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пятница, 10 октября 2008 г.

How to Create Attractive Profiles-Personals For Internet Dating

Alright singles, writing an good self description is crucial for attracting the types of relationships you want in your life. Here are some tricks of the writing trade that will help you to write a fun and attractive personal description.

1.Who are You?
Take 5 words that BEST describe you and use them in your description. (These 5 words will also describe what type of person you are subconsciously looking for and attracting.) EXAMPLES: Bold people attract boldness, Happy people attract happiness, Academic people attract academics, Adventurous people attract adventure, Etc.

2.Personality and Tone: Nothing is more boring to read than writing with no style or personality. When writing your description, write it as if you are actually talking face to face with someone. This will add tone to your writing, revealing your personality, and giving your description more substance and color:

Bad description: Energetic, fun, beach volleyball player seeks partner... (yawn)

Good description: Hi guys, I love spending time in the sun playing a good game of beach volleyball and if you think you've got the energy for a fun girl like me, send me a message ;)

Make sure that you can Feel the difference, when writing your self description. Make it feel conversational and people will find it easier to get into a conversation with you.

3.Things in Common: People are looking for singles who they have things in common with. Write about your hobbies, interests and other activities that you enjoy doing. It will help attract someone with a common lifestyle and it makes for excellent conversation starters:

You - "Loves to play tennis"

Them - "Hey did you see the US open final match!?"

BAM, it is on! Now that a commonality has been established you can start a small conversation around it.

Bottom Line
Write ALOT about who you are and what you want. Most people take online dating seriously because they are paying money and want to get a good result. If they stop to read your bio and you give them hardly any information describing who you are as a person, you are shooting yourself in the foot... and we will disown you. Take your time to do a good full bio.

Rejection, Protection Or Blessing?

Life and the path to lasting love, by their very nature, entail rejection. Even the most beautiful and powerful among us are not immune from it. Princess Diana, Abraham Lincoln, Al Gore, Jennifer Aniston and everyone voted off Survivor has suffered rejection's sting. At least the vast majority of us in the dating world can be grateful that millions aren't watching our rejection on TV or reading about it in the tabloids!

While dating leads to love and marriage, dating is also a land ripe for rejection! Who hasn't heard, and said, "You're a great person, but..." One thing I know. If you're out there taking chances, meeting new people and dating, you're going to suffer rejection. The good news is rejection isn't fatal! It just isn't pleasant.

The truth is, the more chances we take in trying to find lasting love, the more we open ourselves up to the pain of rejection. But, as Radames sings in Aida, "Fortune favors the bold!" I've yet to meet anyone who sat at home, did nothing and had Prince Charming magically appear at her door. The bottom line is if you desire to find a life partner and enjoy the intimacy of lasting love, you must risk rejection.

My observation is that when rejection comes our way, we have the following choices:

1). Shutoff our hopes, dreams and feelings. Many singles make this devastating decision in an attempt to stop the pain. I understand why-- rejection feels terrible and appears to confirm our deepest fears as it whispers we're unlovable, inadequate, unworthy or simply not good enough! The problem with shutting off our hopes, dreams and feelings is that it limits our actions and ability to live and love. Furthermore, shutting off our hopes, dreams and feelings can lead to depression, which further hinds our desirability and our willingness to get back into the game when a relationship doesn't work out. In short this decision prevents us from growing, achieving and eventually acquiring the relationship we desire and deserve!

2). Learn from it. Sometimes rejection occurs for a valid reason. Healthy individuals search to see if changes are in order and act accordingly. Perhaps you're a bit boorish and dominate conversations. If this is true, learn ask interesting questions of others and listen to their responses! Maybe you disclose way too much information, way too soon. If so, let your love interest get to know you before you air out all your dirty laundry. Maybe you're a couch potato, possessive, controlling or domineering... With work, you can change those patterns! The bottom line is, if there's something you're doing that's pushing a potential partner away, fix it! We humans are incredibly bright and have the ability to learn and grow from every experience as long as we don't choose bitterness, blame and anger as our response.

3) Recognize that rejection isn't always about you! Others approach the world from their own needs and brokenness--maybe their mom dropped them on their head. Perhaps they've had bad experiences in the past and aren't willing to risk letting another individual in. Who knows, you may even look like their second grade teacher! Or, just maybe, someone else is a better fit. If that's the case, move on and value yourself highly enough to believe that you're going to be a better fit for someone else. The truth of the matter is that regardless of how terrible rejection feels, it isn't always personal!

