Overcoming Fear of Rejection - 4 Tips to Get You Moving

Being shy can dent our chances of dating the girl we fancy quite a lot. Like what people always say: taking that very first step is the most difficult. For shy guys going after girls, overcoming fear of rejection basically comes down to how we should start communicating with the girl. A lot of problems can end up being easier to solve if we can understand the problem at hand well enough. In this case, we need to understand partly about what a girl likes in a guy and also how we can take steps to overcoming fear of rejection. Here are some tips at hand to help you get on the move:

1. Have everything planned before you make that first move. Do some research on the internet about good opening lines and nice simple jokes (not the crude ones mind you). With some ice-breaker ideas in mind, you will be able to carry the conversation better and for a longer time. If you are afraid you will sound nervous while chatting with the girl, rehearse in front of a mirror at home. Being prepared helps in overcoming fear of rejection!

2. I used to wake up early in the morning, look myself in the mirror and say this to myself: "You're the BEST!". It helps build self-belief and confidence. Ask yourself: if you are not even confident loving yourself, then how would you expect a girl to like you? Love yourself for a start (and it's a very good start), it will make you feel good and you will appear more natural when you are chatting with the opposite sex. Self-confidence sells!

3. Practise is good but you still need to make that first move! As I mentioned earlier, taking that very first step is the most difficult part. Think about your role as a man, and what kind of man would you want the girl of your dream to look up to. A confident man? Yes! She will most probably take liking to a man who knows what he needs to do, and when to do it. If you're thinking along this line, you are not too wrong. In general, girls like guys who are confident, and know their stuff. So move along and take that first move, it's not really scary and after that first move, you will just feel more confident the next time (if you need a next time). Even if you fail, you would have grown wiser and taken a big step forward towards overcoming fear of rejection in you.

4. OK tip 4 needs you to smile more often! Does your visions of the girl you like incorporate a smile on her face? Every guy likes a cheerful girl, and especially if she is going to be your girlfriend or wife. Similarly, every girl likes a cheerful guy, who exudes optimism and makes them feel relaxed. The battle is half-won if you can make the girl you are chatting with feel relax and happy. Being cheerful and offering a smile should come naturally and readily. Don't wait until you meet the girl you like before you smile, smile for anyone who pass you by. You will develop a cheerful disposition before long and this positive attitude will rub off others and paint a good impression for the girl you like. When you can smile and feel happy more naturally with other people, overcoming fear of rejection will no longer be a big problem.

I hope the tips above will help in certain degree towards overcoming fear of rejection for you.