Top Three Getting Back Together Tips

So you've broken up, rejections stings; but you need getting back together tips, you want to get your ex back.  Maybe you acted pretty stupidly to make him/her leave; maybe your boyfriend/girlfriend just doesn't understand what they're losing (what you have to offer). But you're determined to bring him/her back.

At this stage you might have acted a little foolishly: called your ex incessantly, texting them to no end; or even stood begging at their front door.  Truth is you can't snap your fingers and make them see the light; you have to be a little sneaky and let their real love for you come back out to the surface and get them back into your life.  How do you do this, you might ask.  Well, obviously you're reading this article, so why don't I tell you some of the most successful tips in getting back together. 

First: stay calm, put on your "cool" mask; in fact you want your ex now to think that you aren't interested very much in him/her any more.  When you talk to him/her agree with the breakup, say that it was good that you broke up and that you're now moving on.  This is good for you because you are no longer in denial, and now this has the effect of putting you ex off balance.  He/she expected you to continue to complain, protest, or mourn the breakup.  In effect you have turned the tables on him/her; now you have rejected them. 

Second: inject more uncertainty into his/her mind; tell them that you have moved on and you're seeing some new friends.  You shouldn't say yes or no if you're actually dating any of them (because you may not) but you want the imagination of his/her mind to now start to work on them.  We all want what we can't have and the fact that you may be seeing someone else means that he's not dating you.  All of a sudden you become more desirable in his/her eyes because you are "seeing" other people. 

Congratulations, you have just using his/her envious or jealous tendencies against them.  You don't want to hurt them obviously; but you are using subtle psychological tricks to pull out his underlying love and affection for you. 

Thirdly, ask him/her to do you a favor.  Simple enough you say, but why?  Whenever we do a favor for someone it is because we love and care for them, we are interested in their well-being.  When you ask someone to do a favor for you, you are in effect forcing him/her to nurture good loving feelings toward you because we always act in accordance to our internal motivations.  When he or she acts on these feelings they tend to become stronger and more substantial. 

Now you might call this a beginning to getting back together; are there more steps to getting back your ex?  Yes there certainly are and they are covered in more depth at our website devoted to getting back together, getting your ex back.  But if you can do these things, you have done a lot already.  Good luck.