Taking Action is the Only Way to Improve Your Dating Success

I've encountered many men who seem to have poor luck dating. Many of my friends even have this problem, and have no idea how to fix it. But I've found that in many of these cases the men having these problems have not really taken action to improve their situations. I've tried to explain to them that it is UP TO THEM to improve their situations, and that no one else can do it for them. But they still seem reluctant to step outside their 'comfort zone' and attempt to meet women. The choices we make in this lifetime dictate how our lives turn out. A woman is not going to just fall from the sky at your feet, no matter how much you wish it would happen.

Now I understand many of these guys have never had any success with women at all, and so the concept that they could change this is alien to them. But it's not a joke, it's a fact. Many of these guys are so stuck in a rut that they don't even really put forth an effort to talk to women anymore. They just give the same, tired excuses. The excuses these men give for having poor success with women are always the same. "I'm not rich", "I'm out of shape", "I'm a nice guy and women just walk all over me", "The only way I can get girls to talk to me is to buy them drinks", etc. Well I got news for ya, sparky: Sitting around moping and making excuses isn't going to change your luck. It's only going to make it worse.

The fact of the matter is women, especially good looking ones, don't need to make an effort to meet guys. They get hit on quite regularly. In fact, they get hit on so much that many of them are guarded when they first meet a guy because they're EXPECTING that he will hit on her. Some women thrive on this, but many are annoyed. They get tired of never being taken seriously by men and only having guys want to get in their pants. For this reason, many women will put up a shield when men try to initiate conversation with them. This only serves to further frustrate these men, who believe that there is something wrong with them if a woman does not instantly act attracted to him.

This is why these men MUST TAKE ACTION! You can't just do what you've always done and expect your situation to improve. If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten. If you make an effort to really TRY to meet women, your situation will slowly start to improve.

Now I know this sounds easier said than done, but it's really not. All you have to do is make a commitment, right now, to constantly make an effort to meet new women. This doesn't mean hitting on every woman you see, or being overbearing in your attempts to talk to them. It just means that when you're conducting your day-to-day business, make an effort to talk to women who catch your eye. It could be anywhere. The grocery store, the video store, the cafe you're having lunch at, the Starbucks by your work, your school, the sports league you play on, the church you attend, ANYWHERE. Women, like anyone, appreciate good friendly conversation. And many will be surprisingly receptive to you if you try to initiate one with them.

Now I don't want you to feel like i'm blowing smoke, so just let me give a few words of wisdom here. Don't just walk up to a woman and expect that you can talk to her about ANYTHING. You've got to go through the process of getting to know one another and this takes time. Open with something lighthearted, like a joke. Then, follow it up with a question or a comment. Make it something open-ended that will engage her in conversation. Try to avoid asking simple yes-or-no questions that really don't lead the conversation anywhere.

And there you have it! You're now in conversation with a REAL WOMAN! Oh my god I bet you feel like Wiley Coyote when he caught the Roadrunner and didn't know what to do with it.

I'll talk more about how to open conversation with a woman and what to talk about in a future article. But for now, I hope I've given you guys something to mentally digest. If you want to change your dating luck, you MUST take action. Action is the key.

Wishing you the best in all of your dating endeavors,
Tony Derrick

P.S. Learn more about how to take action by checking out my dating guide book. You won't regret it.