Attracting Love - Do Men Think You Are Unapproachable? Is That OK With You?

A recent client told me "I do want to be with my body/mind/soul mate. I don't remember being abandoned by girlfriends while I was dating someone nor when I broke up with him. I found my girlfriends most supportive. This was true for boyfriends and when I divorced.

I have long-term male and female friends, friendships lasting decades. I am visiting a guy friend and his family as well as a single friend for two weeks each on my trip to California....

AND, I am still single and would prefer to be with my body/mind/soul mate. (I want it all.)"

What is the root of this conflict?

What I do know for sure from my work with highly successful women who are not with a man who gets them, is that they are not aware of the image they are projecting to the world.

Most are stunned to realize that they are projecting an "I'm not available" image. Not only that, little do they know that this image or vibe is amazingly efficient at keeping the "right" type of man out of their experience.

How do I know this to be true? Exactly, how many prospects with real potential have you dated in the last year? I rest my case!

If you think you might be sending out this "I love being single" vibe when you want to be sending a "I'm ready for a man with substance " vibe, it is wise to look deep within your heart to see what is behind your singleness.

One way to approach this is to take a few days to compile a list of all the best parts about your life right now. What are the advantages of being single? While you might not come up with many at first, if you work on this for a couple of days, you may surprise yourself. Once your list is complete, go through each item and decide mindfully whether or not you are negotiable on it.

This self reflection may be just what the doctor ordered in helping you discover why you are still single. If you still don't see yourself as unapproachable, ask a close friend to go through your list with you. Her view of your current state of affairs or lack of (sorry, couldn't resist) may add extra dimension to your self inquiry.

Once you unearth the root to your singleness, you will have one of two outcomes. One, you may indeed embrace your singleness with new passion as it IS life affirming for you or two, you will find yourself in the right place and the right time more often where you will cross paths with many more interesting and available men!

Talk about a win-win!