Regain Your Manhood and Walk Your Walk

Lonely guys at the end of the bar, pathetically nursing their drinks and pretending to be more interested in the big screen that they can't hear are there for many reasons. If it's you, then you probably already know your reasons. If it's not you, then you know your reasons for not wanting to be there. Define, for the sake of that empty bar seat, what you want in this life and what you want from the women you have the potential to meet. Be clear in your desires and your decisions and stop being a wishy washy mush ball. It's unattractive.

If you're all into meaningless flings and you're greatest interest is in the fastest possible way to get laid, then fine. Your relationships can be defined that way. If you are still there because that is the reputation you have given yourself, but it isn't making you feel fulfilled, you can step out of it simply by redefining the image of what you're looking for an act accordingly. I've known guys who have been with more women than they can count who finally realize that they are rather miserable. Yet they continue the behavior because that is what is expected of them. It's not necessary. If it makes you happy, fine. If it doesn't, then change it.

Some guys have an easier time of breaking their reputation by finding a new place to hang out. Sure, they end up without their buddies, but overall, they find it easier to present themselves without the expectation that they have led people to believe is true about them.

You get to walk your own walk anytime you want. You get to define what you're looking for and change it up as you see fit. The expectation of others is really pretty inconsequential. Because you are your own man, and you are entitled to your own definitions of what it means to be a man, then you are in control. Being in control of your own choices gives you freedom.

When you decide that you're going to walk a new walk, and you go through the time and energy to define how it's going to be, nothing is written in stone. In fact, often you might find that you are a little lonely during your new vision and you might slip back to your old stomping grounds for a night and grab and quickie. It doesn't mean you are ingenuine about what you are looking for. It means you're a guy with a need that you still have the capacity to fill. Once you're involved with a woman that choice is no longer recommended, but you will probably find that you're happier anyway. After all, you're the guy that made the choice to walk your different walk.

Relieving ourselves of the expectation of others is a gift to our own sense of manhood and our own ability to be our own man. Regardless of the reputation you have set forth for yourself, you get to change it at will and let the world know that you are in control of your own decisions and choices.

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How to Get Your Boyfriend Back - Why Some People Give You the Wrong Advice

There are lots of people who will give you advice on how to get your boyfriend back but unfortunately not all of this is good advice. Some of the people who give you not so good advice probably are trying to help but haven't actually been through what you're going through right now. Unless someone has actually experienced the pain of being dumped by their boyfriend, the sleepless nights, lack of appetite and let's not forget how it throws off your monthly cycle, they can't really give you first hand information.

When my boyfriend and I broke up I had all of these symptoms and more, but that's all changed now and I feel that I am experienced enough to help you through your crisis. Let's face it, being dumped is pretty high up on the list of the most terrible feelings you'll ever feel especially if you're deeply in love with the guy.

Like you, I didn't have a clue how to win back an ex boyfriend and had to rely on what other people told me. Luckily, I managed to stop and take a step back before he was gone forever, I then had to do some damage control and go back and try again; luckily the next time around it all came together.

You're probably suffering pretty hard right now and I do sympathize with you but you need to shake that feeling of quickly, the longer you feel like this the more likely you are to do something which you'll regret later.

Think back to when you first started dating, you don't need to think about him but you do need to think about yourself, that's the person who he's going to want back. If you're sat at your computer in your dressing gown with your greasy hair and make up smudged down your face from crying, I can guarantee that you didn't look like that when you were together so that really needs to change.

I'm not going to lecture you any more, I will tell you that there is hope and I don't care if he's seeing someone else or whether you have lost all faith. If you want him back I can help you.

Create Better Dates

I always get emails from people about dates, and what are the best things to do on them. People are always asking me, "is dinner and a movie okay?"

Sure, dinner and a movie are great - if you want to sit there in silence and stare at a screen for two hours. You drop them off at the end of the night and you haven't learned a thing about them the entire evening!

How about going to a movie and bringing a picnic into the movie? Having a picnic during a movie is always fun. You can hide it in your manbag! You can whip out this great little sushi meal as you watch The Return of Godzilla! You could even make the food fit the theme of the movie.

How about watching the sunset? Most people think, let's go to the beach and watch the sunset. It's like kissing on New Year's Eve - how cliché. I read something recently in a magazine that I thought was a cool idea: why don't you paint the sunset?

Go to the store and get two paint kits and actually paint the sunset. Whether you are a professional artist or a stick-figure artist (like me) you will really be able to interact with the person you are painting with. You could ask them, "so what made you put the sun to the right?" "Why does your stick figure look so much different than mine?

