Dating Tips For Shy Guys - Use These Simple Tips to Get the Girl of Your Dreams

Dating can be such an intimidating word, let alone the place where actual dating takes place. It's even more intimidating if you're the shy type of guy.

Approaching a woman that you like can be a little bit embarrassing especially if you're not comfortable with the idea of plunging in to the social dating world. If all these sounds familiar to you and you can relate to it, here are some dating tips for shy guys that can help you strike a good conversation with a woman that you like and eventually get her to have a date with you.

One of the best dating tips for shy guys is choosing the best place to meet women. A lot of men opt for a crowded nightclub as they think this is the best place to meet all the attractive women; actually it's not. If you are clueless about getting a woman's attention, it will be more challenging and embarrassing for you to go to a nightclub. You'd probably do better if you choose to go to a peaceful and relaxed place like a library, grocery store or a cafe. The competition is much lesser in these places and it will be a lot easier to ask a woman out if the atmosphere is not loud and crowded.

Another one of the most helpful dating tips for shy guys is having the ability to listen. This is probably a long lost form of dating art. If you are out on a date, take time to listen to what she has to say. Listen to her stories, listen to the things that interest her. If you are worrying about what topics you are going to open when you're on a date, you can pick up from the things that she says. If she constantly talks about music, then ask her what kind of music she likes and you can share the type of music you like as well. This can keep you conversation smoothly flowing and you can keep her interested too.

If you're really the shy type, there is nothing wrong in dragging along a good friend to give you support. It doesn't mean that he would be sitting and mingling with you and your date in one table. He could sit in a table across yours and you can just constantly look at him to get some encouragement and support. This is great for you especially if it is your first date. You friend can help you boost your confidence and can help you stay calmed and focus throughout the date. It's quite overwhelming to know that you have someone to pull out a great support nearby.

Lastly, do not be afraid to tell a woman that you are the shy type of person. Of course, women understand that men are not the same and some are just really not that type of a lady killer. In fact, some women would appreciate you more if you're honest to them. If they know that you are a shy guy, they can even help you keep the date alive and interesting.

Shockingly Simple Tips For Getting a Girl to Adore You - You Will Have Women Eating Out of Your Hand

Getting a girl is as hard as catching a fish. If you don't cast your fishing line, you will not get a fish. Also, if you don't put bait on your hook, no fish will ever bite it. The same goes in getting a girl, a guy must be the first one to make a move and to do some charming and gentleman acts.

There are many sources of tips for getting a girl. It may be from your father, your brother or a a friend, the things that they will tell you will just be based on their experience and as a consequence, the information will be only limited. On the other hand, if you want to take tips for getting a girl from experts, you are going to succeed.

First, you must be visible. Being visible means you have to mingle and socialize with other people, especially when the girl you like is within a group. Be courteous and polite when approaching a girl or a group, this will help you to be noticed in a good way. Do not exaggerate anything about you, or the way you act, being visible does not mean overacting.

Second, do not rush things. When you meet a girl do not ever attempt to close in the gap too quickly. As a sign of respect, do not make cheesy moves like whispering to her ear just to smell her scent or pretended to yawn just to put your arms in her shoulder. Be respectful to the girl as if you're taking out your mom or sister to lunch.

Third, be creative. Flowers, chocolates and stuffed toys are things of the past. Do some research on what she likes to do or the things she wants. Surprise her. It does not have to be expensive or fancy. The important thing is that you let her know that the things you're doing for her is just a way to show or to let her know that you really like her and that you are serious in what you are doing.

Fourth, be a good listener. Women like to talk and men are generally silent when facing a girl. In listening to her stories and problems, be sincere in listening. Other men just stare at the girl's face without even understanding a word she's saying. Let her know that you care and you have all the time for her.

Finally, be consistent. If you're a sensitive person, don't be. If will just drive the girl away. If you like the girl, you have to understand her. In this way, it is assured that that you will get the girl because she will feel that you mean what you are doing.

How to Easily Create Hot and Sexy Texts to Turn Him On

Men love to get sexy text messages from their girlfriends.

