How to Make a Woman Thirst For You (More Tips From the Seduction Underground)

Do you want to learn how to make a woman CRAVE you? If you do, then you definitely need to continue reading. Attraction is all about commanding a woman's emotions. And here is how to do it like a pro. Read on.

How to Make a Woman Thirst For You

The Basis of Attraction

The basis of attraction is the combination of being a high value man and generating a lot of emotions within the woman. If you can do this, attraction will surely happen.

With that being said, a high value man never reacts. Instead, he CAUSES reactions in other people. You see, a reaction is an emotion. Causing a woman to react will cause her to have an emotion that is linked to you. The wider range of emotions (both positive and negative) the more of an "emotional investment" she will have in you.

Emotional Polarization

This is an extremely potent technique if used right. What happens is that you need to give a woman the time of her life. I am serious, you need to get her absolutely giddy when she is with you by making her laugh, jump around, or whatever.

Right when the emotions are at its peak, you need to get out of there. Tell her you see friends you want to catch up with or something and leave. This will cause all those awesome emotions to leave with you and she will be left with a type of "zero" state where she has a void of emotions.

This will create a strong attraction for you as she will want returns from that emotional investment. Find her about 20 minutes later and she will be all over you.

What Should I Do If He's Not Calling Anymore?

If you are dating a man and his calls are declining or if he's broken up with you and you want him to call, your best bet is to understand how leveraging power affects the way people respond to you.

If he's losing interest or not calling, learn how to increase your value so that you will have power to leverage.

Let's look at it this way...

If a company is losing money then suddenly get a great product that everyone wants, this company's luck will turn around.

You have to BECOME the company and figure out what "product" or in your case behavior you can use to turn your luck around.

Instead of sitting down feeling sorry for yourself, figure out how you can increase your value - is it getting a new haircut, taking a sexy salsa class, losing a few pounds or hanging back a bit?

If you figure out what to do to increase your power, you will not continue to feel powerless because someone else's behavior cause you to feel unworthy.

A man is more inclined to call you if you take the pressure off and increase your value. Everyone wants to think they are getting the best value and being a cool woman will increase attraction and cause men to beg for your attention.

What do you do with the attraction you are feeling for a man? Do you get "weird" on him, start to over analyze his behavior, sit at home and wait for him to call?

Understand what makes men commit by signing up below for my free book.

What Should I Do If He's Not Calling Anymore?

If you are dating a man and his calls are declining or if he's broken up with you and you want him to call, your best bet is to understand how leveraging power affects the way people respond to you.

If he's losing interest or not calling, learn how to increase your value so that you will have power to leverage.

Let's look at it this way...

If a company is losing money then suddenly get a great product that everyone wants, this company's luck will turn around.

You have to BECOME the company and figure out what "product" or in your case behavior you can use to turn your luck around.

Instead of sitting down feeling sorry for yourself, figure out how you can increase your value - is it getting a new haircut, taking a sexy salsa class, losing a few pounds or hanging back a bit?

If you figure out what to do to increase your power, you will not continue to feel powerless because someone else's behavior cause you to feel unworthy.

A man is more inclined to call you if you take the pressure off and increase your value. Everyone wants to think they are getting the best value and being a cool woman will increase attraction and cause men to beg for your attention.

What do you do with the attraction you are feeling for a man? Do you get "weird" on him, start to over analyze his behavior, sit at home and wait for him to call?

Understand what makes men commit by signing up below for my free book.

Caregiver Syndrome

Some of the nicest people I have ever meet are caregivers. You know the ones, always doing for others, typically putting their own needs aside. When a caregiver chooses a career it tends to be one in something like social work, teaching, nursing etc. They choose these career paths because it makes them feel good about themselves. It gives them purpose. When they fulfill that "need to be needed" in their career choice great things can be achieved.

Yet some caregivers carry that need to be needed into dating and relationships. This is never a wise decision but it is their nature. It helps them feel good about them self...and then, they end up feeling bad.

I could take a caregiver and place them in a room with 100 other people and the caregiver will automatically gravitate toward the one person in the room who is screwed up! It is almost magnetic at times. A caregiver is always is attracted to defective people and situations. This is why they end up in bad or even abusive relationships. Most of the time caregivers don't even realize how much pain they have caused them self in their choices.

I see about 5 or 6 caregivers walk through my front door each week. Most of them have had bad relationships in their past and many have been abused either emotionally or physically. They are hesitant to make any decisions, move forward or try something new because they don't even trust their own judgment anymore.

The reasons why caregivers come into my office is to break that vicious cycle, give themselves a chance at true love and being loved but most importantly, to stop the pain. This however, is a hard thing for a caregiver to do because it means that they are now being taken care of instead of doing the care giving them self.

