Free Yourself of Past Relationship Baggage and Make Room For Someone New

Have you ever felt as if someone from your past was still holding on to you? Or maybe you felt that you are still holding on to them? Or hope of getting them back?

Free yourself and them and allow yourself to make room for someone better to come into your life.

Consider how much more energy and focus you will have once you learn how to free yourself from the baggage of past relationships.

You can do whatever you want with this extra energy and you may find that you have made room for someone new in your life. Done correctly, you may actually release pain, anger, fear and resentment from the past and make room for someone special to come into your life.

Imagine, doing something simple and effective that makes you feel a whole lot better about yourself AND which has the added benefit of attracting someone into your life who is better suited to who you are now.

In this article I will share this simple yet powerful technique that has its roots in Shamanic ritual and native American tradition. NYC Prime Hypnosis combines powerful techniques, practices and disciplines and combines them into a user friendly approach to being your BEST SELF!

You will need and open mind and some things for this ritual :

1. Toilet tissue ( burns easier )

2. Pen

3. 30 minutes of quiet/alone time

4. A candle ( matches )

5. Bathroom with the toilet lid opened

Give yourself a few minutes to write down the name and whatever emotion you are feeling about this person from your past. Write this down on the toilet tissue ( I fold it several times and place a book underneath for easier writing )

It is best to start with the one relationship that feels like it is holding you back the most. This way you can get a feel for the ritual and how great it feels. Then the next time you can make a longer list of names and do a longer more complete ritual.

You can write something along the lines of :

"I now release ( write their name ) this person and forgive them and myself for whatever happened. We did the best we could with what we had at the time. For the best of all concerned, I honor the good times and the lessons learned. I now resolve any and all unhelpful emotions related to this person and relationship. I keep the lessons and leave the bitterness behind. I free myself and them to move on with our lives on separate paths towards happiness...and make room for someone better suited to enter into my life." etc.

You can start with just writing this and naming one person whom you feel is somehow holding you back from happiness or is somehow keeping you stuck in the past or in a destructive pattern.

The way I do this ritual is by standing in my bathroom with the toilet lid opened and lighting a candle. I make sure there is a clear space where nothing can catch fire. ( the water puts out the flames and relates to the elements in nature and in alternative healing )

Then I take my toilet tissue that I wrote on and I tear off a section of it relating to that person/relationship and I very carefully touch the paper to the candle ( which is set on the top of the toilet tank )

I take a deep breath and think of that person and feel whatever the emotion is relating to them that may have been keeping me from my full potential. Then I exhale as I touch the paper to the candle and drop it carefully into the water in the toilet bowl. You may feel as if you are releasing the unwanted or painful emotions and making room for something better.

You can see the past baggage going up in flames and smoke and then being cast into the water. There is a sizzling sound as the flames hit the water and you can see, hear and feel that something powerful is happening.

Every time I do this ritual I feel a tremendous sense of peace and serenity as well as feeling energized the next few days afterwards.

It feels as if I have let go of the past and forgiven myself and those from my past and I am thankful for the lessons as I feel a clear path in front of me that leads to greater success and happiness. There are many ways to release emotions and blockages and this is just one of the simple and effective methods that is easy enough to learn from reading.

Blow out the candle and flush the toilet and let yourself feel that same wonderful sense of peace. As if all is right with the world again.

P.S. You may be pleasantly surprised to find someone new and special entering into your life within a few weeks of performing this shamanic releasing ritual. And for some people they meet someone special even sooner!

Keeping Secrets in a Relationship

Sometimes, as our relationship perseveres, we tend to have a hard time keeping secrets.
You may have a secret about mysteriously seeing someone at your work that your current boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't know about. Or perhaps you secretly don't want to tell your love that you're not really a big fan of their foreplay techniques and would rather them getting a guide or something to make you more aroused.

In relationships, secrets can be a good or bad thing. For example, if you had a current boyfriend for many months and you went on a date with another guy that you happened to be attracted to and kissed him on the date, then that would be a big no-no. Actually this happens to a lot of people and the person who did the damage has a secret to keep, which is that they have to confront their boyfriend about kissing another guy or confront the guy that they already have a boyfriend! This also can be the same situation with guys to girls.