What about a Sunday drive? Instead of just cruising to the beach or a lake, why don't you go to open houses? I've talked a lot about this in some of my products. Take a look at some of the houses in both the good and the bad neighborhoods. Get an idea of what each of you like in a house.

This will bring up a lot of interesting conversations between the two of you as well. Even if a house that you look at isn't really that great, you can talk about it and it will give you an idea of the depth of her character

And when you go and visit the McMansions you can take a look at it, have some fun and really pretend that you're interested in buying the house. It can be a really fun day.

Here's something I've read about but I've never really done it: shooting clay birds. I don't know, I've never really seen a clay bird. I have a bird in my office two days a week, but I've never shot clay birds in my life. Apparently it's quite fun and a good idea for a date. Go figure that one out.

So there are some new date ideas for you.

The REAL Reason Why Women Pick Men Who They Say They Don't Want

Dear Friend,

Are women completely crazy?

I mean, have you ever wondered why women pick men who seem uncaring and disrespectful?

You've looked around.

You know there are hundreds of 'good' guys out there eager to go out with her, just waiting for her to give them a chance.

But what does she do?

The crazy chick goes out with some complete jerk!

Why?

Well, let me ask you this:

Have you ever listened to a woman tell you all the things she wants in an ideal guy, all of which you may even have - but then she still goes for the jerk who doesn't seem to have any of them?

What's up?

Why would she say she wants one thing, then go for the complete opposite?

Even if you nicely point it out to her and tell her that she deserves a better guy, why doesn't she seem to listen to you?

Why does she still stay with him?

Certainly, she heard what you were saying. It surely seemed like it. Is there nothing between those ears or hers?

Was she lying?

Is she just too dumb to realize what she's actually doing?

Not exactly.

So if these types of questions has ever bothered you, within the next few minutes, they no longer will.

You'll understand exactly why women pick men who they seem to say they don't want.

And the key to understanding this seemingly strange paradox is to first realize that women leave a large portion of their 'ideal guy' OUT of the descriptions that they give other men.

That's right.

They leave it out!

And without being aware of what that missing part of their description is, NONE of the other stuff they do say they want in men counts for much.

Simply put:

The reason why women pick men who they say they don't want is because he fits that missing part.

So the real question is:

What is that missing part of the description?

And why do women leave it out?

Why Women Don't Reveal The WHOLE Truth...

Imagine for a moment that a fat chick asks you for a description of your 'ideal woman'.

How would you respond to a question like that?

What would you say?

Naturally, us guys want women with hourglass figures that would make Jessica Rabbit glow green with envy.

This is obvious to all men.

We all understand this.

It's a given.

There's no need for discussion on this topic, right?

Now think about this:

Would you even mention it to our chubby chick? Would it be a part of your description?

Maybe, maybe not.

Perhaps you wouldn't want to give her a reason to feel bad and blame you for it or go into the "All men want is sex" man-hater mode.

So if you did mention it, wouldn't it likely be more of a conclusion - a tag on.

"I want a chick who has personality. She has to have a great sense of humor and be out-going and fun to be around. She has to be smart and enjoy learning. She has to be responsible," along with a dozen other traits. "Oh, and looks of course."

Now imagine this chubby chick had all of these things - aside from the figure, obviously.

Would you want her?

No way!

Yet if you look at the description you gave her, what really determines your decision?

Isn't it in one short non-descriptive sentence that's at the very BOTTOM of your list... where it has the LEAST impact on our obese, inquisitive chick?

Doesn't this mean that all the stuff ahead of it is really just 'filler'? You know, things you look for in a long-term relationship - assuming a woman first meets your standards.

This is obvious to us, right?

You get it, but does this quizzical fat chick?

Probably not.

But why, exactly?

Since it's small and at the bottom, she assumes it's not that important.

Well, women operate in a similar way - good looking chicks, that is...

The missing part of their descriptions are so obvious TO THEM that they feel no need to really mention or explain it. And if they do, it too, is short and given little attention.

Because it's standard to them - as looks are to us - they assume it's common knowledge to everyone.

Ask a hot woman what she wants in a guy, and she'll probably say something like this...

"I want a man with a great sense of humor. He has to be caring and nice, and treat me with respect. He has to be a good listener," along with an even longer list. "Oh, and of course, he has to know what he wants," she adds as a sidenote conclusion.

It's not that she doesn't want those things.

She does.

