How to Approach a Girl - Going Back to Basics

Some guys can conquer the court or the playing field, the classroom, the kitchen, the stage, the entire auditorium, the top of a mountain, but the space between him and a girl that captured his attention? Tough luck. That's the problem with some, if not most guys who get temporarily paralyzed from waist down and cannot approach the girl that caught their fancy. 

They begin feeling like a kindergarten who was asked to recite the multiplication table of 8 on the spot. They feel helpless. They feel like first-time swimmers on the pool. They don't know what initial steps to do on how to approach a girl across the bar, the room, the street, wherever. They get stuck from where they are. Well, there are actually ways that could make you walk straight to them without tripping or stopping at the middle, and these things on how to approach a girl are what men will find out from here.

1. Observe first. Check if the girl you're eying is not with another guy already, which apparently could be her boyfriend or her date (lucky you if it's her brother or cousin). Now, once the coast is clear, so to speak, get ready for invasion!

2. Have a quick fix of yourself. It's not suggested that you go to the restroom and thoroughly examine your overall look as if you're appearing for a job interview. Hmmm... though it will not do any harm and might actually buy some time for you to muster enough courage, the only problem is that by the time you get back the girl might probably have disappeared on the scene or is entertaining another guy already. Anyhow, just have quick general check on yourself, like checking your collar or running your hand on your hair. These may seem petty but as they say, first impression lasts and you want an impression of someone who is presentable and neat-looking.

3. Take a deep breath. Inhale. Exhale. This is just a very simple step that has been proven for so many times already in so many different occasions to relieve any initial nervousness. Make this a part of your "attack plan" on how to approach a girl, and you could really feel the difference. You'll truly feel "light" as you walk your way to your precious find.

4. Keep it short and sweet and natural. Forget those silly, cliché pick-up lines or those pretentious "hey-yah-what's-a-hot-babe-like-you-doing-alone-here approach. A simple "Excuse me. I've seen you from across the room. I hope you'll not mind if I join you?" or "Hi! I'm Markus. Mind if I keep you company?" will actually do the trick, or who knows? It might already set off fireworks for that girl who's grown tired already of those bombastic lines and overbearing approach. Just keep your initial lines or "opening remarks" naturally brief and simple, and that's how to approach a girl without being dominating or timid. From there, who knows what might happen on the next round?

Conclusion:

In general, it's hard to approach a stranger. Getting to know a girl could be like a walk on a tightrope.  You don't know if you'll be turned down, get humiliated, mocked, or, well, accepted and affirmed. Approaching a girl is a game of chance. The important thing is that you made your decision to take the chance of knowing that girl, and hopefully establish a relationship with her. So, just remember those basic rules like keeping yourself presentable and natural, and being prepared for anything that might occur once you come face-to-face with the girl.

3 Key Things You Must Do If You Want to Attract a Girl

Since ancient times, men have been lured by the promises of love potions and magic spells. If only such magic were real! While there are no secret formulas for wooing a special lady, there are some guidelines that make romance more likely to blossom. A few key guidelines are reviewed below.

Let bygones be bygones

Leave the past behind! Past relationships needn't negatively affect the present. Too often, people become trapped by painful memories of a relationship gone wrong. They behave as if every relationship were the same. Ironically, this only allows that person to hurt you again by interfering with your next shot at happiness.

Every day, we have the opportunity to make new choices and develop new habits of relating to people. Put away your old defense mechanisms. Focus on building a new relationship in the present.

Move at a sensible pace

Don't move too fast. Moving too quickly has a few drawbacks. For one, in the beginning of a relationship, people tend to reveal only their best qualities. While it's important to accept that nobody is perfect, getting deeply involved too quickly might tie you to someone whose imperfections can't be worked into your life. Also, moving too quickly might scare off a woman who is being sensible and cautious. She might question your motivations. Are you really only involved in her surface qualities, or are you willing to learn more about her? In the case of dating, patience really is a virtue!

Hold on to individuality

Once you've attracted the woman of your dreams, you might find yourself never wanting to be without her. She'll probably feel the same way. However, it's important that you spend time apart. This doesn't mean that you should go to the pub and seek out other women, or that she'll go off with her friends and forget about you. It just means that you spend time apart so that time together is more meaningful. When you spend time apart - whether you're talking with friends, reading a book, or nurturing a hobby - you'll return with new information to share with each other. Time apart helps to keep your relationship fresh!

