What to Say in an Online Dating Profile - Three Killer Strategies That Actually Work

So you've signed up to your Match.com account, the credit card information has been entered, and you're ready to start dating some fun, beautiful women. But how do you start? In this article, I'll explain exactly what to say in an online dating profile to get women attracted.

What to Say: Using Emotions, Not Logic

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus: so you'd better how to learn to speak Venusian. What exactly is the language that women understand? I'll tell you what it isn't: cold, calculating logic with no energy behind it.

Paint a picture with emotions. View your online dating profile as a true story that you're going to tell, weaving in the plot, characters, and storylines that brought you to where you are in life.

Here's how you do it. First, know the logic behind what you're going to say. So you're a computer programmer? That's not interesting in and of itself, but the passion you put into it is interesting.

Don't say "I'm a computer programmer." Show us how you arrived there. Say "ever since I was a kid I was fascinated by technology - I even remember taking apart an old used computer when I was twelve just to see how it worked." Tell us how being a programmer makes you feel, and what impact it's had on your life.

What not to Say: "I'm desperate, ladies"

You can't logically convince a woman that you're cool or worth contacting. So don't appeal to their pity - in fact, don't appeal to them much at all. The most you want to "convince" a girl to do anything is to remind them to contact you at the end of your profile.

Take out any and all references that paint you as uncomfortable with women. A woman needs to be able to trust you - especially online - and she can't do that if you come off as desperate for a date.

Even if you are desperate for a date, try to paint a picture that highlight your more sociable qualities. Put up pictures of you having fun with other women in your life.

Also, this is just important: never come right out and say that you're good with women or that you're cool. You want to paint a picture. Show, don't tell.

What to Say: You are looking for something specific

What do you want out of a girl? Don't start with your eyes, start with your heart. What kind of personality excites you? What are the personality traits of your dream woman?

Many online dating profiles allow you space to talk about your ideal woman - use it. Don't disqualify based on "looks," but instead paint another picture of the kind of girl you'd enjoy. If you like confident, assertive women, say it.

Here's an example: "I'm looking for a confident, assertive woman who knows what she wants out of life. Someone who doesn't take anything too seriously, who can enjoy herself as much at a bar with a glass of wine as she can at home in her PJ's."

You're talking about the girl you want, but the images she's playing in her head are hanging out with you at home in her PJ's. Not too shabby, right?