Text, IM, EMail - Don't Men Talk on the Phone Anymore?

Lately I've been hearing a lot about men connecting frequently - but not via the old fashioned way of a phone call. Today men are more interested in IMing or text messages. What's that about? Well, let's consider what's going on here...

What do the email, IM and texting as communication methods have in common?

1. Quick way to be in touch
2. Can be a distraction from other work or activity
3. Fun time waster if stuck somewhere and bored
4. Can be done while doing other things
5. Has the naughty or sneaky factor - everyone thinks he's working
6. Not much emotion conveyed (possibly)
7. No one can hear them since its not vocal
8. Not as likely to get into anything too deeply - nothing too heavy

Did I overlook or forget anything?
Let's face it, a telephone conversation takes a lot more time and effort.

Much of the usage behind these communication methods depends on the man's age. Guys under 30 grew up with lots of technology. Culturally, the younger the person, the more technologically inclined. Kids today are texting each other while sitting at the same table. It's just the in, hip thing to do.

I do know women who feel slighted when the guy they are dating prefers technology to real conversation. We women love the connection, the tone of voice, the little whispers, the sound of his smile. None of this can be conveyed via modern equipment. It's just not he same. A cute or entertaining IM exchange can be fun, but doesn't replace the warmth of his voice.

What should you do if you have a man who prefers hi-tech communication? Share your own preference with him. Let him know that texting is fun and a great way to keep in touch, but it doesn't replace a phone call. don't try to control his method of communicating, but remind him how you love the sound of his voice and want to have a real conversation too.

Or, another way to handle this is to stop responding to all his IM's etc and he'll eventually get the message that way too. Not everyone is comfortable with being direct, although that is my personal preference.

If the guy doesn't come around to calling you even a little bit more, then you have collected important data about his willingness to please you which is also important to know.
Happy texting!