Either way, the worse thing someone can do in this situation is keep the secret from one party and continue on as if nothing happened. The best thing to do is to confront both parties about what happened and suffer the consequences. Most likely you'll be forgiven.

Enough about these types of secrets though! A lot of times secrets can have a negative connotation to them, like if someone was holding a secret from someone else. However, you should try to keep secrets fun in relationships rather than making them something to worry about.

Here are some ways to keep good secrets in relationships. Before your lover goes to work, whisper in their ear that you have a secret waiting for them tonight. Emphasize the word - secret. You can do it in a seductive tone of voice that sends chills down their body.

Now, you may have no idea what the secret will be, but rest assured, your lover will think about you all day long. Unless you have a very adventure-like job, most jobs can be boring and tedious. After you tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that you have a secret for them tonight, they'll constantly be thinking about what it will be and it will drive them towards high anticipation and temptation to seeing you.

Now, even though you may be clueless to what the secret will be, you don't have to worry. The point of doing that was to create anticipation and mystery in your relationship. The secret you will give to your girlfriend or boyfriend can be anything simple. It's not that hard to make a spaghetti candle-lit dinner and takes less than an hour. Your lover will appreciate this time you guys have together. Or perhaps when your love comes home, the first thing you can do is blindfold them, grab them by the hand, and lead them to the shower. You can then proceed to give them a fifteen-minute massage after a days worth of hard work, enter the shower together, and make love afterwards. This would be a very cool secret for them, giving you kudos for heating up the relationship.

10 Tips to Date a Cougar

There are many reasons a Cougar can appeal to you. When I think of a Cougar, Samantha off "Sex in the City" comes to mind, she plays a vivacious, sophisticated woman with a sexual libido that rivals rabbits in spring.

Although her character is fictional who she portrays is not. Women at older ages are more attune with there wants, needs and desires.

While Men's sexual stamina is slowing down, Women's desire for intimacy is coming into full bloom. It seems like the worlds cruel joke to have such a wide gap in the ages of sexual maturity but it true, while guys are thinking about sex in there 20's, women are hitting there peak in their 30's or 40's.

This age gap gives a perfectly logical reason why cougars exist but there are other reasons as well.

Men aren't the only ones that get mid-life crisis. Women want to feel young again too but instead of buying that corvette or going skydiving, they look to a younger generation. There are many appeals to dating young. Most younger men don't have any strings attached, a youthful personality, and are more willing to try new things.
Revenge can also be a reason; don't be surprised if your new cougar is recently divorced, like recently divorced professional wrestler Hulk Hogan. When word got out that Hulk Hogan had found a girlfriend that could pass as his daughter it wasn't long after ex-wife Linda Hogan had found a 19 year-old boy toy of her own.

So what are the best tips for getting and keeping a cougar?

1. Treat Her Like A Queen -
Treat any women like a queen and she will be flattered and curious. Pay her compliments, open doors for her, notice the details. Did she get her nails done? Tell her you love the color.

2. Don't Ever Tell Her She is a Cougar -
It's another double standard term label put on women that can be offensive. When men go after younger women its ok, but when a women does it, watch out! She's a "cougar".

3. Move to the City -
Places like California and New York see Cougar Dating as the newest hot trend. Think Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, a very hot couple.

4. Don't Make Her Feel Old -
Just like the feeling you get when a waiter ask you for an ID when buying alcohol you want to replicate that feeling again and again. But don't be fake about it, like saying she looks like Cindy Crawford if she doesn't. Tell her you love how smart she is, or how amazing her legs look in those jeans.

5. Dating Sites -
These are exceptional places to find Cougar Dates, browse for your cougar in comfort of your house and let them come to you.

6. Give Her New Experiences -
Most women are looking to do things they never did when they were younger, whether that is shooting pool at the billiard, going to a concert, or playing mini golf with friends.

7. Don't be to Needy -
Older women are independent and don't want a guy controlling there life.

8. Make her Feel Young but no too Young -
Beer Binging and Halo War parties are out of the question. She doesn't want to feel like she stole you from the crib.

9. Let Her Rule the Bedroom -
She is probably way more experienced in this department, let her show you what she knows and what she likes.

10. Same Expectations -
Make sure you are both on the same page before getting into a deep relationship. Is she looking for a casual relationship or long-term. This is important to know so you're both not wasting your time.

