Dangerous Romantic - Laugh, Love, Live & Learn

Beware of the dangerous romantic. Sometimes being romantic can be dangerous because ladies fall in love with the illusion of love and the grandeur of romance that they feel when they are with you. The sense of adventure and the unexpected can be a bit of a drug and provide arousing feelings, which most women rarely experience on an ongoing basis.

That being said in my own life I have been inclined to live wholeheartedly no matter what I do, or whom I'm with. As it pertains to dating this has proven at times to be destructive as women are easily seduced and I easily mislead. It is easy to move hastily and prematurely into a relationship, without having taken a full and thorough inventory of the qualities of a person.

The emotions, endorphines, and hormonal rush that collectively come into play during dating can be quite deceiving and convincingly persuade many that this is how life will always be with a person. In a long-term relationship however, such is not the case.

Soap operas never show laundry being washed, dishes be cleaned, and bathrooms being scrubbed. This is for a deliberate reason. Soap operas want you to experience the thrill of romance, not the reality of daily life.

Dating is no different, which is precisely the reason why one must take adequate precaution when deciding whom to commit to within a long-term relationship. Because real life is less romantic and far more practical. On the long-term someone who is practical, committed, has a good business mind, communicates well, and attends to daily details would be far better than a passionate lover who cannot be counted upon.

That being said we must be more purposeful and deliberate when evaluating a person before committing to the relationally. Just because someone is hot and makes your motor run, doesn't mean they are suitable to be your spouse. Uncontrollable emotions eventually will cool down and you will sober up once you are in a daily life pattern and long-term relationship again.

Therefore learn from me and don't be the dangerous romantic that captivates and captures women on the illusion of love and how they feel when they are with you. The important question is how do you feel when you are with them dealing with daily life details and romance isn't in the picture?

Are they a fair weather friend just suitable for passionate romance or are they a keeper and able to endure the challenges of life?

Dating Tips Part 2 - Look Great and Feel Great

Last time, we discussed 7 tips on getting you started on looking and feeling great. Now, we'll get more into the little details of looking amazing. So let's get started!

1. Change your hairstyle and color. - Hair can make such a big difference to your overall appearance. Seek out professional advice to the style that fits you - making your hair moveable, with the right color, and then right length. Discuss with your hair stylist that you are beginning your dating scene so they take a special interest and make you look your best. Get your hairstylist involved.

2. Grow, hair, grow! - Even though short hair can be very flattering, when dating, men still want to run their fingers through your hair. So have patience, and let your hair grow. While you're at it, add color and highlights.

3. Whiten your teeth. - Brighten your smile. Literally! We talked about the hello challenge and smile in a previous dating tips article. It will make you look younger and more attractive. You will stand out in a crowd and just might attract a man who is thinking of asking you for a date.

4. Smile style - There are numerous do-it-yourself and professional methods to whiten your teeth. If you are looking to go to a dentist, make sure that he or she is a cosmetic dentist as well. Dating is a part time job, so spend some money on you.

5. Face it! - Be vigilant with skin care. You'll notice how lovable soft and beautiful skin is. Men love to touch your face and this will help to melt him.

6. The skinny on ingredients - Don't fall for every skin product that promises amazing results. Learn to read the label. Check with your dermatologists for what's beneficial for your skin. Again, share with your dermatologist that you are in the dating scene and ask for their opinion.

7. What's in your make-up bag? - Avoid trying to cover up what's beautiful. Instead go for more colors instead of sticking to boring sheer shades. On details for what's recommended at your age range, ask your professional image consultant.

So now we got down to business with the little things that really count toward your beauty and your dating regimen. Again, make a budget sheet to help you plan your beauty expenses. We finished up with make-up, so better check in later for more on make-up tips for your dating scene!

OK, I'm in a Relationship, Now What Do I Do?

So many single guys and gals who are in the "Single - Never Married" category at the Online Dating Sites and Internet Personals get to that wonderful We're a Couple Stage.

And then they get stymied. "Great, I'm in a Relationship! Now what?" That is often when they approach me to work with them as their Relationship Coach.

Because they've never been married before. Or they have been married, and don't want to repeat their former mistakes. It's ok. We are all human, right? But they want to learn and move forward.

Getting TO The Relationship really was The Goal they held in their mind.

- They have succeeded.

- They are there now.

- NOW WHAT?

How do you build and foster a Relationship?

What do you really WANT in a Relationship?

