Approaching Women - Confidence & Body Language - Part 2

In this follow-up article, I'm going to carry on with my discussion on confidence in seduction, however I'm going to be focusing more on how to display confidence. There are really two ways to do this, verbal and non-verbal. Verbal amounts to about 10% of communication; this is no different when it comes confidence. It's best to focus on non-verbal confidence as this is what a woman will pick up on instantly. However, you will need confidence in all areas ultimately to succeed.

I'm going to start off talking about verbal communication. When speaking confidently, you should not stutter, change voice tones to react to what a woman has said to you or repeat yourself. You also need to have interesting things to say and this should be reflected in your voice tone. It's no good telling an interesting story if you are going to tell it in a boring way.

When speaking to a woman, there are several personas you can undertake, which really can be callibrated by the woman's body language. The types of personas can be mixed up together to an extent and consist of high-energy, cool and calm, spiritual and one of my personal favourites; the "you are constantly trying to touch me and get me to sleep with you, but I'm going to hold off on that for a bit because you can't handle me" persona, among others. These can be combined, for example, any of the first three personas can be combined with the last one to imply that this girl really wants you.

Personally, I find that high-energy and "sexual assault victim" work well together, as the high-energy persona is so fun and to imply that the women keep trying to touch you in a fun way will leave everybody having a good time. Most guys just do not have the confidence to reverse the stereotype of men trying to get with women, which is how this tactic displays confidence. If you are willing to do what most guys will not and say what most guys will not, you are communicating confidence. Women will be pleasantly surprised that they haven't been approached by another creep who doesn't know what he is doing.

Now, for what I believe is the more important part of displaying attractive body language, the non-verbal communication. Non-verbal communication (including voice tone) makes up about 90% of everything you are saying to a woman, so if you do not have this handled you are going to find it VERY difficult to succeed.

I touched on voice tone earlier, but it goes without saying that if you are looking to build rapport with a woman and are telling her something exciting about yourself, you need to actually SOUND excited and LOOK like you are into what you are saying, like you really care. If you don't care, why is the person you're telling going to? More importantly, when approaching a woman you need to be in the optimum position to speak to her and/or the entire group. If you can't see a space before you move over, you need to create one in the situation. It is perfectly okay to do this and girls will respect your confidence. If they did not appreciate you doing this, they probably had no interest in talking to you to begin with. It's best to leave your target next to someone familiar to them so that they feel comfortable. You need to judge their body language to see if and when they are comfortable. If they do not look comfortable, call them out on it, tell them in a fun way "Whoa, you don't look comfortable!" and then correct what it is that's making them feel uncomfortable. You may be standing too close, or too far away, their head may be uncomfortable from the position you are standing, etc.

You also need to begin kino pretty quickly so that the woman feels comfortable with you touching her. It can be something as simple as nudging her arm while saying something to her to get your point across, or it can be changing her position in the group by moving her out of the way. These are both ways of doing it, however once you have kino, you need to continue to do it periodically. For example, you can give her a high-five based on something she has said, or give her "the rock" fist touch.

As soon as she is doing kino with you, she is more open to letting you into her personal space, so try to get a little closer, then after a while, take her away from her friend to begin vibing with her, if you have a wingman to distract the friend, If you don't, carry on entertaining the friend as well every now and then so that she doesn't get bored, then get the information of your target and leave.

If you need a wing, however, you can literally just say "I'll be right back", leave the group and explain your situation to a nearby girl, get her to come back into the set with you and use her to distract the friend. Girls love to do this as they feel like they have aided in the quest for "true love", like some sort of cupid.

Practice these techniques and you should find that the confidence displayed gives results pretty quickly.

I'll talk to you soon,
Your buddy,
Eros

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