Turning a Female Friend Into a Lover

Every guy knows what it's like to be the "therapist" for his female friends. It sucks, right? But your female friends keep coming back to you, since you've become such a good shoulder to cry on, especially when their idiot boyfriends have been treating her like dirt again.

It's pretty tempting to grab them, shake them, and slap some sense into them. But it's probably even more tempting to just tell them that they're better off going out with you, and deep down you know it to be true. But that would be crazy, wouldn't it? You don't want to risk your friendship by doing something like that, so you continue to suffer in silence.

But did you know that you can actually turn her into a lover if you wanted to? The main reason why they look at you as such a good friend is because you follow all the rules - you're nice, you're polite, and you always try to help out. In other words, they feel so safe with you that they know you won't try to pull something like that on them.

Try this - try to "spice up" your personality a little with a bit of cockiness, humor, and confidence. Stop picking up the dinner tab - split it with her. Stop giving her compliments - instead, tease her and have a little fun. And try to keep your social life interesting - stay in touch with friends and family, and go out with other women.

When you make these interesting changes to your personality, some good things will happen. Your female friends will notice them and stop looking at you as just a friend. In fact, they'll like the changes so much that they'll start wondering if you'd make a good boyfriend.

Of course, you may not want to turn her into a lover for one reason or another. If you really do think that you're just better off being friends, then don't do anything. But if you want to "test the waters," so to speak, then make the changes and see if she stops talking about her idiot boyfriend and starts talking about you.

Just be careful in case she begins asking what it would be like if the two of you took things to the next level. Most men tend to revert to their old "therapist" personality when this happens. Make sure you keep the new you - the cocky, funny, and self-confident you - when you deal with this new development. Who knows? You just might make her very happy down the line.