If you have already used "UR Hot" or "I want U now!" type texts and are out of ideas, some of the best ideas for sexy texts can be found on your bookshelf in steamy and erotic romance novels women love to read.

If you have ever read an erotic romance novel, remember how the writer got you all worked up and aroused with very vivid sexual images? You might be breathing a little heavier right now just thinking about a great sex scene you read.

Well, sexy dirty texting is made up of words that create the same kind of images in your guy's mind about all the things you want to do to him or tease him with.

Once you implant those images in his mind, he won't be able to stop thinking about you and will be racing home to you all hot and bothered.

Here are 5 tips to creating hot and sexy texts messages to turn him on

Tip #1: Unlike a romance novel, your sexy text messages should be short
You don't have to send a long message to get the reaction you want.

Tip #2: Make it oh so personal!
Think about what kind of vivid images you can create that are unique to your guy. The more personal the image you create, the more sexy your texts will be.

Tip #3: Pay close attention to your man
In order to create personal and unique texts, you have to pay attention to things that are unique about your guy that you notice and enjoy when you are together. These texts are like sharing your little secrets together.

Tip #4: Create a vivid sexual image
Think about the sexiest thing you can imagine about your man that turns you on more than anything else. Now create a vivid image of it and then write it down on a piece of paper.

Why not create a list of the top 5 or 10 things that really turn you on about your guy and create a sexy image about each one you can write down and turn into a hot and sexy text message.

Tip #5: Break out that steamy romance novel
Read a hot and sexy scene and notice what words are used that get a reaction out of you...it will likely get a reaction out of him, too!

Here's a few examples of hot and sexy text messages you can create just like a steamy romance novelist

Sexy Text #1

You: "Hey babe. I loved those jeans you wore the other night. They really showed off your assets."

Him: "You did? :)"

You: "I wanted to wrap my arms around you and squeeze you tight."

Sexy Text #2

You: "Hey babe. I'm thinking about you and how I love the way the way you work your magic fingers on my neck and shoulders and all over...Can't wait till the weekend."

Sexy Text #3

You: "I'm doing a little shopping right now and I got to thinking about you..."

(pause for several seconds to build the anticipation)

You: "I've got a pair of new sexy black panties in my hands. I'm thinking how you love me to bring your morning coffee in just a pair of sexy panties."

See how these texts were short yet very hot and sexy?

They created vivid sexual images in his mind that will linger with him and build anticipation of being with you as soon as he can.

Send these kinds of sexy texts to your guy and revel in the response you'll get. It's wicked fun to be able to turn on your guy be sending him hot and sexy texts anytime and anywhere. He'll be totally distracted thinking lusty thoughts about you.

Beware of the Well Meaning But Misguided Advice on Dating

Recently one of my coaching clients brought my attention to an online advice column and wanted to know what I thought of it. Here the writer described how to judge whether the date is a start of something good or not.... The sum and substance of the advice was, if it feels like hard work in the first month, it is going to get much harder as time goes on, so, don't waste your time, just move on.

In this day and age when every one is an expert on relationships and dating, it is not difficult to find a lot of well meaning but misguided information on the internet, not to mention pandering to the need for instant gratification and quick-fix answers.

To be fair, it is not just this one article. I am sure you have read many articles of this genre. Advice about all the things one should not do during the early stages of dating like revealing too much about one's self or about the previous relationships, one's financial or family problems or anything else that might "scare the other person away".

Let us look at the dating situation realistically. How many people have a wonderful time in the first month of dating someone new? Probably a significant majority. Right? After all, it is a new relationship, you are both excited to be with each other, discover things about each other, impress each other with new jokes, new ideas, new makeup, new clothes... etc. Sugarplums are dancing in your head in anticipation of the wonderful encounters to come. There is more dopamine running through your veins than blood and you can hardly see straight...

Now, the writer would call this "easy work" I would imagine. OK, I don't really have a problem with that. But to surmise that this scenario has a better chance for long term survival of the relationship compared to "hard work" is where I have the problem. What happens when the jokes get old, makeup wears off, clothes are wrinkled, we already know (or we think we know any way) every thing there is to know about the other, the warts we see in the daylight aren't too pretty, and, the dopamine is wearing off? Is this the RIGHT time to get to the "hard work"?

