Do You Know What You Want in a Man?

Most people date because they want a relationship. And two is certainly a lot more fun than one. But have you ever taken the time to sit down and really think about what it is you want in a potential partner? Are you looking for a man to have children with? Perhaps you have already raised your children and what you need now is someone just to laugh with.

Conjure up the man of your dreams in your mind. What he looks like: tall, short, blue eyes, brown eyes. What he does that makes you happy. How you feel when you're with him. What you fight about. What you agree on. Your values and interests. Give yourself permission to speed date using only your imagination!

This does two really important things, it shifts your focus from the negative to the positive:

Negative: Men don't want a woman who is strong and independent.

Positive: I want a man who can handle a bit of a challenge.

Negative: I'll never find someone.

Positive: The man I want will be faithful and supportive.

Once you start thinking this way, you are more likely to only go out on dates with men who fit the image you have in your mind. You'll be more relaxed, and you won't be jumping through hoops trying to figure out what he wants. He will work harder at it because he won't know whether or not you are interested.

It's really what men want. To hunt. To chase. To prove to you that there is only one man for you. Him!