Questions Towards Healing a Broken Heart

When healing a broken heart, one has to ask oneself only one question: how much longer do I want to suffer? Of course, there are times when certain tragic relationships can appear difficult to overcome. The thing is, when it is over, it is over. Healing a broken heart can never be possible if the person with the broken heart refuses to admit that the cause of her broken heart, be it a person or an incident, is already gone or done with. Therefore, healing a broken heart can only come when a person finally admits that it is time to move on.

One must go back to basics. One must try to remember one's self. One must always go inward. I usually advice my dearest friends to engage themselves into activities that not only would give them enjoyment but also great personal fulfillment.

I ask them this question: what is your true passion? The love that we derive from a relationship is a kind of love that is affirmative but comes from another person. There is a way of loving one's self and eventually affirming one's self and one's greatness - and this is through identifying one's true passion. What have you ever really wanted in life? What did you ever really want to do in life? Answers to these lead to our true passions. And usually, the answers have something to do with careers, childhood dreams, and even simple pleasures such as regularly going to the beach to swim or just be around nature.

Once we find the answers to the questions, healing a broken heart becomes even easier - because the next step is already pursuing the identified passions, and who does not want to pursue one's passions? I am always delighted to see friends rejuvenated the moment they have identified their passions, and even more rejuvenated when already in pursuit of their passions. They discover the artists and adventurers inside them as they engage into photography, poetry, sports, and other forms of recreation. Some even become businesswomen as they would sell their art or the products of their new hobbies (such as baking or handicrafts) to newfound patrons!

As their careers become better, as they engage into hobbies that promote their health and well-being, they become better individuals. And much to each of my friend's surprise later on, they have actually already forgotten that they started on the pursuit of their passions simply with the desire of healing a broken heart! That is, I guess, the indicator that you are already healed.