Can't Find the Right Girl! City Life, Reading Analysis

Dear Gypsies! A few nights ago, I met my friend Jeremy in a lounge for a few drinks. Apart from the occasional dates and flings, Jeremy has been single for at least a year, and by now, signs of desperation have started to show. He wants to be in a relationship, yet none of his occasional dates has developed into anything meaningful.

"I try so hard" he said, "I call, I e-mail, I take them out, I buy gifts, I pay, yet it either disintegrates, or they ditch me. What is wrong with me? Can the cards help?"
I laid out the Challenge & Outcome Spread onto our drinks laden table to see what has been blocking the development of Jeremy's romantic life.

Right in the first position the Thought card showed that Jeremy was putting too much planning into building a love life. Then, the Message card indicated that he was giving too much, too fast. "But don't relationships take a lot of work? I am doing the work, yet there have not been any rewards", he said defensively. "Let's just see if the cards can shift you into a new direction", I told him, "this process needs you to be open-minded."

The rest of the spread advised that Jeremy enjoy the good times with his dates because this will be the key to fulfillment. "This is too easy to say, it is too generic", he waved his arms in protest, and I drew another card for clarification: the Priest, which urges us to abandon ourselves in the moment and have faith in the now.

At that point Jeremy laid his self-defense to rest and started to think. He confessed that he did not have confidence in how he felt, behaved, and what he said and did in the now, and his lack of confidence in the moment made him plan and structure not only the dates but his mindset as well. His inability to go with the flow turned an otherwise exciting exploratory occasion into a script: Jeremy meets girl, Jeremy takes her to dinner, Jeremy tells her he wants a serious relationship, Jeremy lets her know (either through heavy hints or directly) that only serious candidates need to apply, Jeremy pays, the next day Jeremy calls. A few days later, Jeremy kisses and then (hopefully) Jeremy scores.

Such a structured approach leaves almost no room for spontaneous development either for the better or for the worse. Of course, Jeremy was not open to worse, and that is why he enforced his script. Better yet, he did not have the confidence to be open to the realization that he may not like the girl after all. After all his efforts, Jeremy had to like the girl, and the girl had to like him. It Was In The Script.

Now Jeremy realized that his charm would lie in having confidence in the moment. Women would be attracted to him for going with the flow; they would feel his confidence as well as his respect for their emotional schedules. He also realized that he should be dating many women, and through spontaneity, let the best dates develop into more fun, and let the not so good ones fade away without feeling sorry or regret. Going with the flow and ditching the script will allow his own feelings to surface for one woman in the end.

Jeremy learnt that when it comes to dating, we have to be open to all eventualities: the rendezvous can turn into fireworks, but it can also leave us uninspired. The amount of effort we put into the preparation or the follow-up does not guarantee a happy future.
And that is O.K..

The Gypsy cards' advice to Jeremy: let the momentum of the moment tell us what to do next.

5 Tips to Keep Your Girl Hooked on You Forever

So you have a girl on the line that you really like, and you want her to like you back. Really, you don't want her to like you. You want her to be completely hooked on you for good. Well here are some things you need to do to reel her in and be able to keep her for the long term.

Don't Be Obsessive Or Easy to Have

Girls like attention, not stalkers. Don't come off as too desperate for her attention or you will just be creepy. You can show interest, but don't go overboard.

Make Her Feel Cared For

Letting a woman know you care is vital. If she knows you care, she will want to keep it that way and keep you caring more and more for her. A woman's instinct is to find a man who will care for her and take care of her so she can begin a life with him.

Do Special Things For Her

We're not just talking birthdays and anniversaries here. You should do special things for her from time to time, just because. Once you are in a relationship many men stop doing those little things they did while dating. Don't be one of those guys. These extra little touches are what she is going to know sets you above the other guys out there, and therefore hold on to you.

Support Her

As time goes on, there will be tough moments in her life when she will need you to be a friend and support. Make sure you are there for her. While you may not always understand why she needs the support, if you aren't there for her, she will find someone else who is. If you are there, she will know and appreciate it.

Take Care of Yourself

A lot of men get lazy once they think they have hooked a girl. Keep yourself looking good (like you did when you were on the market). This not only reminds her of how lucky she is, but other girls will see you are still looking good, which will make her hold all the tighter to you to keep them away.

Become the Man That Women Want to Date!

