Use Online Dating Sites to Improve Your Game and End the Feast Or Famine Dating Cycle

Many people spend a large chunk of their life struggling to master the art of dating, only to realize in their thirties and forties that most of the people they dated weren't right for them. These folks are not necessarily difficult to please types, it's just that with so much heartache and divorce in the world, they want to make sure they find the perfect match before committing to something longer-lasting.

Unfortunately, in the search for a perfect match it is not uncommon to go through one or two month periods in which you have all the dates that you can handle, and then to go for equally long periods of time where everything seems to dry up and nobody wants to talk to you. It can really make one wonder why it often seems to be a case of feast or famine when it comes to finding someone to date.

The situation described above is not an uncommon one. Fortunately, it is also an easy one to remedy. When dating, peoples' senses are heightened, and your potential mate can smell success or failure from a million miles away. When you are on a roll and dealing with several potential mates at the same time, others pick up on that vibe and feed off it. Likewise, once you hit a dry patch, your confidence plummets and your appeal to the opposite sex also goes south once they sense that you might be getting a little desperate. Some scientists even think that this effect may have a chemical basis behind it, as people can tell from the "smell" you are putting out how successful you might be when it comes to dealings with the opposite sex.

The key to this situation is to always act like you are on top of your game, and to always have a few relationships in your back pocket for cases when things get a little dry. This doesn't mean you have to always forge a deep relationship with every new person you meet, but make use of online dating sites to hook up now and then with new friends. Just the fact that you have a few friends on your list who you are chatting to can give you the hormone and confidence boost you need when you do end up stumbling across your perfect match. At the same time, you are bound to find a few keepers based on the sheer numbers of people you can meet online, so it is advisable to always keep yourself in the game.