The Dangers of Online Dating Sites

When seeking love through online dating sites, it is best to understand that not all is what it first appears. Members of online dating sites will often lie about several areas of their profile. Men will say they are taller, women will say they are younger, and in many cases present pictures of themselves from many years earlier. There have even been cases of violent criminals using online dating sites to find unwitting victims.

While most members of online dating sites do not encounter major problems, there has bee some incidents where a man will pretend to be an attractive women to lure young impassioned men, too horny for rational thought, to a dark and out of the way location, where he will find a group of burly men waiting to rob him. In this economic slowdown (why don't we just call it a recession?) more and more desperation will drive men to do things they normally would not... just to pay the bills.

Fortunately these horror stories normally occur from members using the multitude of free online dating sites that seem to pop up every second. The underlying problem here is, of course, anonymity. Being able to hide who you really are from the administrators of online dating sites may at first seem attractive, but can and does conceal the criminally minded.

If a woman, for example, were to be sexually assaulted by a man using a free dating service, and he did not use his real personal information, it may be impossible to track him down. Many online criminals are now using proxy sites to actually hide their ip addresses, so they could even operate from their own computers, at their own homes, and still be untraceable. This is why it can be very dangerous using a free service that does not require accredit card and other security measures to keep its members safe.

Social networking sites such as MySpace, are fast becoming the new online dating service among young and old alike. This is very dangerous territory as mentioned before when seeking to meet new people online for romance. Furthermore, men are becoming the prime target for crime since it is almost too easy to lure young men away from the safety of his home with the promise of sexual favors. Women, on the other hand, will typically have some experience with “creeps”, and can usually detect one miles away.

Guys meeting a seemingly hot woman online need to first talk to her on the phone. Yes, voice changing technology does exist, but it is very difficulty for a man to successfully pass as a woman in real life, unless he is a trained actor. Thugs intent on a mugging, while often times clever, are not that adept. In short, when using online dating sites be very careful who you actually plan to meet face to face, the face you actually meet may not be what you were expecting!

Top 10 Dating Statistics Everyone Should Know

While I am a firm believer in fate, destiny, and karma, not everybody is willing to trust in "the stars" to determine their future. You may have wondered to yourself, "What is my chance of finding a mate?" Well, there are various statistics to support the answer to that question, and I have listed several of them below. You may be surprised at some of them, especially the number of people that use online dating.

1. 40 million Americans use online dating services. That's about 40% of the adult American single population. It's not just a fad anymore, and it just might be your ticket to finding happiness.

2. 44% of the adult American population is single. That's over 100 million people, so your odds are actually much better than you think.

3. On average, there are 86 single men to every 100 single women in America. So, the odds are slightly in favor of men finding a mate. This ratio is a bit better in the Southwest, and in warmer climates such as Texas, Florida, and California, the ratio in some cities actually favors the women.

4. 50% of New York state adults are unmarried, making it the best state for single people. Washington, D.C. actually boasts a 70% single rate, making it the best area (although not a state) for single people.

The states with the worst ratios are Idaho and Utah, with 40% and 41% single, respectively.

5. 51% percent of single people surveyed say that flattery is the best way to attract someone. According to Are You Normal About Sex, Love, and Relationships? 25% also say to use touching as a way to flirt is very effective, and a surprising 23% say that the best way to let someone know you're interested in them is the old schoolyard method of passing word through a friend.

6. Profiles with photos get over twice as many responses. According to economists at MIT and University of Chicago, profiles with photos get over twice as many emails as profiles without them. Sounds like a good enough reason to me to go ahead and put that photo out there on your profile.

7. You have 15 minutes to make a first impression - if you're a woman, that is. If you're a man, you have a little more cushion. Women usually take about an hour to decide if you're going to have a second date.

8. #1 relationship argument is over money - according to a poll by the University of Denver. So, don't feel too bad if you can't agree about who's paying for the date. It's rather common, and not exactly a foretelling of things to come.

9. 48% of breakups in online relationships occur thru email. It may seem rude or insensitive, but this is the world we live in, especially in the setting of an online relationship.

10. Only 2% of men find relationships from a barstool. This number only goes up to 9% for women. So, get down off that barstool, and try your luck somewhere else, such as online, or through a network of friends, where 63% of married couples claim to have found their mates, according to the book Sex in America: A Definitive Survey by Robert T. Michael.

