I Don't Want to Be Your Girlfriend - Confused and Upset Men!

Men relationships emotions! Well there's three words to make women knowingly smile and men grimace!

There is an increasing trend of confused men and frustrated women. Where this is coming from we can only guess, but we can be sure the effect is there.

We can't blame either gender for this either, as society is probably responsible for some of this change, with a huge influence from the media, but there is something we can do about it.

Men relationships and emotions

The problem is, something is driving women to want men to open up about their feelings and talk about them as they would with their girlfriends. Women are frustrated that men will not open up and men are confused, because not only do they not know how to, but they don't see what all the fuss is about and why they are in trouble if they don't.

Women's drive to want their men to be like their girlfriends in discussing feelings results in a hurt and angry man and to be honest these men have a point.

Men and women are very different and it is these differences that make us attractive to each other. Trying to change these differences can cause so many problems. Women expect men to change and get upset when they don't. Men are frustrated because they do express emotions but just differently to women.

Women complain "that men do not express their emotions", or "Men are only interested in talking about cars or sport". What women need to understand is, this is just the way men are designed and trying to fight it only causes conflict, and to be honest what is wrong with what men are more interested in talking about?

Surly women want men to be men. Men are a package that provides strength and security for women, this is what women want men to be. A real man makes a woman feel like a woman.

Men do not want to be your girlfriend and if to please you, they do try to meet your needs, the eventual effect is a emasculate man. The beaten man then becomes a further victim because the woman now feels like she is the man of the family, she doesn't feel like a woman and now every-one's in trouble.

If women want to talk about emotions then that's what girlfriends are for. Women are brilliant at verbal expression men are not! We are designed differently, men and women have very different strengths. Just look at how many airline pilots are women, a very small percentage and there are now far more women mental health workers and teachers, why? Because we are different and more naturally gifted in certain areas.

If both sexes can understand that men and women are different, almost like a different species and then understand what the differences are, whilst focusing on the strengths of that gender, then the world would be a happier place.

Surly it's so much easier to appreciate and desire men with all their faults, than to complain about them and then try to change them to become more like women.

Wouldn't it be better to forgive what you perceive to be the faults of the opposite sex and embrace the positives.

And to the women that constantly complain about your men, let's face it, you're no picnic either.