Dream Interpretation - How to Get Girls to Like You

You can use dream interpretation to build comfort with a woman. And you definitely need the comfort building stage to seduce a girl. Actually, it doesn't matter which technique you use - palm reading, the cube, psycho tests or hand writing analysis. It's all about establishing a deeper connection between you and the girl. Here is why dream interpretation gets every girl interested in a second: You're telling her something about herself that she doesn't know. Or maybe she does, but it doesn't matter as everyone likes to hear (positive) things about themselves. Tell her what she wants to hear. Besides, you're helping the girl to solve a problem as she doesn't know what her dreams mean. Using this technique you not only build a deeper (emotional) connection, but also demonstrate higher value as only few guys know about dream interpretation.

So, what is dream interpretation about?

It's well-known that there are common dreams such as flying-dreams, falling dreams or chase dreams. The cool thing here is: everyone has had these dreams at least once, so every girl is able to relate to the things you are talking about. So it doesn't matter if she can't remember her actual dreams. It's more than enough if you can tell her what the following three dream symbols mean:

1) Flying.

This symbol has two meanings: A) You want to experience transcendence over your challenges in real life. B) You crave for freedom from the limitations of your own mental, emotional, and physical challenges. If you are feeling fear when you are flying or you feel that you are flying too high, it means that you are afraid of challenges and success.

2) Falling.

Falling normally indicates insecurities, instabilities, and anxieties. Dreaming that you are falling represents fear of a loss of security or control, or a sudden lack of foundation in your life. It indicates fear of abandonment, especially feeling abandoned by a "caretaker" such as a partner.

3) Chase.

If you dream someone is chasing you, this represents fear of criticism, persecution, hostility or aggression by another person or by people in general. Chase dreams represent your way of coping with fears, stress in your life. Instead of confronting the situation, you run away and avoid it.

4) Pregnancy.

Girls often have dreams being pregnant. Usually, pregnancy dreams are about something new in her life that she is nurturing like a job, career, schooling, relationship aso. It also could be her subconscious telling her that she is actually pregnant!

P.S. If you have trouble remembering your dreams, here is a tip: As you go to sleep, tell yourself that you want to remember your dreams. Keep paper and pen close by your bed so that you can record your dreams as they become available. The writing and the intention will improve your dream memory.

7 Reasons on Why Men Dump Women and Often End Relationships

The important question that is anticipated by most of the relationship counsellors from most of their clients is indeed provoking as "Why does men dump women and vice versa" resulting in total break up of their relationships. Most of the times, you cannot expect exact answers from any advisors but some of them may say that it is Infidelity, which may be the common cause, which tends only to be an approximation. But there are a variety of factors that causes this problem & are discussed in detail.

However, we needed to carefully examine what is there in the Mindset of both men & women.

-So Men are believed to be mostly as over excessive thinking habit but women on the other hand tend to be out of the world thinking process. In general Terms, Men would to start to think in their own unusual way when everything seems to be fine but women start their thinking process when there is no such necessity at all. So we can conclude that both men & women are interrelated as long as their mental abilities are concerned. But Men after a lot of thinking come to a grave conclusion that instead of getting dumped by woman, let us dump them.

-As discussed above, men have a bad mental thinking that instead of committing themselves to women & get trapped in such commitment cycles , they conclude finally that dumping is the natural remedy. If a man is getting satisfaction from woman & if woman suddenly ask for a commitment, man will think about ending such relationship. Men will never liked to pressurised at all in general & in specific with respect to marriage related matters.

-Sex will also have a major say in relationship break-ups since no men would like to have a bad sex life with any woman & if such a situation arises, he will say good bye for such a women. This holds good for women as well.

-As observed women always try to control men or dominate men completely & this nature or attitude will be very hard to resist for many men. Also when women subdues his attitude, then he will feel such women as boring & unchallenging eventually ending the relationship as well.

-Infidelity can thought of as one of the major causes for men dumping women & ending relationships. This is because men does not want to live with the spouse who is found to be cheating & if he finds something fishy, we would brand his spouse as Unfaithful partner & leave such a relationships.

-One of the Important factors that why men dump women often and ends relationships is because his spouse will be a nagging partner and most of the women are in the habit of nagging on and on. This would make him like a fish out of water & wants to break way from such a situation & move towards his own freedom.

