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Great Tips to Help You Keep a Man's Attention

Whoever said relationships were easy must have been a man. Trying to stay happy and connected with one another isn't a simple task. If you are a woman who wants to keep a man's attention there's a few fundamental things you need to be doing. Relationships certainly do take work but with a little effort you can have him committed to you forever.

One of the easiest ways to keep a man's attention is to be a little unavailable. As women, we have a habit of focusing on the man in our lives. We may give up other interests in favor of spending time with him. When a man begins to notice this happening he starts losing interest quickly. A great way to keep a man's attention is to plan regular outings with girlfriends, or take weekend trips out of town. You need to ensure that he always has a chance to miss you, at least a little bit.

Being confident is another way to keep a man's attention. Men want women who love themselves. Even if your body isn't perfect or you don't have the job you've always dreamt of, own and celebrate what you do have. When a man sees a woman who is happy with herself, he's drawn to that. He'll actually find it irresistible.

You have to be genuine if you want to keep a man's attention. Don't ever try and be someone you're not. If he tells you that he prefers blondes, and you are a brunette, he's not worth the trouble of changing your hair color. The same is true of a man who suggests that you may need to lose a few pounds. If you succumb to what he wants, you are changing who you are. Be honest and never give in to his idea of ideal. If you have to become someone other than who you genuinely are, he's not the right guy for you. Quality men love women who are honest and true to themselves. Never be afraid to voice your opinions when it comes to a man. If you first please yourself, you'll automatically be pleasing him.

Taking Action is the Only Way to Improve Your Dating Success

I've encountered many men who seem to have poor luck dating. Many of my friends even have this problem, and have no idea how to fix it. But I've found that in many of these cases the men having these problems have not really taken action to improve their situations. I've tried to explain to them that it is UP TO THEM to improve their situations, and that no one else can do it for them. But they still seem reluctant to step outside their 'comfort zone' and attempt to meet women. The choices we make in this lifetime dictate how our lives turn out. A woman is not going to just fall from the sky at your feet, no matter how much you wish it would happen.

Now I understand many of these guys have never had any success with women at all, and so the concept that they could change this is alien to them. But it's not a joke, it's a fact. Many of these guys are so stuck in a rut that they don't even really put forth an effort to talk to women anymore. They just give the same, tired excuses. The excuses these men give for having poor success with women are always the same. "I'm not rich", "I'm out of shape", "I'm a nice guy and women just walk all over me", "The only way I can get girls to talk to me is to buy them drinks", etc. Well I got news for ya, sparky: Sitting around moping and making excuses isn't going to change your luck. It's only going to make it worse.

The fact of the matter is women, especially good looking ones, don't need to make an effort to meet guys. They get hit on quite regularly. In fact, they get hit on so much that many of them are guarded when they first meet a guy because they're EXPECTING that he will hit on her. Some women thrive on this, but many are annoyed. They get tired of never being taken seriously by men and only having guys want to get in their pants. For this reason, many women will put up a shield when men try to initiate conversation with them. This only serves to further frustrate these men, who believe that there is something wrong with them if a woman does not instantly act attracted to him.

This is why these men MUST TAKE ACTION! You can't just do what you've always done and expect your situation to improve. If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten. If you make an effort to really TRY to meet women, your situation will slowly start to improve.

Now I know this sounds easier said than done, but it's really not. All you have to do is make a commitment, right now, to constantly make an effort to meet new women. This doesn't mean hitting on every woman you see, or being overbearing in your attempts to talk to them. It just means that when you're conducting your day-to-day business, make an effort to talk to women who catch your eye. It could be anywhere. The grocery store, the video store, the cafe you're having lunch at, the Starbucks by your work, your school, the sports league you play on, the church you attend, ANYWHERE. Women, like anyone, appreciate good friendly conversation. And many will be surprisingly receptive to you if you try to initiate one with them.

Now I don't want you to feel like i'm blowing smoke, so just let me give a few words of wisdom here. Don't just walk up to a woman and expect that you can talk to her about ANYTHING. You've got to go through the process of getting to know one another and this takes time. Open with something lighthearted, like a joke. Then, follow it up with a question or a comment. Make it something open-ended that will engage her in conversation. Try to avoid asking simple yes-or-no questions that really don't lead the conversation anywhere.

And there you have it! You're now in conversation with a REAL WOMAN! Oh my god I bet you feel like Wiley Coyote when he caught the Roadrunner and didn't know what to do with it.

I'll talk more about how to open conversation with a woman and what to talk about in a future article. But for now, I hope I've given you guys something to mentally digest. If you want to change your dating luck, you MUST take action. Action is the key.

Wishing you the best in all of your dating endeavors,
Tony Derrick

P.S. Learn more about how to take action by checking out my dating guide book. You won't regret it.

5 Reasons a Relationship is Like a Job!

If you're wondering why your relationship is not working out, or you just can't seem to find that special someone, I'm about to tell you.

Meeting somebody for the first time is like a job interview. You dress up nice, set a date, plan what you will say, and practice how you will answer his/her questions and so on. You follow up with this person as if you were following up with that job interview. Sometimes you may even go on several more dates (interviews) to make sure this person is a good candidate.

A relationship should be treated like a job.

1. A relationship is a full time job. It is only respectful that you give your partner the heads up on your whereabouts. Some people have the classic "She does not need to know where I'm at all the time" attitude. That statement might be true for the beginning stages of dating but not when you have committed yourself to the beginning stages of a relationship. Wouldn't your business partner want to know why the hell you haven't been showing up for work or why you were late for the meeting? It's the same thing. Always make sure you contact your partner throughout the day, to build up trust.

2. A relationship takes a lot of work. Nothing comes for free. Just like a job, if you want good returns and benefits, you have to put in quality work. Get rid of that selfish attitude of "me, me, me". I noticed that men as well as women place strict demands on their partner to live up to their unrealistic expectations, yet they themselves do not have these similar qualities. It's almost like a company placing strict demands on your work performance but your paycheck always comes in late, or not at all. Are you going to stand for that? I don't think so. These relationship partners are in my eyes very selfish in nature and will only end up being lonely or unhappy if they don't decide to change. The next time you feel insecure or selfish in your relationship, put some work into it.

3. Most relationships are destroyed because of the lack of communication. Partners tend to wait too long before telling you that something's been bothering them. Situations that bother you should be handled immediately. Just as if someone was giving you a hard time at work, it's good to confront the situation as soon as it happens. You don't want your boss saying to you "well how come you did not tell me this sooner?" Hesitating will make you look timid and week.

4. Benefits should be quite obvious and goes without saying. If you find the benefits not fulfilling, I suggest you find a new mate. The long term benefit (retirement) is that you don't have to grow old lonely. Somebody needs to change your "Depends diapers".

5. Pink Slip: No call no show? You may get several write-ups but sooner or later you will be fired.

All of this information is valuable, but a relationship is nothing unless two people share equally good hearts. There are very few good hearts out there so that is why there are very few good relationships and marriages. In any case, thanks for reading my article. So remember, the next time you're in a relationship, treat it like a job and put some work into it!

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