The first step in fixing a problem is recognizing that the problem does exist. Next, is accepting it and preparing to do something positive to change the current situation. The most important step is follow through. Don't just say you want to make changes, actually commit to doing something about it and then stick to it. Don't give up so quickly...

Sometimes it is nice to let others take care of you for a change!

How to Win a Girl's Heart - 5 Tips to Win Over Your Dream Girl

You might be one of those who have nothing out of ordinary in them who brood over the similar steps which you might be needed of so as to you can convince the lady for whom you have a desire for - the one that you might have seen in the classroom, or the girl with whom you spoke with in a weekend party. Most of the guys find it very intimidating to convince and win over a girl, it is not necessary that it always has to be like that, specially for these topics there is a lot of new information in the field of psychology.

Most of the men think about the ways with which a girl can be attracted. From over many years men have been trying every possible way to win over the girls also known as the "Venusians". Below are some useful tips that might help you win over your dream girl.

You must have in yourself the talent to attract, to easily win over any girl's heart. Nowadays it is not a compulsion for you to chase the girls. Rather the girl will come from front. The method of attracting a girl is not a very big deal. There are several methods and ways which might help you out in getting close with your choice of girl.

The best trick to win over your girl would be being out of ordinary. Being extraordinary might do your work instantly, as every girl dreams of having a man who has these qualities in him. Bring out these things in you and prove that she is very special for you it will help you become the special man of any girl's life. Your musical talent, or skills in sport or any other talent of yours might prove to be helpful.

The Venusians are fond of fame, which can work wonders for you in getting close to your girl. Simply sticking to others methods might not prove to be helpful for you in any way. You have to create your unique style and persona. These will improve your level of confidence, and show that you can handle any kind of situation easily. Every girl likes her man to have such a quality in him.

The first impression is the best one, so you have to have a good presentation in front of the girls. Your problems regarding attracting the girls can be easily solved if you possess fine communicating skills. Having an excellent conversation with the girl will help in creating a good impression in her mind.

Finally, to win over a girl's heart, you must have the right approach. As per this new technique, the secret of winning over the fondness of your dream girl is based on the conception of value. You need to make her realise your worth in her life, and you are the 'prize' which she has to win over.

Romantic Date at Home Ideas

Inviting your lover over and having some fun at home isn't difficult if you have the initiative and the creativity to make a homemade date exciting. Here are some ideas for a romantic date at home.

1. Karaoke Night.

Why not dress up and sing songs together, bistro-style? You may not be a professional singer but you will soon get the hang of singing your heart out for someone you love. You and your date can take turns singing, and you can prepare some beer and chips to really feel like you're in a classy Karaoke bar. The keys to romance include: singing sultry duets together and making sure your partner is having fun watching you sing.

2. Backyard Camping or Fireplace Gazing

If you've always wanted to rough it out, your backyard can act as your mountain habitat while you still don't have the time to go hiking. Roast some marshmallows, and prepare some hotdogs while you play scrabble by the grill. If it's too cold outside, you and your date can cuddle in front of a cozy fire. The ideal beverage for this date is hot cocoa (spiked or not). Find warmth around a cozy fire or share a blanket and cuddle in front of the fire.

If you don't have a fireplace, you can light some scented candles. Spend the night feeding each other some cheese, grapes and tuna canapes. Enjoy some wine and each other's company in the cafe-like ambiance of your dimly lit living room.

3. Give each other a makeover

Dress up in terry cloth robes and apply exfoliating lotions and moisturizers on each other's back. You can slice some avocados and put the fruit's pulp on your faces. After you've washed up, you can start giving each other a massage. The best part of this date comes when one or both of you feel the need to take things further. An erotic massage after a few hours of pampering is extremely pleasurable.

4. Exotic Dancing

If you and your partner are adventurous enough, you can go for a strip tease. How does this work? You can assign a stripper and a customer for the first run, and then you can switch. This role play dating game is particularly appealing to women because they love to dance to jazzy music and show off their bodies. Men who are in touch with their creative sides (or at least, their sense of humor) will also do well. You can play this up by using props and adult costumes.

Romantic Date at Home Ideas

Inviting your lover over and having some fun at home isn't difficult if you have the initiative and the creativity to make a homemade date exciting. Here are some ideas for a romantic date at home.

1. Karaoke Night.

Why not dress up and sing songs together, bistro-style? You may not be a professional singer but you will soon get the hang of singing your heart out for someone you love. You and your date can take turns singing, and you can prepare some beer and chips to really feel like you're in a classy Karaoke bar. The keys to romance include: singing sultry duets together and making sure your partner is having fun watching you sing.