Positivity Attitude For Meeting and Attracting Women

Do you want the secret to success with beautiful women?

Do you want to know a way to never get blown out when you approach a hot woman?

Do you want the key to being a 'natural' with women?

The answer to these questions is that there is no BIG secret to become really good with women...it's as simple as having a POSITIVE ATTITUDE.

The 3 reasons why Positive Attitude is SO important in this game:

1) It's attractive to women.

2) It helps you deal with all the bull shit that you have to go through to get 'GOOD'.

3) It motivates you to succeed.

When you start off learning 'game' you might spend 90% of your time on material: memorizing techniques, learning lines, reading 'how to' guides, studying social psychology, etc, but after a while these parts of your game become somewhat automatic. Basically any person who can read a book can learn the techniques of 'pick up' game.

At some point in your quest to become 'good with women', you will realize that you could read yourself to death and still not get results. At this point it becomes apparent that elements of your core self such as attitude, confidence, presence, hard work, self-esteem etc will comprise the majority of your results with women.

These elements take a lot more hard work to change. A Positive Attitude will help you tackle the many obstacles you will face, keep your morale up, and motivate you during the process of change.

So the 2 main elements to getting 'good' are POSITIVE ATTITUDE and TAKING ACTION (going out, meeting women, dating, having sex etc.)

You must realize that forming a great attitude takes a long time in itself and is a continual process. Not only will having this mind frame help you take action, but it will lead to actual success, further reinforcing in your mind that you are good with women.

Guys who are willing to change their mindset over time will change who they are at a CORE level, and eventually results will simply fall into their laps!

To start developing a Positive Attitude you need to get into the mindset of others who understand the power of positive thinking. You must constantly expose yourself to this form of thought until it becomes a part of who you are.

Here are a few "classic" books on this subject to start you off with:

Think and Grow Rich - Napoleon Hill

How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie

Awaken the Giant Within - Anthony Robbins

A Positive Attitude will give you success in your journey towards being an attractive man, and will also help in the actual act of picking up women:

One thing that you can do right away is start smiling a lot, especially when you are trying to meet women. Always smile when you are out at a bar, club, or even on the street picking up women.
Try a little social experiment: when you go out to a bar next notice which guys appear more attractive to women. You'll notice that these men are not always the guys who are more physically attractive, but the guys who seem to exude confidence and have lots of positive attitude. These are the guys who will be smiling, laughing, having fun and enjoying their surroundings.

Next, adopt this attitude at all times and get out there and SMILE.

A good way to do this is to think of the funniest thing you can think of on the spot, or just joke around with your buddies to get into a laughing mood. Now walk around smiling and smile every time you approach a woman. It's simple and extremely attractive. This will make every aspect of your game easier.

Recently I took a friend out to show the 'ropes' of the pick up game. He already had been going out regularly to meet women, but knew there was something wrong with what he was doing, but couldn't pin point it. He got blown out pretty hard in his first couple encounters that night. I asked him how he thought it went and he was really hard on himself.

At that point I merely coached him a little, made him laugh, then told him to SMILE constantly. He approached his next group of women smiling and it went well, which further upped his game throughout the night. While he didn't suddenly transform into a Casanova, It's funny how something as simple as a SMILE and attitude adjustment upped his game 10 fold.

A positive attitude is the difference between someone who is just going through the motions of the game and the guys who will WIN in LIFE. These are the men who actually have lots of sex with women. The guys who come off natural and have a constant flood of women in their lives.

This fundamental attitude has been the factor that has lead to the majority of my success with women. Not just any women, but hot, smart, funny, HIGH QUALITY women!

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Disclaimer--

Do I walk around all 'happy go lucky' with a big fat grin on my face ALL the time? Not at all. But I do have a slightly more positive outlook on life than a negative outlook. My overall frame towards women is that they are cute, friendly and want to meet me.

Also, I constantly work on developing and maintaining this attitude. This attitude does not come natural for a lot of us. Read inspirational stories, self improvement, surround yourself with like minded people, think happy thoughts, and live a positive life!

This attitude leads to greatness in all facets of your life.

Most importantly, to really get good you not only have to have the right POSITIVE ATTITUDE, but you have to TAKE ACTION.