What does Being In and Having A Relationship MEAN to you?

They have successfully negotiated Exclusivity, Long Term Relationship, and Continuity to your being A Couple, and now you ARE one. Now you have LIFE before you. What do you want to include in that LIFE together as you further evaluate the possibility of Being Together for Life?

The Mundane Things of Life

The mundane things of life are actually what comprise much of life. Rather than treating these as annoying chores that must be endured, thereby leaving you to endure about 87% of your life, choose a different attitude. The mundane tasks of life can now be opportunities for creating greater connection and intimacy. Doing the dishes together can be a time for connecting about your day. Folding the laundry and matching the socks can be a time to inquire about your partners thoughts about world news and events.

You can have a conversation while doing these things, and ladies, I'll let you in on another secret. Often taciturn men will open up and talk more when you are not making eye contact with them and they are in the midst of DOING SOMETHING. Once they are talking on one subject they enjoy, like a warmed up diesel engine, they are more likely to keep talking. "So, how about that football game last night?....How are things at work going?"

Create Memories Together

Remember to Live and to Do Interesting Things Together.

Quite often a couple who is dating will get into a rut. Marred couples do this, too. We've all seen it happen, perhaps with our parents. Perhaps that's a fear you have about getting married. "I might get bored. Anything but that!"

Mix things up a little to keep things lively and interesting. Go on a weekend road trip. Take a trip to another metropolitan area together. Fly to a foreign country. Some couples really enjoy planning those trips in advance, like the anticipation of sexual flirtation and foreplay, the planning and anticipation builds up and extends the fun and pleasure.

Sometimes taking a trip at the last minute creates excitement and fosters a feeling of spontaneity as well in the relationship. Gentlemen, do show up Friday night with your itinerary in hand and say, "Honey, we're going to sunny San Diego this weekend! Pack your bags!"

She might initially resist, "Oh, I have a million things to do!"

But you already knew your schedule with her this weekend (because you've been talking with her while doing the dishes and going grocery shopping, right? Good.), that's just her fear. It's next weekend that she has 5 errands she HAS to do. Display your masculine leadership and INSIST on going away this weekend. Taking these periodic trips together helps to avoid that dreadful feeling of He Takes Me for Granted or She Never Appreciates Me.

And you are building MEMORIES together. Memories you can share together when you are in assisted living later in life when frail. Memories to cement the relationship and recollect together for years to come with children, nieces, nephews and cousins.

Memories to make for interesting conversations with other people so you continue to be interesting and involved in life. Go ahead, build some memories, and over time you will now slowly realize, you have a successful, long term, fulfilling relationship. It's a great feeling, isn't it?

Dating Simplified

Dating is what we sometimes go into without even having in mind that we are into it and in spite of all our schedules and busy in our profession, one thing is certain and that is having a companion either as a wife, husband or friend.

Man or woman or let's say human being as a whole has a vacuum that needs to be filled up.

Even at the creation, God created everything and made man in his likeness yet man was not feeling okay no matter how Cows, Elephants, Bulls, Lions and even dove as some believe that it is know as a peaceful bird yet Man was not okay until God discovered that man need his opposite kind so He made a female.

Ever since then it is a thing of search for a companion and that's why I coming out with this article on Dating.

Before going into dating, I would like to define Dating.

Dating according to Oxford Dictionary, although the word dating was not found in the dictionary but we will use the related word date to coin my meaning.

The word DATE as defined by oxford Dictionary as (A) an appointment, especially, social with a person of the opposite sex. (B) Go out together as sexual partners.

With the above definition, I can say that dating is a method or a means whereby two difference people get to know themselves and this may lead to becoming husband or wife.

With this search of a man for a companion, it goes beyond our location and that is why online dating came to be.

Online dating can be define as a world wide search; sometimes, you may not know the person but because you are in search of a companion, and being in a global world where everything is possible you believe that it will work out and fortunately this works out.

You cannot do the search alone and that is why I have a website that links you to free online dating websites and some are not free and that it why I am writing this article and to direct you to a better website.

One may asked this question how can I date someone that I have not seen or someone that I don't know? Your question is a good one if you asked that but let me open you eyes a bit, there is a saying that says "A journey of one thousand miles begins but a step" the best way to know about a person is to get close to the person and this you can do by subscribing to the websites we will link you to.

So what are you waiting for go ahead and start dating someone who knows, that person may become your life partner.