2. Backyard Camping or Fireplace Gazing

If you've always wanted to rough it out, your backyard can act as your mountain habitat while you still don't have the time to go hiking. Roast some marshmallows, and prepare some hotdogs while you play scrabble by the grill. If it's too cold outside, you and your date can cuddle in front of a cozy fire. The ideal beverage for this date is hot cocoa (spiked or not). Find warmth around a cozy fire or share a blanket and cuddle in front of the fire.

If you don't have a fireplace, you can light some scented candles. Spend the night feeding each other some cheese, grapes and tuna canapes. Enjoy some wine and each other's company in the cafe-like ambiance of your dimly lit living room.

3. Give each other a makeover

Dress up in terry cloth robes and apply exfoliating lotions and moisturizers on each other's back. You can slice some avocados and put the fruit's pulp on your faces. After you've washed up, you can start giving each other a massage. The best part of this date comes when one or both of you feel the need to take things further. An erotic massage after a few hours of pampering is extremely pleasurable.

4. Exotic Dancing

If you and your partner are adventurous enough, you can go for a strip tease. How does this work? You can assign a stripper and a customer for the first run, and then you can switch. This role play dating game is particularly appealing to women because they love to dance to jazzy music and show off their bodies. Men who are in touch with their creative sides (or at least, their sense of humor) will also do well. You can play this up by using props and adult costumes.

Romantic Date at Home Ideas

Inviting your lover over and having some fun at home isn't difficult if you have the initiative and the creativity to make a homemade date exciting. Here are some ideas for a romantic date at home.

1. Karaoke Night.

Why not dress up and sing songs together, bistro-style? You may not be a professional singer but you will soon get the hang of singing your heart out for someone you love. You and your date can take turns singing, and you can prepare some beer and chips to really feel like you're in a classy Karaoke bar. The keys to romance include: singing sultry duets together and making sure your partner is having fun watching you sing.

2. Backyard Camping or Fireplace Gazing

If you've always wanted to rough it out, your backyard can act as your mountain habitat while you still don't have the time to go hiking. Roast some marshmallows, and prepare some hotdogs while you play scrabble by the grill. If it's too cold outside, you and your date can cuddle in front of a cozy fire. The ideal beverage for this date is hot cocoa (spiked or not). Find warmth around a cozy fire or share a blanket and cuddle in front of the fire.

If you don't have a fireplace, you can light some scented candles. Spend the night feeding each other some cheese, grapes and tuna canapes. Enjoy some wine and each other's company in the cafe-like ambiance of your dimly lit living room.

3. Give each other a makeover

Dress up in terry cloth robes and apply exfoliating lotions and moisturizers on each other's back. You can slice some avocados and put the fruit's pulp on your faces. After you've washed up, you can start giving each other a massage. The best part of this date comes when one or both of you feel the need to take things further. An erotic massage after a few hours of pampering is extremely pleasurable.

4. Exotic Dancing

If you and your partner are adventurous enough, you can go for a strip tease. How does this work? You can assign a stripper and a customer for the first run, and then you can switch. This role play dating game is particularly appealing to women because they love to dance to jazzy music and show off their bodies. Men who are in touch with their creative sides (or at least, their sense of humor) will also do well. You can play this up by using props and adult costumes.

Your First Date - Are You Making This Mistake Afterward?

You're out on a first date, and you're thinking, "Wow, I really like this guy!" The conversation is flowing freely, there's lots of eye contact, smiling, and laughing. He seems to be enjoying himself just as much as you are, and you're feeling a real sense of connection.

What a relief! You've been meeting so many losers, it feels great to finally meet a guy you're attracted to, and who seems just as interested.

When you get home, pretty much all you can do is think about this guy: you keep replaying "scenes" from the date in your head, recalling things he said that made you think he was the perfect fit for you, how nice his smile was, how everything just seemed to "click"...

The Torment Begins

And you start looking at your phone, email, Facebook account, Twitter page, etc. ("When is he going to contact me?")

This is perfectly natural. You've met a guy you really like, had a great time, and your VERY natural (i.e., pre-programmed into your genes) tendency is to let your thoughts rush ahead to where this might be going. You may not even be aware of the extent to which you are doing it. But it happens to ALL of us.

There is nothing wrong with being happy and excited after a terrific first date! Nothing at all. However, when that happiness and excitement leads to the "what's next?" impulse, you are starting down a potentially disastrous path.

Here's why: men (and women, for that matter) like to be a little bit challenged when embarking on a new relationship.

If you are at all familiar with my philosophy about life, you'll find that I sound like a broken record on this topic, for good reason! Just in case you're NOT familiar with my philosophy, let me explain that the "challenge" I'm referring to is not manipulative, insincere, or high-maintenance. It simply mimics the cycle of life itself. Life is a series of challenges, or obstacles, and we grow and evolve as we overcome these obstacles. It's what makes life fun and exciting!