I guarantee this is a prescription for disaster. It may take few months, and if you are lucky maybe even a few years, before you come down the cloud. But what happens when you do come down the cloud? If you thought this guy or gal was the right one for you because it was so easy-breezy great in the first month, I am afraid you are in for a great disappointment. Unless, of course, you goal is to have a series of one-month relationships strung together to define your romantic life. In that case, I am wrong. Your strategy is the right one.

Now what do we really mean by hard work? That is the sixty-four thousand dollar question, is it not? Let us look at some specifics. For example, several years ago when I was a member of a dating network, a very nice guy said hello to me and we chatted online. We exchanged email addresses and started to write to each other. In his very first email he asked me what I was looking for. My answer to him was: I am not sure if I can give you a short answer of what I AM looking for, but I can certainly tell you what I am NOT looking for. I am not looking for someone who will do for now until a better one comes along". I put it very succinctly and honestly. At this point we had not even met each other face-to-face. As soon as he read my reply, he shot back a very polite answer thanking me for my honesty and said "we are not in the same place at this time of our lives".

I can not tell you how much I appreciated that direct, honest response. And, I know he felt the same way about my answer. We both saved ourselves a lot of heart-ache by being upfront about what we were looking for. We could have played a lot of games by hiding our intentions so that we could have a few good times but what would have been the point? Who we are and what we want out of life would not have changed if we waited to give the same answer a few months from then.

If you want the real thing, not just a quick flopping French souffle type of fling-thing, the hard work starts the day you meet someone nice and think there is a chance that it could work for you.

In fact I would bet good money that it is easier to do the hard work in the early stages of the relationship when the dopamine is helping than later on when you fall off the cloud of romance and hit the reality ground hard.

I will elaborate more in the future articles on what "hard work" really means in the context of successful dating. In the meanwhile please comment on this article and let me know your thoughts.

How to Attract Women - The Ultimate Guide on Attracting Women For Men

Every man wants to be able to attract the girls that they fancy. Some think that it is essential to be super rich like Donald Trump or super good looking like Brad Pitt in order to be able to get women to like them. What rubbish! You must know the real secrets of attraction so that you know exactly how to make women like you. Read on to discover the ultimate guide to attract women - and achieve killer, mind blowing results fast...

How To Attract Women - What You Need To Know

Technique #1: Become The Bad Boy. If you are a 'nice guy', then you are doing your game a great disservice. Women NEVER like nice guys - because they like to walk all over them. You must never be a 'goody two shoe'! Women are naturally drawn to bad boys for some reasons we all cannot fathom.

Technique #2: Pure Dominance. What attracts women the most is how men handle themselves. If you are naturally dominant then women will tend to get attracted to you. Give her a good impression by being extra sure about yourself. Do not come across as too cocky - this is counter productive.

Technique #3: Use Hypnosis / Fractionation. It is the seduction community's dirty little secret that master seducers or pickup artists have been using hypnosis techniques to make women want to sleep with them.

One such technique, called fractionation, involves getting the woman to go through an emotional roller coaster in a carefully structured conversation. In the process, she is made to associate her happy feelings to you - so that she becomes happy when you are around. This makes her feel emotionally connected to you, and ultimately 'addicted' to you. During this stage, she will agree to do anything you tell her to.

Fractionation is an 'amoral' technique - so if you decide to use it please do so responsibly.

How to Become a Player - 3 Steps That Can Make You Irresistible

In dating, there are a few traits that can turn a woman on as quickly as flicking a light on. Some men simply know how to be irresistible towards women and they have this unique style of making women go crazy over then. Simply said, some guys know how to get the girls.

These men are what we may call players and they possess special traits used best when it comes to flirting. Players know the female psychology quite well; hence, they are able to flirt with women and act in such a way that would make them attractive.

How about you, do you know how to become a player and win most of the girls you meet?

If you want to know how to become a player, here are but 3 ways for you to practice on:

1. When a woman first sees you, they suddenly think of many things about you-your looks, your personality, your appeal. The very first thing you have to do to make them change whatever negative thought they have in mind about you is simply by presenting yourself in a very careful, comfortable and friendly manner. Be that person who is easy to approach and befriend and it will be easier for you and the woman to connect.