You Too Can Get Women From the Internet to the Date Effortlessly!

I've spent quite a few years in my life meeting women online and while this is a viable method to do it, it is also a limited one compared to the endless amounts of women you can meet in the real world. However, by popular demand I have decided to feature a guide on how to go about it to give you the highest success ratios out there. I will not focus on the initial conversations, for that topic is reserved for a future time, so now i will focus on how to get women from the internet and out in the real world to meet you over coffee.

While some guys get lost in the endless world of internet chatting and end up wasting weeks talking to a girl only to realize that they are not attracted to her in person, i decided to take a more practical route. I keep my internet conversations with girls very short and sweet. I do not want to end up some sort of her 'cyber-buddy'. No. My goal is to get her out in the real world as soon as possible. That is where the real connections happen, not over the internet.

The younger girls may be a little bit more cautious about meeting you so quickly, but the older more mature women will have no issue with it and actually like your initiative. Most likely if they are worthwhile, they are going to be very busy in life and appreciate the fact that you are taking initiative so quickly to meet up instead of wasting their time chatting about random things all over the internet.

So my method is to keep the initial conversation maybe half an hour long over the internet, get a feel for what she is like. Find out her life story, and see if i am attracted to her. I will also exchange some more pictures with her to see if we are both compatible. I like asking "What did you think of my profile" just so I can get some feedback on it. If she does not say anything about how she finds me attractive, or cute, or charming... then I take it that her interest level is not particularly high, which makes me weary.

I do not like wasting my time with girls who are "undecided" about how they feel about a man. I like the REAL women who know exactly what they want in a man. If she seems like she can't make up her mind, then I will be cautious about making plans with her.

Anyway, after our first conversation, I may decide to exchange phone numbers with her right then and there or wait until the end of our second conversation. It really depends on the moment, because sometimes you can feel there's a connection and you can FEEL she wants you to get her number. However, if you don't feel that, then it's okay to wait until the end of the second internet conversation.

Once you do finally get her number, call her immediately and chat it up for a good 15-20 minutes or so. Again, if the conversation flows great then you can ask her on a date immediately at the end of the conversation. If it doesn't flow that great, then tell her you will give her another call in a few days so you can talk some more and get to know her. Longest I would wait is 2-3 days before the next phone call. If she is in the internet dating scene, then there are over 100 guys per day messaging her. If you wait longer than 2-3 days, she may end up being interested in other men and she will totally forget about you.

So the tip with internet dating is to go in for the kill as fast as you can.

How to Ensure a Perfect First Date

The first date is very important in any relationship. It gives the couple the chance to get to know each other. It is where first impressions are developed. That is why you should do everything that you can in order to make sure that nothing goes wrong on your first date. Having a perfect first date is not really hard to attain. You don't have to spend sleepless nights planning for your date. Below are some tips that you should keep in mind:

Be on time

Most people don't want to wait, especially during the first meet. Being late may be deemed as a sign of your irresponsibility or disregard for your partner. You have to be on time if you want to show your respect for your date.

Also, keep in mind that being late for the first date may actually be regarded as a sign of rejection. Your partner might misinterpret your tardiness as an indication that you don't like him or that you have other things more important to do than to be with him. If you ever arrive late for your first date, make sure your excuses are really reasonable. Do not forget to apologize.

Look your best

For a perfect thing to happen, you should always give your best. This includes dressing nicely for the occasion. Bring out your best dress and flaunt your beauty. However, keep in mind that you should always dress appropriately for the occasion. If you can, ask your partner for your date's itinerary so you won't make the mistake of overdressing for the venue. In picking out a dress, keep it simple. Keep in mind that dressing simply adds elegance and sophistication to your personality.

Be yourself

Never pretend to be someone you are not. First dates are for first impressions, and these impressions should be based on your true personality. Show your partner what and who you really are. If you make pretenses, you will not feel comfortable during your first date, nor will be your partner. Doing so will only lead to problems if your relationship becomes more intimate.