In relationships, if everything is handed to you on a silver platter, you're very unlikely to place a high value on it. It doesn't really jive with you on a deep level, because it doesn't feel like it's "supposed" to feel. For men especially, there is a deep inner drive to "hunt and gather". No matter how you slice it, men are modern-day versions of their cavemen ancestors!

So when you've been on a date with a guy and everything has gone really well, the next step for a man is NOT instant love, commitment, marriage, family, etc. The next step is "a bit of a chase". Which is why you staring at your cell phone, checking for email or other messages, and thinking about the guy nonstop is not exactly productive. Let's face it, a girl who's "sprung" on a guy after the first date hardly needs to be chased.

Now, again, I am NOT suggesting you be insincere or act like you aren't into him. On the contrary, men DO like women who are into them! They like women who make them feel special (the same way you like men who make YOU feel special).

Refocus Your Energy

What I AM suggesting is that you take the positive energy (i.e., "good feeling" hormones) coursing through your body and redirect it toward something that has absolutely nothing to do with this guy. Do you have a hobby, side business, or career you love? Throw your energy into a new project in one of these areas. Is there a trip you've been wanting to take but were procrastinating for any number of reasons? Book it. Have you neglected to call a friend for quite some time? Pick up the phone. Read a book, take a walk or run, go the gym, meet a friend for the movies. There are any number of activities you can be doing right now that don't involve thinking about this guy or waiting for him to contact you.

Sure, you're still going to have the undercurrent of excitement from meeting this new guy, but you'll be so busy doing other things that you won't have time to obsess over how many days have passed since he called.

And here is the important thing: do NOT call him, email him, or get in touch with him any other way. I know, I sound old-fashioned and there are plenty of women who will say, "I'm a modern woman, why can't I contact him?" I'm telling you right now, it NEVER hurts to wait for him to contact you first. There isn't a decent guy alive who is "offended" if a woman doesn't contact him first.

Yes, there are guys out there who would prefer that you do all the work. Do you want to end up with one of them? A truly great guy is up for the chase, and if he's interested in you he will NOT be put off by the fact that you didn't contact him first. In fact, he'll find you a little more interesting.

The key is to be just available enough that he can get to know you better, but not so available that he begins to think you're not worth knowing better. Keep in mind: "challenge" is what makes the world go 'round! Oh, and, don't forget - it's supposed to be FUN!

Your First Date - Are You Making This Mistake Afterward?

You're out on a first date, and you're thinking, "Wow, I really like this guy!" The conversation is flowing freely, there's lots of eye contact, smiling, and laughing. He seems to be enjoying himself just as much as you are, and you're feeling a real sense of connection.

What a relief! You've been meeting so many losers, it feels great to finally meet a guy you're attracted to, and who seems just as interested.

When you get home, pretty much all you can do is think about this guy: you keep replaying "scenes" from the date in your head, recalling things he said that made you think he was the perfect fit for you, how nice his smile was, how everything just seemed to "click"...

The Torment Begins

And you start looking at your phone, email, Facebook account, Twitter page, etc. ("When is he going to contact me?")

This is perfectly natural. You've met a guy you really like, had a great time, and your VERY natural (i.e., pre-programmed into your genes) tendency is to let your thoughts rush ahead to where this might be going. You may not even be aware of the extent to which you are doing it. But it happens to ALL of us.

There is nothing wrong with being happy and excited after a terrific first date! Nothing at all. However, when that happiness and excitement leads to the "what's next?" impulse, you are starting down a potentially disastrous path.

Here's why: men (and women, for that matter) like to be a little bit challenged when embarking on a new relationship.

If you are at all familiar with my philosophy about life, you'll find that I sound like a broken record on this topic, for good reason! Just in case you're NOT familiar with my philosophy, let me explain that the "challenge" I'm referring to is not manipulative, insincere, or high-maintenance. It simply mimics the cycle of life itself. Life is a series of challenges, or obstacles, and we grow and evolve as we overcome these obstacles. It's what makes life fun and exciting!

In relationships, if everything is handed to you on a silver platter, you're very unlikely to place a high value on it. It doesn't really jive with you on a deep level, because it doesn't feel like it's "supposed" to feel. For men especially, there is a deep inner drive to "hunt and gather". No matter how you slice it, men are modern-day versions of their cavemen ancestors!

So when you've been on a date with a guy and everything has gone really well, the next step for a man is NOT instant love, commitment, marriage, family, etc. The next step is "a bit of a chase". Which is why you staring at your cell phone, checking for email or other messages, and thinking about the guy nonstop is not exactly productive. Let's face it, a girl who's "sprung" on a guy after the first date hardly needs to be chased.

Now, again, I am NOT suggesting you be insincere or act like you aren't into him. On the contrary, men DO like women who are into them! They like women who make them feel special (the same way you like men who make YOU feel special).