4). Choose to view it as protection. Looking back on my life, I clearly see God's hand of protection through many of the rejections I've experienced, relationships that had they progressed further would have been detrimental. I was convinced of what I wanted and had to have, but my radar was faulty and I continued to date emotionally unavailable men. I am so thankful for the bullets I've dodged that I could only see once a relationship had ended. With a little bit of practice it's easy to learn to recognize and appreciate failed relationships that wouldn't have been satisfying, mutual or healthy!

5). See it as a blessing! Beyond greater pain and potential disaster being adverted, in the long run I've often received something far better than what I would have happily settled for. Like in Garth Brooks' "Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers..." A rejection from someone good, opens up room in your life for someone better!

While we can't control rejection, the choice to learn, grow and move forward is always ours. If you've closed your heart, ask God to heal it. Find a good counselor if you can't get over things on your own. I personally owe a great deal to counselors-it's amazing how helpful a well-trained, objective third party can be! If you want to attract a confident, healthy partner, you need to be a confident, healthy person in your own right.

Ultimately, each of us is responsible for growing and for taking the steps and risks to achieve our dreams. Great relationships don't magically happen! If you want to meet Prince Charming, you can't spend your life in front of your television. Learning to view rejection as a friend, protector and teacher will enable you to pick yourself up, because someone out there is a better fit! Move confidently in the direction of your dream relationship and always remember that rejection isn't fatal. Ultimately, it all boils down to, "to the riskers go the spoils".

Get the Girl You Want - Tips For Shy Guys

Have you ever wondered why some men meet women easily, while others watch forever from the sidelines? About 20% of men are naturally shy. These people are not naturally at ease with themselves around others. They are unsure and are not ready to be noticed. They might even experience physical sensations like blushing, shaking, or feeling short of breath.

There is nothing inherently wrong with shyness; if it were something so terrible, then it probably would have been weeded out of the gene pool by now! But successful shy men learn to manage their shyness. They know that without putting in some effort to the contrary, shyness will prevent them from sharing themselves with others and successfully approaching women of interest.

Take comfort in the fact that you needn't change completely. Not all women want to date outgoing men. Some even find such men intimidating or turn-offs. And it's likely that the best match for you is a bit shy herself! But in order to meet her, you do need to learn to take the first step.

It might help to practice overcoming your shyness with people who aren't of romantic interest. Try talking a bit more to grocery clerks, neighbors, or co-workers. Try smiling and making eye contact a bit more every day. Once you become comfortable smiling at other strangers, smiling at a special lady won't be as big of a step as it was before. From there you can move to a simple "Hello."

Once you have set a date with a woman, you will probably worry about all the talking it could involve! One strategy is to plan a movie night followed by dessert or tea. The movie will then be a natural topic of conversation. Another strategy is to ask questions about your date's life. Once she starts talking, you'll be inspired with more ideas to contribute. And it's quite likely that she'll appreciate what a great listener you are!

Accept that shyness is a part of you, and that you do not have to change your core personality. You only need to become more confident in your own skin, and thereby allow others the opportunity to see just how thoughtful and fun you can be. It will be worth the hard work!

Free Membership Dating - What You Get For Free

Are you looking for free membership dating? You will find there are two types of such dating site; one will inundate you with spam, the other will actually give you a fantastic dating experience without the need to use a credit card. You are about to find out which is which so you can avoid any future unpleasantness.

You came to this article because, more than likely, you searched for free membership dating in Google, Yahoo or MSN. If you were looking for a totally free dating site I hope you will heed what follows as a warning. The free dating sites - we see them scattered everyone over the internet - are intended to lure people in for the purposes of spamming paid offers. You will find, more often than not, that you receive spam while surfing the sites (supposedly pretty girls selling live cam shows, for instance) and also in the email inbox that you used to join the site. It, however, gets even worse. Most of the profiles of good-looking men and women are actually fake; created by spammers to sell various products, like cams and dating.

Avoid such sites like the plague. There is a far better solution. A solution that is free of spam and fake profiles and is, still, entirely free.

Paid dating sites offer a free membership option. These sites, unlike the totally free ones, are regulated and safe. Consequently, millions of people trust them. But what do you get with a free membership? A lot, actually; quite a lot indeed.

It takes about 2 minutes to join and you wont be asked for a credit card. With your free membership you can create a profile; search, browse for and view other profiles; upload photos; add friends; and, perhaps most importantly, send and receive emails.

You get all of those features free without the need for a credit card. Not only that but all the profiles are free and you will not - ever - receive any spam. So the next time you consider free membership dating, look no further than a popular dating site with a few million members.

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