10 Safety Tips to Protect Yourself While Online Dating

Ladies, men, you too, you MUST protect yourself online. While we've all heard some horror stories, Online Dating can certainly be safe and lead you to great romantic relationship and finding love.

With the wonderful move of Online Dating into the mainstream of our culture so that it is becoming The Norm, we must learn to protect ourselves while pursuing love and dating through Online Dating and Online Personals.

What's single girl to do to protect herself while pursuing love, sex, and romance with Online Dating Sites?

First of all, during the Getting Acquainted stage of Online Dating correspondence, when you are simply exchanging a few emails to before the man asks you out, trust your gut if you are feeling really uncomfortable.

Then here are Top 10 Tips to protect yourself with Internet Personals and Online Dating:

1. Do not give out where you live to a stranger online. Do not provide a stranger you haven't met yet with your home address.

2. Let the man give you his phone number first, then respond with yours to him. Give him a cell number. If your only cell number is with your office, it's time to get a personal cell phone number. This is one you need to feel comfortable giving out. He's asking for your number. If this is a man you're interested in meeting, give him your phone number. Yes, we're hard to get, but, oye, don't make it impossible!

3. For Date 0 you must meet in a public place where it is lighted, not a super crowded nor a super dark environment. Save going to a darkly light dance club together for later after you two have met and hit it off! Maybe for your second date!

4. Meet near where the lady lives. For Date 0 you need to meet near you, where the lady lives, not just in a good very public place.

This is not just good manners on behalf of the man displaying that he is a gentleman, but it is also for your safety.

You then know where it is safe to park, how to safely approach the restaurant or bar.

Men, be a gentleman and meet her over near where she lives. By doing so you display that you are a protective and providing man, not a guy looking to be her equal but only a buddy. Meeting near where the guy lives or "half way" is what friends do. We are aiming for sexual and romantic chemistry here, not being buddies. By doing so, you will distinguish yourself immediately as a Man who is thoughtful and thinking of her safety and displays masculine cherishing behavior towards her femininity.

5. If he doesn't post a photograph of himself online and wants you to start emailing him privately, respond sweetly with the autoresponse option they have a Yahoo! Personals about wanting his photo first. And then send no more messages until he either posts a photo or provides you with a way to view his photo safely online.

Providing you with his MySpace page isn't safe because it reveals your name and MySpace profile to him, and you may have more personal information (name of town where you live....) which you might not want him, a total stranger, to see.

6. Maybe post your residence town as 1 or 2 towns over from where you live if you live in the burbs. This is not lying in your profile, this is protecting yourself. Any adult will understand when you later reveal where you really live.

7. If he is saying his job/career is terribly public like he is a celebrity or public figure (yes, they are at the Online Dating Sites, too!) so he doesn't want to post his photo at his profile, he can email you the address of a website with his photo or cite his name to you.

Men are to protect ladies. If he is more protective of himself than you, forget him. Move on. He's a boy not a man. Men protect ladies. They gave their names, website photos from their news coverage, Yahoo! ID where they posted their photo, something.

If he wants you to email him or set up a separate email address just so he can email you his photo, oye, he's expecting you to go to a lot of effort, and he hasn't even bought you a drink yet. If he is a man, he is making an effort to get you. If not, then not. I'm the pretty one, remember? I go to plenty of effort to look this gorgeous and sexy, and you are enjoying it, I know. Thank you for noticing. Bat, bat, flutter, flutter. However, I'm not making all the effort. Men seek to display their masculine prowess in pursuing us, bless their hearts. Don't you love it?

8. If the man starts to pester you for your personal contact information without revealing his first, just stop emailing with him. He's not worth it.

Remember, first, above all, protect YOU.

9. If a man gets belligerent with your online, block him and delete his messages. Remember, sometimes people are just being jerks. Maybe it was a really bad week at work. We're all human. Sometimes we are shrews. Whatever. Focus on what you want and move one. No need to obsess about it and panic. Just delete, block and move on.

10. Don't give out your personal email address until he has corresponded with you at the Online Dating site for at least 3 emails. You have more safety protection while you are still corresponding at Yahoo! Personals or Match.com than you do once you have moved over to your email account.

If he gets weird in some way where you are not comfortable while at the Online Dating website, you can block him easily and report him. Once over at your own email, he already has your personal email account.

Do be romantic and sensible while pursuing love online, don't you think? Because YOU are totally worth protecting!

Happy Dating!