Refocus Your Energy

What I AM suggesting is that you take the positive energy (i.e., "good feeling" hormones) coursing through your body and redirect it toward something that has absolutely nothing to do with this guy. Do you have a hobby, side business, or career you love? Throw your energy into a new project in one of these areas. Is there a trip you've been wanting to take but were procrastinating for any number of reasons? Book it. Have you neglected to call a friend for quite some time? Pick up the phone. Read a book, take a walk or run, go the gym, meet a friend for the movies. There are any number of activities you can be doing right now that don't involve thinking about this guy or waiting for him to contact you.

Sure, you're still going to have the undercurrent of excitement from meeting this new guy, but you'll be so busy doing other things that you won't have time to obsess over how many days have passed since he called.

And here is the important thing: do NOT call him, email him, or get in touch with him any other way. I know, I sound old-fashioned and there are plenty of women who will say, "I'm a modern woman, why can't I contact him?" I'm telling you right now, it NEVER hurts to wait for him to contact you first. There isn't a decent guy alive who is "offended" if a woman doesn't contact him first.

Yes, there are guys out there who would prefer that you do all the work. Do you want to end up with one of them? A truly great guy is up for the chase, and if he's interested in you he will NOT be put off by the fact that you didn't contact him first. In fact, he'll find you a little more interesting.

The key is to be just available enough that he can get to know you better, but not so available that he begins to think you're not worth knowing better. Keep in mind: "challenge" is what makes the world go 'round! Oh, and, don't forget - it's supposed to be FUN!

Your First Date - Are You Making This Mistake Afterward?

You're out on a first date, and you're thinking, "Wow, I really like this guy!" The conversation is flowing freely, there's lots of eye contact, smiling, and laughing. He seems to be enjoying himself just as much as you are, and you're feeling a real sense of connection.

What a relief! You've been meeting so many losers, it feels great to finally meet a guy you're attracted to, and who seems just as interested.

When you get home, pretty much all you can do is think about this guy: you keep replaying "scenes" from the date in your head, recalling things he said that made you think he was the perfect fit for you, how nice his smile was, how everything just seemed to "click"...

The Torment Begins

And you start looking at your phone, email, Facebook account, Twitter page, etc. ("When is he going to contact me?")

This is perfectly natural. You've met a guy you really like, had a great time, and your VERY natural (i.e., pre-programmed into your genes) tendency is to let your thoughts rush ahead to where this might be going. You may not even be aware of the extent to which you are doing it. But it happens to ALL of us.

There is nothing wrong with being happy and excited after a terrific first date! Nothing at all. However, when that happiness and excitement leads to the "what's next?" impulse, you are starting down a potentially disastrous path.

Here's why: men (and women, for that matter) like to be a little bit challenged when embarking on a new relationship.

If you are at all familiar with my philosophy about life, you'll find that I sound like a broken record on this topic, for good reason! Just in case you're NOT familiar with my philosophy, let me explain that the "challenge" I'm referring to is not manipulative, insincere, or high-maintenance. It simply mimics the cycle of life itself. Life is a series of challenges, or obstacles, and we grow and evolve as we overcome these obstacles. It's what makes life fun and exciting!

In relationships, if everything is handed to you on a silver platter, you're very unlikely to place a high value on it. It doesn't really jive with you on a deep level, because it doesn't feel like it's "supposed" to feel. For men especially, there is a deep inner drive to "hunt and gather". No matter how you slice it, men are modern-day versions of their cavemen ancestors!

So when you've been on a date with a guy and everything has gone really well, the next step for a man is NOT instant love, commitment, marriage, family, etc. The next step is "a bit of a chase". Which is why you staring at your cell phone, checking for email or other messages, and thinking about the guy nonstop is not exactly productive. Let's face it, a girl who's "sprung" on a guy after the first date hardly needs to be chased.

Now, again, I am NOT suggesting you be insincere or act like you aren't into him. On the contrary, men DO like women who are into them! They like women who make them feel special (the same way you like men who make YOU feel special).

Refocus Your Energy

What I AM suggesting is that you take the positive energy (i.e., "good feeling" hormones) coursing through your body and redirect it toward something that has absolutely nothing to do with this guy. Do you have a hobby, side business, or career you love? Throw your energy into a new project in one of these areas. Is there a trip you've been wanting to take but were procrastinating for any number of reasons? Book it. Have you neglected to call a friend for quite some time? Pick up the phone. Read a book, take a walk or run, go the gym, meet a friend for the movies. There are any number of activities you can be doing right now that don't involve thinking about this guy or waiting for him to contact you.

Sure, you're still going to have the undercurrent of excitement from meeting this new guy, but you'll be so busy doing other things that you won't have time to obsess over how many days have passed since he called.

