Why Breaking Up Sad Poems Won't Get Your Boyfriend Back

You're suddenly single and feel your life as you knew it is now over. Full of despair, sorrow, and maybe even a touch of self pity although you might not realize or even be aware of it yet, you spend most of your time listening to love songs, watching melancholy movies, and writing or reading sad poems about breaking up and the misery of unrequited love.

Doing any of these things won't help to get your boyfriend back, nor will it help you to move on with the rest of your life like you seriously need to. Simply put, you must pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and look toward the future instead of dwelling on the past or on things you can't control.

Try as we might, we just cannot control another person's thoughts or their actions, and when it comes right down to it, why should we want to? Would you rather want someone to be with you out of pity and guilt because they've made you so upset and feel badly about it, or would you rather them be with you because they truly love and care for you? The answer should be more than obvious.

Having a good cry now and then never hurt anyone, in fact, it's healthy to express your emotions instead of keeping them bottled up inside and allowing them to fester before exploding in some way or another. But, thinking rationally with your head for just one minute, what purpose does moping around all of the time really serve? Not only are you keeping yourself in a perpetual state of misery, but you're probably affecting everyone around you as well and may not even realize it. If you're still living at home, your parents and family are probably concerned with the way you've been acting and worry about how and when you'll recover from this.

Even if you aren't very concerned with your own state of well being right now, remember that all of the people who love you still do and there's no point allowing your ex to make them suffer right along with you or affect your relationships with everyone else.

You are your own best friend so it's you who must see to it that all of your needs are taken care of and that you are happy, something that no one else can ever really give us. While you might think they made you happy, essentially, that feeling came from within yourself, from your own brain, and you can make yourself happy again without a doubt.

If you need a quick boost of self esteem, get out and mingle, join an online support group, sign up for a dating service, either online or off, visit chat rooms and forums, take a free class at your local college or community center, learn something new and congratulate yourself for not allowing this one event in your life define who you are or who you'll become.