-Over-possessive attitude of the women seems to hurt men to a maximum extent and does not want to live with such natured woman. Men like any other person want his share and bit of space & if denied his share, would have no other option of dumping women & eventually leave such relationship.

If you are a woman, you should have surely come across the above instances & we can conclude that why men leaves relationship is that "Men are men & women are women". Follow the above 7 secrets to understand why men dump women quite often & leave relationships

Quit Your Boyfriend If He's Not the One

You know when you're dating a man and something feels off? Well, that is because something really is off. I'm not talking about having disagreements every once in a while, that's natural. I am talking about something in your gut that tells you something just isn't right. It's the feeling that something is missing, but you may not be able to put your finger on it.

You may have thought it was your problem, that maybe you were going through something, but it's because your relationship with the man you're with isn't the real deal. When you find "THE ONE" you will feel complete in every way. Although it is nice to have someone who cares about you, it's even better to find the person who is your soul mate.

My advice to you today, quit wasting your time on someone who was not made for you. You have to be a woman who will not settle in order to make this bold move. It's not about hurting someone else but it's about allowing yourself to find true love and allowing your boyfriend to find the woman he was meant to be with.

You both deserve this.

If you hang on to your boyfriend because you don't want to be alone or you can't do without sex, then you are going to make both of your lives very miserable and worst. If you actually end up marrying the wrong person, well that will be a lifetime horror story!!

Believe that you have what it takes to attract and find true love by deciding today that you will not settle for good enough. Then start the process of releasing your boyfriend so that you can embrace your soul mate. When your soul mate finds you, you'll will have everything you could possibly dream for in a man.

5 Tips to a Successful Relationship

Everyone wants that perfect relationship, right. Well, I am not going to sit here and tell you that relationships are easy and that you do not have to work at them to make them successful, because you do. But there are some fundamental building blocks that can help ensure that your relationship is healthy and that you will have someone special to share your life with you.

1. The first and most important thing you need to do in a relationship is listen to each other. It is very easy to get distracted and caught up with everyday life, but make sure that you are leaving time to relax with your partner and you are giving them the attention that they deserve. Listen and be interested in what they have to say. It will be one of the best parts of the day.

2. One simple word, Trust. You have to be able to trust each other. If there is no trust in a relationship then there can not be a relationship. If you do not trust your partner then it will lead to negative feelings being held inside which will escalate and eventually rupture. Now do not get confused between jealousy and trust. Jealousy is not a lack of trust. A small amount of jealousy is healthy and shows your partner that you still care and are protective of them.

3. Don't be afraid to pay a compliment. Take the time to notice your partner. One of the most common mistakes is to notice them, but then nothing is ever said about it. You have to let them know what you are thinking. If she walks through the door and you are taken back, then mention how beautiful she looks. And ladies, if he puts on that shirt you like so much, tell him you especially like the way it looks on him. Small compliments go a long way in a successful relationship.

4. Communication. You absolutely have to communicate with your partner. Don't be afraid to say what is on your mind. Especially if an argument in sues, and yes, there are arguments in successful relationships. Be open and express your feelings. Never turn your back, walk away, or go to bed angry. Resolve the conflict with communication and mutual understanding. There is a solution, find it together. Besides, making up can be very pleasurable.

5. Surprise. That's right. Surprise them with anything spontaneous. For example, come home from work with flowers or send something special to the office. Another great surprise is to get up from the bed a little early and put a nice note on the bathroom mirror. Just be sure to use a dry erase marker so that it can be wiped off. A surprise does not have to be big or expensive, but it will definitely make their day.

So there you have it, five simple tips to a healthy successful relationship. Try them out and I am sure you will be rewarded in more than one way.

5 Rules to Making a Long Distance Relationship Last

1. Communicate in some way every day
A phone call, an email, a cute little fax. Whatever you can do to keep those lines open. In today's communication age there is no reason not to.

2. Don't avoid the important questions
With a new romance as we all know, the important issues don't seem to surface right away, but when they do don't avoid answering a question directly. A topic such as relocation may come up, be honest and true.

3.Consider yourself lucky
I know you might miss him/her, but look at the benefits, chances are everyone around you is in a routine as far as their relationship goes, you have an air of passion, go with it.