And here is the important thing: do NOT call him, email him, or get in touch with him any other way. I know, I sound old-fashioned and there are plenty of women who will say, "I'm a modern woman, why can't I contact him?" I'm telling you right now, it NEVER hurts to wait for him to contact you first. There isn't a decent guy alive who is "offended" if a woman doesn't contact him first.

Yes, there are guys out there who would prefer that you do all the work. Do you want to end up with one of them? A truly great guy is up for the chase, and if he's interested in you he will NOT be put off by the fact that you didn't contact him first. In fact, he'll find you a little more interesting.

The key is to be just available enough that he can get to know you better, but not so available that he begins to think you're not worth knowing better. Keep in mind: "challenge" is what makes the world go 'round! Oh, and, don't forget - it's supposed to be FUN!

Dating Tips - Women, Not Getting That Second Date, and Want It?

Some singles are in need of dating tips when it comes to their dating behavior and etiquette. This list of Dating Tips can serve as a helpful tool to truly reflect what it is that you are doing on dates ~ and if you aren't getting that second date, you might want to consider the possibility that you might be committing one of these Don'ts.

1). Don't wear any old thing. First impressions are lasting impressions!! Show up looking and feeling great. DO: Have a good idea where you are going so you do not risk dressing inappropriately. If you are coming from the office, bring a change of clothes with you.

2). Don't Google someone prior to a date and then discuss your findings. Don't let technology take the pleasure out of dating. Why bother meeting them if you are going to conduct your own investigation from your safe haven behind your computer screen? DO: Keep an air of mystery flowing on a date and if you want to find out more about the person you're with, ask them directly.

3). Don't be late. It starts the date off on a bad note. If being late is out of your control, please call your date and explain why. Being late once for a date is one thing, but if you notice that you are continually showing up on all your dates and then apologizing for your tardiness, it will show a complete lack of respect to the men involved. DO: Understand that if getting into a relationship is your priority, you need to find the time to do so.

4). Don't talk about an old boyfriend. Why would you want to sabotage your date by dragging in your "ex?" If you are ever on the receiving end of this, remember that you can steer the conversation away from this topic. DO: Take responsibility and curb conversations about "the ex" and start discussing other topics.

5). Drink too much. This applies to before the date and during the date. Drinking gets in the way of how you present yourself, perceive them and hinders decision making. DO: Keep a tally on your alcohol consumption. Drink water intermittently. You're on a date to start a possible relationship, don't end it with remorse and a hang-over.

6). Don't complain. You'll be perceived as a very negative individual. Another component of this is being rude to restaurant staff and other individuals when out on a date. DO: Stay positive, your date will examine how you treat other people as a direct example of how you will treat them in a relationship.

The Golden Rule - Keep it real, have fun, and don't take it all so seriously. Just enjoy yourself, and actively enjoy the other person's company!

Online Dating Consuming Your Energy?

While online dating can be fun, interesting and possibly lead to meaningful relationships, it can also consume considerable, if not massive amounts of your time and energy. All of us would like to find the perfect partner if we haven't already. And the internet, while it can provide ample opportunity to meet new singles, may also provide opportunity for self inflicted drama. It would be prudent to closely monitor your time online, while also keeping an eye on your emotions related to your online interaction. After all you do want to attract you ideal partner and you will likely only do so if, you feel good about yourself and your interactions with others online reflect those good feelings.

This can be a quite a challenge. Depending on the sites you frequent, the photos and or profiles you post; you may or may not get a lot of attention. If your profile does get a lot of attention, guard against the "player syndrome." That takes place when you have the opportunity to communicate with several potential people during the same time period. This may cause one to view their interaction on the site as somewhat of an online dating smorgasbord. You may feel as if you dining at a Chinese buffet. What do you do? Try to eat it all? Get in the habit of feasting too much on the varied choices and you may desire to continue to want to eat too much. Are you with me? You may find yourself overlooking quality matches and perhaps spending too much time communicating with not so good matches simply because you have cultivated a habit of doing so.

Many report that this particular scenario can eat up enormous sums of time that could be put to better use. If you have a demanding business schedule or have little ones to care for, your online love pursuits may begin to chip away at time that could or should be spent focused on more important things.

In the event that you do not get a lot of attention, it is so important to remain focused on your opinion of yourself, rather than seeing yourself through the eyes of others. Don't take it personal. If you find yourself feeling discouraged by a lack of interest shown in your profile, you may not want to examine more closely high highly you esteem yourself, and what you are seeking in a partner.

Be patient with yourself. Look for areas where personal growth will benefit you, and find reasons to be happy with your independence. You are the most important person in your life. You are the person you will spend the most time with. You have spent every moment with you. Why not love you most? Great relationships do not lead to love. Love leads to great relationships. So be sure to love yourself first. In order to truly present and available for others, you must first be present and available for yourself. If you take care of self, you put yourself in a position to truly benefit others.and concern yourself with and look after the interests of others.