Why is it some men seem to have all the luck when it comes to getting women? It's because they understand women and what they want. Women are very emotional and make decisions based solely on feelings when it comes to men and relationships. The logical part of their brain might tell them their dealing with a complete jerk, but their emotions do an override on the conscience part of their mind. By learning what women are looking for, you can cater to their feelings and attract them in masses.

Things like looks and how much money you make play only a small role. If you present yourself the correct way, traits like these won't matter. Women want a masculine man that knows how to act appropriately in different situations. The term is often referred to the alpha male. A man being confident in himself, and his values, leads him to be more genuine and real. Women have a keen radar to detect this and being genuine will help build trust.

Going out and regurgitating different lines you've heard from other people is almost always ineffective. Men need to find their own way of showing there own unique qualities. This is not always easy, but very necessary. Women can see through all this, and once you understand how there mind works, then you can use that to your advantage. Getting inside the woman's head is the best way to start attraction and is a technique that must be learned.

There is some great information out there on attracting a women. They are cheaper then seminars and often have money back guarantees. Don't be afraid to seek out other's advice, the attraction science has been studied since the beginning of time and there is no shame in using this to your advantage.

5 Tips to Keep Your Girl Hooked on You Forever

So you have a girl on the line that you really like, and you want her to like you back. Really, you don't want her to like you. You want her to be completely hooked on you for good. Well here are some things you need to do to reel her in and be able to keep her for the long term.

Don't Be Obsessive Or Easy to Have

Girls like attention, not stalkers. Don't come off as too desperate for her attention or you will just be creepy. You can show interest, but don't go overboard.

Make Her Feel Cared For

Letting a woman know you care is vital. If she knows you care, she will want to keep it that way and keep you caring more and more for her. A woman's instinct is to find a man who will care for her and take care of her so she can begin a life with him.

Do Special Things For Her

We're not just talking birthdays and anniversaries here. You should do special things for her from time to time, just because. Once you are in a relationship many men stop doing those little things they did while dating. Don't be one of those guys. These extra little touches are what she is going to know sets you above the other guys out there, and therefore hold on to you.

Support Her

As time goes on, there will be tough moments in her life when she will need you to be a friend and support. Make sure you are there for her. While you may not always understand why she needs the support, if you aren't there for her, she will find someone else who is. If you are there, she will know and appreciate it.

Take Care of Yourself

A lot of men get lazy once they think they have hooked a girl. Keep yourself looking good (like you did when you were on the market). This not only reminds her of how lucky she is, but other girls will see you are still looking good, which will make her hold all the tighter to you to keep them away.

How to Get Sexy Women - Looks Don't Matter

Would you believe that you can get a girl to like you even if you don't look like Brad Pitt? Would you believe that you can have hot women begging you for dates even if you may be a little vertically challenged, have bad skin, or not be your ideal height for weight? Do you honestly believe that only wealthy unattractive men can attract the hot women? Hard to imagine otherwise isn't it?

You need not accept that you have to be desperate and dateless forever? Have you sometimes thought about giving the whole thing up and throwing in the towel? Does your sex life involve a lot of wishing and the Internet and not much more? Do you want to be the guy at the party with all the sexy girls hanging off him? Would you like to be bombarded with texts from sexy women asking you for dates? Want to know how to get a girl? Read on for some potentially life changing dating tips.

How do you get a girl to like you? Easy, just be yourself. I can hear you all groaning now saying things like "well that hasn't gotten me too far in the past". What you need to realize is that in the past, you were trying to be someone that you weren't. It is easy to stop showing your real personality to women when you have already lost your self confidence and become anxious.

Guys who keep striking out tend to start behaving how they think they should behave around women. Or worse, start saying and doing things that they think the women will like. These tactics are both incorrect. First up, most girls like men for their originality. Secondly, all women are tired of cheesy one liners, yes they have heard them all before.

To get a girl you need to be attractive. This doesn't mean designer suits or plastic surgery. To be attractive to women you must let them see your abilities to be good fun, adventurous, and humorous. Have you noticed yet that a European sports car or black Amex are not essential items for attracting a hot girl.

While you may believe from the media that looks and money and power are the three vital ingredients for getting hot women, they are not. Well, they maybe for some gold diggers, but we are talking about real women here.

Has your battered self confidence buried your real personality? Unsure how to get started? Do you want more information on how to get a hot girl? You can get hot girls to like you with just a few little secret personality adjustments.