It's just that the answer to why women pick men who may not even be good for them personally is in that tag-on!

That's where her deciding factor lies.

It's Self-Evident To Women But Most Men Don't Have A Clue

So just what is so important in a woman's description of her 'ideal guy' that she leaves vague?

Why is it also the reason why women pick men who may not even have any of the other traits they want in a man?

And just what exactly does it mean to know what you want, anyway?

There is no short answer to that question.

Yet, most times, it gets so little attention from women when they describe their ideal guy.

Isn't it interesting that the MOST important factor gets the LEAST amount of attention?

No wonder there's a valid reason why women pick men who can be abusive instead of going for the guy who has everything ELSE in her description.

Negative traits aside, they have THAT something.

Just as that fat chick, looking at the bulk of your description and ignoring the all important final tag will remain confused about how to get men, we have to understand exactly what women's final tag means.

So in short, knowing what you want means you have these qualities as part of your character...

Strong Sense of Identity

This means having a clear picture of who you are, and includes not looking to anyone else for approval or permission for your choices and behavior.

Demand Respect

This means you know how you expect other people to treat you and you let others know when they don't treat you accordingly.

Aggressive

This means, more than anything, having the ability to take risks and go for exactly what you want - without hesitation and in spite of fear.

Do Nice Guys have any of these traits?

They may be friendly and out-going. They may be 'respectful'. They may be a million and one things.

But one thing they are not are guys who know what they want.

A Nice Guy is to women what a fat chick is to men, as far as sexuality is concerned.

So the reason why women pick men who can seem to be the 'scum' of the world - they can be abusive, physically and emotionally - is because they have these qualities.

In spite of their flaws, they have a strong sense of who they are, they let women know when they cross a line with them, and they also make choices quickly.

And these qualities outweigh everything else a woman says she wants.

Whenever a woman talks about what she wants in a man, everything she says is in ADDITION to him knowing what he wants in Life.

To them, it's a given.

So just how to you go about developing these qualities in yourself, so women will naturally be interested in you?

How To Become A Natural With Women...

How do you become the kind of man women find NATURALLY attractive, without having to constantly think about whether or not you're attracting them?

What's the 'magic button'?

The Holy Grail?

Well, I'd be lying if I told you there was one, so here are the steps instead:

FIRST, get over the fear of being yourself, even if it 'upsets' others.

SECOND, know your boundaries and learn to communicate them.

THIRD, define what you want and stop hesitating.

But what does all that mean?

And how do you learn to do all of it?

The very best way to develop all these traits, so women naturally feel attracted to you, is to download a copy of my eBook, Cool Guy with Women.

It covers all the basics and advanced techniques:

PART 1 shows you how to build confidence around women so that you feel 100% comfortable, so you'll get rid of all nervousness or awkwardness when around women you find attractive.

No more of that "sinking" feeling in the pit of your stomach.

PART 2 reveals communication techniques that make starting and holding conversations with women easy, so you'll never have to worry about what to say again.

It also teaches you simpl techniques to "communicate your boundaries" to women, so that you'll get respect from all women.

And PART 3 breaks down the entire "dating process". It covers everything from starting the very first conversation to calling a woman to arrange a date to what to do on dates and where to go that costs less than a value meal at a fast food restuarant.

Seriously.

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How to Tell a Girl You Love Her - And Get Her to Love You Back

Look, guys - getting a girl on a date is the easy part. The difficult part is to make her want you and confessing your feelings to her. The biggest stumbling block for most guys is to tell women that they love them - the biggest reason for this is that they fear the risk of getting rejected.

Here's some news for you - rejection often is the direct result of how you approach the whole thing in the first place. This is why you must know the killer ways to tell a girl you love her so that she responds to you favorably. Read on to discover these secrets and achieve earth shattering results fast...

Three Tips On How To Tell A Girl You Love Her

Tip Number One - "Timing Matters". Timing has got a very strong influence when it comes to confessing your love to a girl. If you utter the words "I love you" in a wrong time, your chances could be ruined forever. Be warned!

Tip Number Two - "Give Non-verbal Queues". You see, women can pick up hints very easily - she will know that you have feelings for her even without you saying it. Once you have done this, telling her that you want her will be easy.

Tip Number Three - "Use Hypnosis". If everything else fails, you should not rule out using hypnosis when you tell her that you want her. One surefire way to do this is to hypnotize her to feeling emotionally dependent on you so that she cannot be without you. This way, you will make her confess her feelings to YOU instead! One hypnosis trick to do this is called 'fractionation'.