4. Find creative ways to bond
Discuss the future, discuss how to accomplish your common goals of eventually no longer being in a long distance relationship but simply in a relationship.

5. Know when to call it quits
Well this is the simple and scary time in any relationship, but when it becomes more work than fun and love trying to hold the pieces together then maybe it's time to say goodbye. Holding on to a hope can be a most dangerous thing and the longer you wait the harder it may be.

Long distance relationships can often be just as fun, loving and difficult as traditional relationships.

There are always ups and downs, there are always good and bad times. There is an old saying that holds true for all couples who truly want to be together and who truly love each other, one I personally live by daily.

It goes like this:

"I don't love you because I need you
I need you because I love you."

Never mind money, possessions, the big home etc. All of these items can be lost in a heart beat. If you don't have love you don't have a reason to make it last.

I will be discussing this topic each day or so for the next little while.

Hope you enjoy.

And remember if you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you are with.

#1 Reason Relationships Don't Work Out

Everyone knows the statistics out there: 50% of marriages end in divorce, and of the ones that don't, a high percentage are miserable and unhappy, sucking the soul out of both partners. And that's the statistics for marriages, so what can be said for the success rate of all relationships in general? It's not a pleasant picture.

Every relationship is complex and has its unique characteristics and reasons for success and/or failure. When all is said and done, things can be so confusing, that both partners feel like they still love each other, but can't be together, but don't know why, and blame each other with vague reasons for why things didn't work out.

So why the hell do most relationships not work out??

As mentioned, there are many reasons both true and imagined about why each unique relationship failed. But when it all comes down to it, it boils down to the same thing:

People picked the wrong people to get involved in a relationship with in the first place.

Most relationships start because people are horny, or lonely, or tired and desperate or just finally found someone who they feel "comfortable" with and it's better to be with someone like that than alone. But that does not make for a recipe for relationship success.

The main reason people end up with the wrong person is that they don't have enough choice. They'll date around a bit and join up with the first or second decent person who comes along who fulfills a list of certain criteria and makes them feel good. But they don't really think long-term about whether this person has the same long term goals, ambitions and lifestyle as they do. People tend to get into relationships based on short term lust and short term needs satiation, rather than with a practical understanding of whether the two individuals are really compatible.

Of course, it's never really obvious if you will have a good relationship until you get to know someone over an extended period of time. The best advice is to date many people and take your time making a decision. You want a large pool of potential applicants to choose from and you want to choose wisely.

Maybe it sounds too practical and calculating, but really, with modern life, the only way to make a good choice is to have an abundance of choice.

Sex and the Independent

I'm not after popularity and you may not agree with what I'm about to write below.

Because you see, there are plenty of empty women, who are professionals, liberated, and very independent.

But probing deep beyond this, you will find that in their attempts to find liberation, they have found unhappiness. It doesn't matter how you slice it, a woman cannot try to compete with a man's natural drive to just have sex without a commitment.

And women have been trying to do this for a few decades now. We see it endorsed and splashed all over our entertainment industry. If you are this type of woman, are you happy? Is it ok to just have a good screw? Are you ok with that or are you truly wanting to find real love?

We find women who parade their sexuality as if it is something that is going out of style, yet they end up wanting, empty, still liberated by grossly unhappy. They try to carefully dissect their feelings, pulling their hearts on one end and pushing their bodies on the other. As if they have no need for the men they have been intimate with.

Yes of course prostitutes preach that and that is why they are that. They exchange their bodies for money. But the modern woman would frown upon that kind of similarity. She would say that she is indeed a very independent, capable woman.

She would tell you that she's ok. She will wonder why her men cannot commit because she will not be humbly enough to realize that she has taught the men that she does not deserve commitment.

Why Do We Kiss?

Kissing is a nearly universal human activity, appearing in more than 90% of all cultures. But why do we kiss?

Research carried out by Psychologists at Pennsylvania's Albright College show that there are three main reasons for kissing and that men and women kiss for quite different reasons.