Has online dating has become an obsession for you? If you check your email several times a day to see if you have any new messages related to your online partner search or you feel stressed when you do not have new messages in you inbox, you are likely becoming addicted.

How can you maintain your balance and keep your positive energy flowing? Here a few suggestions.

1. Schedule a time to review and respond to any interest shown to you or express interest in others, preferably once every few days.

2. Be realistic. Look to find potential friends first. Cultivate that possibility, and the rest will happen naturally. Try not to get too dreamy about people you have never even met. This is a recipe for extreme disappointment

3. Be like the person you would want to attract. Are you looking for an internet player or someone who is obsessed with online relationships? If not, you may want to regularly examine your emotions and attachments to whom are communicating. If you become obsessed, you will likely attract someone else who is obsessed. You know... "You reap what you sow." So be balanced, level headed and reasonable. You will be much more likely to attract such persons to you, even if only for friendship.

4. Have fun. Don't be too serious about it. Should you get uptight you will push people away. They will feel your tension.

All in all with the upside of online dating, it too has its pitfalls. Be careful, be balanced and don't expect too much. Just try and keep it fun. Enjoy the activity without becoming completely immersed. Then should something come out of it, you will be pleasantly surprised.

How to Talk to Girls in Public Places

Talking to girls in public places can seem like a scary thing to do, especially if it is something you are not used to doing. But talking to girls is a learned skill, just like learning how to snow board, ride a bike, or play your favorite video game. The first time you do something, it is always uncomfortable because your brain is not used to do it. Then, the more often you do it the easier it becomes.

I will never forget the first time I tried talking to girl at school. It took me days to work up the courage to talk to a cute girl named Mary Ann. I was only ten years old at the time, but I had already learned how to be afraid of rejection. I learned it from watching television. I learned it from previous experiences. I also learned it from my friends. Looking back on it now, it all seems so silly and illogical, but most of us learn how to fear the feeling of rejection at a very early age. The good news is that you can unlearn it.

Here is a simple exercise that will illustrate how illogical fear of rejection is. If you need to ask another person for directions because you are lost you have no qualms about walking up to them and asking them where a certain place is. Even if they are too busy to help you or do not want to help you, you will forget about that interaction in a few seconds or a few minutes. Yet, when we want to talk to someone we are attracted to, we assign a whole different meaning to it. Even though in reality it is very much the same experience. Our brains our so powerful that they can trick us into thinking and/or fearing that we are about to get rejected.

So how does one actually talk to girls in public places?  It is a lot easier than you think.  Do not let your mind and social conditioning get in the way.  There are literally hundreds, if not thousands, of ways to approach and talk to girls.  One way to approach them is to pretend, in your own mind, that you have known this stranger for years so you walk up to them naturally and comfortablely and start off with some kind of neutral opener.  It could something as simple as "hi" or "cool necklace, what's the story behind it?" or "can you believe so-and-so died the other day?" or "oh my gosh, did you see that couple arguing outside?"

Neutral openers are great ways to start conversation because they are simply neutral.  For example, walking up to a girl and saying "you're cute" is not neutral.  Asking a girl what she honestly thinks about a certain topic can be considered neutral.  Since communication between two people is mostly non-verbal, how you ask something can be just as important, if not more so, then what you are actually saying.  I've started conversations by asking women if they preferred boxers or briefs.  I recently got a phone number from a girl by simply starting the conversation by asking her what she thought of the first lady's dress she wore the other night.  

If you want to learn how to talk to girls in public places such as coffee shops, book stores, shopping malls, super markets, or virtually any place where women are to be found, then you have to simply do one thing: practice.

Online Dating Consuming Your Energy?

While online dating can be fun, interesting and possibly lead to meaningful relationships, it can also consume considerable, if not massive amounts of your time and energy. All of us would like to find the perfect partner if we haven't already. And the internet, while it can provide ample opportunity to meet new singles, may also provide opportunity for self inflicted drama. It would be prudent to closely monitor your time online, while also keeping an eye on your emotions related to your online interaction. After all you do want to attract you ideal partner and you will likely only do so if, you feel good about yourself and your interactions with others online reflect those good feelings.

This can be a quite a challenge. Depending on the sites you frequent, the photos and or profiles you post; you may or may not get a lot of attention. If your profile does get a lot of attention, guard against the "player syndrome." That takes place when you have the opportunity to communicate with several potential people during the same time period. This may cause one to view their interaction on the site as somewhat of an online dating smorgasbord. You may feel as if you dining at a Chinese buffet. What do you do? Try to eat it all? Get in the habit of feasting too much on the varied choices and you may desire to continue to want to eat too much. Are you with me? You may find yourself overlooking quality matches and perhaps spending too much time communicating with not so good matches simply because you have cultivated a habit of doing so.

