Keep the Control When Your Dating

One of the Key Ideas that men need to grasp when it comes to attracting women is that we are actually very good at losing them. One fact is that most of us are already very good at losing women.

The Fact is that we as men actually have the Power to begin with. We have the power in the relationship because women will inherently give away there power and become submissive in most areas.

So why is it then that we are so good at losing Women and why do we fail all the time at dating women even though we are trying to dam hard? Well one of the reasons is exactly that, we are trying to hard but I will get to that a little later. Guys, we need to hold to the position of power in the relationship.

This is so important because you will gain so much respect from the women you are after which as I always say is what your after. So then why are we so good at giving away the power that we had to begin with? Well most of us didn't no we had it to begin with.

I agree that it is daunting thinking that you have the dominant position in the relationship before you even begin. Unfortunately you probably hold this position up until you say your first word to her.

Then she realises you weren't as confident as she had hoped. The decision that she has already made however is not a conscious one so you are not to judge her for it. Attraction is largely BIOLOGICAL and for most very hard to understand. But the main thing to remember is that you need to come across as confident and in control of the situation as possible.

Don't give away the power that you already have by asking here to order or make the decisions of the date. That is actually turning her off you quicker than you can imagine.

All this talk of women wanting power in the relationship therefore becomes awfully confusing for a man who naturally thinks that he should play the dominant role. Women want respect from men that is completely understandable but many men are confusing this with giving away the decision making.

It is important that you understand that these are completely different aspects to dating and once you understand how to utilise them in the real world you will be greatly rewarded for it.

Because the hardest thing is to gain respect from the your date while keeping the upper hand as far as control.

Women crave this control and it is actually a delicate balance between going to far and becoming the complete controller of every situation or stepping right back and being to submissive. You will find most of the guys who are successful with women have mastered this game of power balance and most say it slightly towards the side of being to dominant.

Once again I will say that this is NOT a situation where you should stop respecting your date because this obviously a huge turn off.

So guys another step towards dating success is to keep the upper hand in the relationship and you should be on your way to impressing your women and making sure you will get that second date.