure and thinking about touching up, ahem...your photo, please don't try that. Instead check out our online picture advice that will help fix you up real nice.

There is a Learning Curve Attached to Christian Dating Site Use

Some Christian singles get frustrated with Christian dating sites because they may not attain positive results straight away. That's why is important to understand how to start using a Christian dating site before spending your money on a membership.

Bottom line: The dating advice here is to join some of the top Christian dating sites that offer free trial memberships, and see how they work.

Christian Dating Site Use Is Addicting

It's very easy to get carried away when online. Not only is it not a good idea for your health to spend too much time in front of a computer, you lose out on family, ministry and other opportunities to enjoy life.

Overall,So please see your online use as a complementary item to other ways for meeting a date in your everyday living.

Powerful Seduction Technique That Creates Instant Sexual Attraction In Any Woman

What's the key to becoming the ultimate female magnet? Being unique, fascinating and different from every other guy. I realized that my personality was kind of bland. I viewed myself from a woman's perspective and was shocked, I was boring and generic. I'm not that bad looking, but I wasn't getting any bedroom action with hot women. I was bedding unattractive chubby girls, I was operating from a source of scarcity. I noticed that my personality made me unattractive.

During my social makeover, it became evident that I need a new beefed up and edgy personality. I was to change my beta neediness into a confident alpha type man. Once I changed, the women I started to interact with became attracted to me. Light bulb moment... all females are extremely attracted to a alpha superior males. They begin to fall into their proper role, a slightly inferior role. Females don't really want to be leaders, they want to be led by a strong man. That creates crazy attraction.

Now when I see a hot women I like, I lock eye contact with her, and I make her look away first. I used to be the guy that would sneak a peek and look away first. Now through conditioning it's not a issue for me to hold my gaze until she breaks the interaction. The strong eye contact intrigues her because, I believe most guys are afraid of good looking women.

I also make sure I'm in a great mental frame, or else it'll become a creepy stare. I picture her wanting my body and that puts a smile on my face, which transfers to my body language. Eye contact conveys confidence and since I make her turn away first, she let's indicating to me that I'm more dominate than her. She's not used to being dominated mentally so this creates instant attraction.

So now I have a window of opportunity, I approach my hot target. Walk up to her confidently and say "Hi there, I saw you checking me out". This short opening greeting conveys my confident personality and sexual confidence. It's my belief that all women love sex, she's going to have sex with me or someone else. I'm just making myself sexually available.

Online Dating Cons

There are a lot of reasons to use an online Christian dating service. Conversely,there are also some good reasons not to use one.

Christian Dating Site Users Can Lie

Of course, lying can occur in any forum, whether it's through an online Christian dating site, or in a Christian singles group. Pathological liars who date make the rounds everywhere. But it is a little easier to lie in front of a computer screen. And most of us have stories of folks pretending to be somebody online that they're really not, like the dating married guy, or that single girl who manipulates that lonely single guy into spending big bucks on her.

Dating Site Photos Can Lie Too

Boy, we ain't kidding! That's all I've got to say about that. Next! If you are a little insecure and thinking about touching up, ahem...your photo, please don't try that. Instead check out our online picture advice that will help fix you up real nice.

There is a Learning Curve Attached to Christian Dating Site Use

Some Christian singles get frustrated with Christian dating sites because they may not attain positive results straight away. That's why is important to understand how to start using a Christian dating site before spending your money on a membership.

Bottom line: The dating advice here is to join some of the top Christian dating sites that offer free trial memberships, and see how they work.

Christian Dating Site Use Is Addicting

It's very easy to get carried away when online. Not only is it not a good idea for your health to spend too much time in front of a computer, you lose out on family, ministry and other opportunities to enjoy life.

Overall,So please see your online use as a complementary item to other ways for meeting a date in your everyday living.

Dating Secret #1

Knowing the right steps to take is something that a lot of people have a hard time to do when it comes to the dating scene. Even guys who have a decent amount of success don't always know what the right steps are. Many people wind up looking for a secret that can help them to achieve the objective of meeting someone that they can have a good time with.

And this brings me to the dating secret I think is most important. And that is:

ENJOY YOURSELF!

The most important thing you can do when you are on a date or you are out to meet someone new is to enjoy yourself. When you put too much pressure on yourself and forget that the real goal is just to have a good time, you lose sight of what the dating scene really is. A place to have a good time.

Do not put yourself in a state where you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Relax and stay in the frame of mind that you are just trying to have some fun and you will be able to attract someone that reflects that. If you put yourself in a position where you feel like you have to find someone no matter what, you will not be able to make a good and clear decision of what that means to you.

Remember that life is meant to be enjoyed and that dating is one of those things where you should experience good times.

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