Dating Can Make You Nervous!

Let me set the scene for you. You are finally going out on the date that you have been looking forward to. You have planned for this date and you want it to be special. The closer it gets the more nervous you become. You spend a ridiculous amount of thought in deciding what to wear. You worry that something will go wrong before the date is over. Dating can be stressful and nerve-wracking.

Consider this fact, at this point all you have done is prepare for the date. With that stress and nervousness going on it will be hard to enjoy yourself.

Let's talk about this for a moment. First of all this date could be with your longtime partner or it could be with someone you have never met before or even an ex from your past. It really doesn't matter what the exact circumstances are, what does matter is that you are anxious about the date.

Dating should be fun and enjoyable. You need to find ways to relax yourself about the date. Perhaps you could watch a silly movie or listen to some of your favorite music before the date begins. Do something that makes you feel good and eases any tension that you might feel. You could have one drink, but only one. That might be enough to ease some of the stress you are feeling.

You have selected your clothes ahead of time. Obviously you should be comfortable with your choice. You will of course take care with all your personal hygienic needs and anything else that makes you feel better about yourself. Perhaps a little cologne will add a nice touch.

In most cases you will already know where you are going and what you will be doing. That should help you feel a little better about things. You can plan ahead of time for small talk that you can make about where you are going. Never discount the conversation topic of the weather. We all have to deal with the weather.

Now let's talk about your nervousness. Try to determine what is causing your anxiety. Perhaps you are afraid that you and your date will not enjoy your time together. If that is the case then you may decide to end the date a little early. As I said, dating should be fun and enjoyable. If you or your date are not having fun the date can always be ended early.

If you are worried about not having enough things to say to each other then you should prepare ahead of time. Think about things that interest you. Ask your date questions. Almost everyone loves to talk about themselves. Be sure to add interesting comments about yourself as the conversations continue. This is a great way to learn more about each other. Ask open-ended questions and not yes and no questions. That will force a real response from your date. Then you can create conversations around their responses.

To keep things stress free I suggest that you play little games with yourself. For example, before your date you can choose a word that you will use as often as possible throughout the date. Make a challenge to yourself to use that word in appropriate ways as often as you can without your date noticing what you are doing.

This will give you something to focus on besides your nervousness. After a short while you may completely forget about any stress or tension that you felt earlier and realize that you are having a great time.