1. Kissing allows us to evaluate potential mates
When we kiss we are doing more than evaluating how good a kisser our partner is. The physical closeness of the kiss allows us to sample the smell and taste of our partner on a subconscious level. Kissing also allow us to exchange small amounts of saliva which contain hormones and even genetic information that provides further information to our subconscious partner-selection process. It has been shown that women are substantially more attracted to men with key genetic differences to their own. Evolutionary biologists believe that this reaction is an adaptation designed to provide children with the most diverse DNA possible. Overall, it may be that the satisfaction that we get from a good kiss may be our subconscious giving us the green light on the suitability of our kissing mate.

The study found that women are more concerned with the taste and smell of their partners than men, rating fresh breath more important than facial attractiveness.

2. Kissing makes us feel closer to our partners
The researchers found that men and women thought about kissing of long term partners quite differently. The women in the study tended to judge the quality and frequency of kissing with their partner as a test of their relationship. The women studied felt affirmed by kissing and wanted to engage in more kissing before, during and after sex especially in order to feel more bonded to their partners. In contrast the men in the study tended to view kissing less as a way of bonding and feeling close to their partners and more as a way of initiating sex, they valued kissing as a method of feeling close to their partner less highly.

3. Kissing as a way of initiating sex
As a precursor to sex men and women view kissing very differently. The study showed that men expected that passionate kissing would lead to sex about 50% of the time while the women studied felt that passionate kissing would lead to sex only about 33% of the time. This is consistent with women's views of kissing as a bonding activity. But women did consider kissing very closely tied with sex, with only 14% of women stating that they would have sex with someone that they had not kissed while over 50% of men said they would have sex with someone they had not kissed.

Other studies on kissing suggest that kissing serves to transfer hormones such as testosterone between partners and that kissing may serve to stimulate a sexual response in the less aroused partner.

What kissing research means to you
Overall this research on kissing shows that men and women have quite different expectations about and reasons for kissing. While both sexes use kissing in the early stages of a relationship to judge their compatibility, in long term relationships women and men have different reasons for kissing. For the women studied kissing was primarily a way to judge the health of their relationship and its role as a precursor to sex was secondary. For men the reasons to kiss were reversed, men wanted to kiss in order to initiate sex and viewed kissing as a way of bonding as of secondary importance.

For men the message is clear: Engage in more kissing without expectation that it will lead to sex. This will have the effect that your partner will feel more bonded to you and therefore will be more likely to engage in sex. Be aware that women are more finely tuned to taste and smell than men so floss, brush your teeth and avoid foods that your partner hates the smell of.

Kissing is an activity that naturally brings us together but women and men's attitudes to kissing can sometimes be a cause of misunderstandings and actually become a barrier to better relationships. Understanding our partners reasons for kissing can help us to overcome those misunderstandings and get back to a happier relationship.

Love Relationship Advice - Finding Good Love Relationship Advice

So here you are, cruising the internet for love relationship advice. You can surely find a lot of advice out there these days. But how do you know which advice to take? There are a lot of 'relationship experts' around. Who can you trust? Used to be, when you had a problem, you just asked your parents, or maybe a trusted aunt or uncle. Or you might have called a reliable friend to help you figure out what to do. Technology has opened up a whole new world for us and we have so many choices out there, that it can make your head spin.

Is your relationship already ended? Maybe your partner decided to call it quits and you think there's still something there worth saving. What can you do about it? You could mope around and feel sorry for yourself, but what will that accomplish? Or you could start taking some positive steps towards figuring out what went wrong and what you can do to fix it. Here's a couple tidbits of love relationship advice that can get you started on the right track:

• Speak the truth and speak it straight from your heart. You could just tell your ex what you know they want to hear, but where will that get you in long run? Honesty is always best and honest words spoken from the heart are pure gold. So when you speak to your ex about trying to work out the relationship, be completely honest with yourself and with them. If they need things you know you can't give, it might be better for both of you to move on.
• Walk a mile in their shoes. Look at the relationship and its problems from their point of view. If you felt the way they do, would you still want to fix the relationship? Which of the issues are you most directly responsible for causing or contributing to? If you can figure out solutions to the problem(s) then you have a place to begin open and honest communication between the two of you.

Here's one last bit of advice for you. Once the two of you are talking about getting the relationship back together, both of you need to be very clear on what you are agreeing to do or to quit doing. You must be absolutely positive that you will be able to honor your end of the agreement before making promises. Making promises and then not keeping them is the quickest way to kill your relationship, so don't do it.