Many report that this particular scenario can eat up enormous sums of time that could be put to better use. If you have a demanding business schedule or have little ones to care for, your online love pursuits may begin to chip away at time that could or should be spent focused on more important things.

In the event that you do not get a lot of attention, it is so important to remain focused on your opinion of yourself, rather than seeing yourself through the eyes of others. Don't take it personal. If you find yourself feeling discouraged by a lack of interest shown in your profile, you may not want to examine more closely high highly you esteem yourself, and what you are seeking in a partner.

Be patient with yourself. Look for areas where personal growth will benefit you, and find reasons to be happy with your independence. You are the most important person in your life. You are the person you will spend the most time with. You have spent every moment with you. Why not love you most? Great relationships do not lead to love. Love leads to great relationships. So be sure to love yourself first. In order to truly present and available for others, you must first be present and available for yourself. If you take care of self, you put yourself in a position to truly benefit others.and concern yourself with and look after the interests of others.

Has online dating has become an obsession for you? If you check your email several times a day to see if you have any new messages related to your online partner search or you feel stressed when you do not have new messages in you inbox, you are likely becoming addicted.

How can you maintain your balance and keep your positive energy flowing? Here a few suggestions.

1. Schedule a time to review and respond to any interest shown to you or express interest in others, preferably once every few days.

2. Be realistic. Look to find potential friends first. Cultivate that possibility, and the rest will happen naturally. Try not to get too dreamy about people you have never even met. This is a recipe for extreme disappointment

3. Be like the person you would want to attract. Are you looking for an internet player or someone who is obsessed with online relationships? If not, you may want to regularly examine your emotions and attachments to whom are communicating. If you become obsessed, you will likely attract someone else who is obsessed. You know... "You reap what you sow." So be balanced, level headed and reasonable. You will be much more likely to attract such persons to you, even if only for friendship.

4. Have fun. Don't be too serious about it. Should you get uptight you will push people away. They will feel your tension.

All in all with the upside of online dating, it too has its pitfalls. Be careful, be balanced and don't expect too much. Just try and keep it fun. Enjoy the activity without becoming completely immersed. Then should something come out of it, you will be pleasantly surprised.

How to Talk to Girls in Public Places

Talking to girls in public places can seem like a scary thing to do, especially if it is something you are not used to doing. But talking to girls is a learned skill, just like learning how to snow board, ride a bike, or play your favorite video game. The first time you do something, it is always uncomfortable because your brain is not used to do it. Then, the more often you do it the easier it becomes.

I will never forget the first time I tried talking to girl at school. It took me days to work up the courage to talk to a cute girl named Mary Ann. I was only ten years old at the time, but I had already learned how to be afraid of rejection. I learned it from watching television. I learned it from previous experiences. I also learned it from my friends. Looking back on it now, it all seems so silly and illogical, but most of us learn how to fear the feeling of rejection at a very early age. The good news is that you can unlearn it.

Here is a simple exercise that will illustrate how illogical fear of rejection is. If you need to ask another person for directions because you are lost you have no qualms about walking up to them and asking them where a certain place is. Even if they are too busy to help you or do not want to help you, you will forget about that interaction in a few seconds or a few minutes. Yet, when we want to talk to someone we are attracted to, we assign a whole different meaning to it. Even though in reality it is very much the same experience. Our brains our so powerful that they can trick us into thinking and/or fearing that we are about to get rejected.

So how does one actually talk to girls in public places?  It is a lot easier than you think.  Do not let your mind and social conditioning get in the way.  There are literally hundreds, if not thousands, of ways to approach and talk to girls.  One way to approach them is to pretend, in your own mind, that you have known this stranger for years so you walk up to them naturally and comfortablely and start off with some kind of neutral opener.  It could something as simple as "hi" or "cool necklace, what's the story behind it?" or "can you believe so-and-so died the other day?" or "oh my gosh, did you see that couple arguing outside?"

Neutral openers are great ways to start conversation because they are simply neutral.  For example, walking up to a girl and saying "you're cute" is not neutral.  Asking a girl what she honestly thinks about a certain topic can be considered neutral.  Since communication between two people is mostly non-verbal, how you ask something can be just as important, if not more so, then what you are actually saying.  I've started conversations by asking women if they preferred boxers or briefs.  I recently got a phone number from a girl by simply starting the conversation by asking her what she thought of the first lady's dress she wore the other night.  

If you want to learn how to talk to girls in public places such as coffee shops, book stores, shopping malls, super markets, or virtually any place where women are to be found, then you have to simply do one thing: practice.