What Women Want - Less Important Than You Might Think

You can determine what women want in a man by examining which men are successful with women, rather than which men women claim they prefer. Actions speak louder than words, after all.

Essentially, there are two main groups of men when it comes to dating and relationship success...

Roughly 85% of the men who date don't do very well at it and the other 15% make out pretty well most of the time.

The exact percentages over specific population segments might be higher or lower, but the fact remains that some guys seem to excel with women while most others struggle at it.

One of the most useful exercises for learning how to do better is to watch how each of those two groups approaches dating and then notice the patterns which are common to one group but rare in the other.

• A regular pattern amongst guys who excel might be worth adopting, especially if it's rare with guys who struggle.


• And if there's a pattern common to guys who struggle but rare with guys who excel, there's a good possibility that this behavior might be worth eliminating.

One of the most pronounced differences we've seen between guys who struggle with women and guys who excel with women is that the guys who struggle with women tend to focus obsessively on figuring out what the women they're dating (or the woman they hope to date) want ... and then to give her everything she wants.

The entire focus (his and hers) is on that woman and making her happy.

Not surprisingly, he'll end up feeling miserable. Why? Because he'll probably be doing "all giving" and "no getting."

If your sole pleasure in life is being used by women, that's the formula for achieving your goal of having a one-way relationship ... from you to her.

But if you're like most guys and would like some affection, sex, and even some appreciation now and then, you won't get it by being her unpaid personal valet.

Women don't respect servants ... they respect men they can't wrap around their little fingers. And women don't get hot for men they don't respect.

• If your goal is to be used by women, then hang on her every word and satisfy her every want, but


• If your goal is to be treated well by women (both in and out of the bedroom), then also focus on what you want and expect that your needs be accommodated as well ...

In other words, the guys who get laid a lot are usually the guys who focus on getting laid a lot. The guys who end up being servants are usually the guys who focus on being servants

If you focus solely on what women want and their needs, she'll serve up more wants and needs to you - endlessly!

There's nothing wrong with meeting some of the wants and needs of a woman if she's doing the same for you.

Don't settle for less than that. What women want is not the only thing!