2. As soon as you have her talking to you, or as soon as you have built this special connection with her, you have to impress her with all of your positive traits like: your confidence, your politeness, your respect for others, and your honesty. You must be someone who can meet her expectations or even go further.

3. Remember that when it comes to being a player, being serious in a relationship is not always a necessity-sometimes, it isn't present at all. Just have fun with whatever it is you are doing and if the situation turns into something else, use your own decision-making skills to control the situate. Decide for yourself, but never remember to be brave and confident enough to take the challenge of making her want you.

These three tips are but guidelines that can help you know how to become a player the fastest way possible. Lots of practicing and determination are needed to become an effective player; hence, never give up when it comes to learning how to win girls. Always have faith in your abilities and it will be easier for you to draw women to you.

How to Become a Player - 3 Steps That Can Make You Irresistible

In dating, there are a few traits that can turn a woman on as quickly as flicking a light on. Some men simply know how to be irresistible towards women and they have this unique style of making women go crazy over then. Simply said, some guys know how to get the girls.

These men are what we may call players and they possess special traits used best when it comes to flirting. Players know the female psychology quite well; hence, they are able to flirt with women and act in such a way that would make them attractive.

How about you, do you know how to become a player and win most of the girls you meet?

If you want to know how to become a player, here are but 3 ways for you to practice on:

1. When a woman first sees you, they suddenly think of many things about you-your looks, your personality, your appeal. The very first thing you have to do to make them change whatever negative thought they have in mind about you is simply by presenting yourself in a very careful, comfortable and friendly manner. Be that person who is easy to approach and befriend and it will be easier for you and the woman to connect.

2. As soon as you have her talking to you, or as soon as you have built this special connection with her, you have to impress her with all of your positive traits like: your confidence, your politeness, your respect for others, and your honesty. You must be someone who can meet her expectations or even go further.

3. Remember that when it comes to being a player, being serious in a relationship is not always a necessity-sometimes, it isn't present at all. Just have fun with whatever it is you are doing and if the situation turns into something else, use your own decision-making skills to control the situate. Decide for yourself, but never remember to be brave and confident enough to take the challenge of making her want you.

These three tips are but guidelines that can help you know how to become a player the fastest way possible. Lots of practicing and determination are needed to become an effective player; hence, never give up when it comes to learning how to win girls. Always have faith in your abilities and it will be easier for you to draw women to you.

How to Become a Player - 3 Steps That Can Make You Irresistible

In dating, there are a few traits that can turn a woman on as quickly as flicking a light on. Some men simply know how to be irresistible towards women and they have this unique style of making women go crazy over then. Simply said, some guys know how to get the girls.

These men are what we may call players and they possess special traits used best when it comes to flirting. Players know the female psychology quite well; hence, they are able to flirt with women and act in such a way that would make them attractive.

How about you, do you know how to become a player and win most of the girls you meet?

If you want to know how to become a player, here are but 3 ways for you to practice on:

1. When a woman first sees you, they suddenly think of many things about you-your looks, your personality, your appeal. The very first thing you have to do to make them change whatever negative thought they have in mind about you is simply by presenting yourself in a very careful, comfortable and friendly manner. Be that person who is easy to approach and befriend and it will be easier for you and the woman to connect.

2. As soon as you have her talking to you, or as soon as you have built this special connection with her, you have to impress her with all of your positive traits like: your confidence, your politeness, your respect for others, and your honesty. You must be someone who can meet her expectations or even go further.

3. Remember that when it comes to being a player, being serious in a relationship is not always a necessity-sometimes, it isn't present at all. Just have fun with whatever it is you are doing and if the situation turns into something else, use your own decision-making skills to control the situate. Decide for yourself, but never remember to be brave and confident enough to take the challenge of making her want you.

These three tips are but guidelines that can help you know how to become a player the fastest way possible. Lots of practicing and determination are needed to become an effective player; hence, never give up when it comes to learning how to win girls. Always have faith in your abilities and it will be easier for you to draw women to you.