Keeping Secrets in a Relationship

Sometimes, as our relationship perseveres, we tend to have a hard time keeping secrets.
You may have a secret about mysteriously seeing someone at your work that your current boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't know about. Or perhaps you secretly don't want to tell your love that you're not really a big fan of their foreplay techniques and would rather them getting a guide or something to make you more aroused.

In relationships, secrets can be a good or bad thing. For example, if you had a current boyfriend for many months and you went on a date with another guy that you happened to be attracted to and kissed him on the date, then that would be a big no-no. Actually this happens to a lot of people and the person who did the damage has a secret to keep, which is that they have to confront their boyfriend about kissing another guy or confront the guy that they already have a boyfriend! This also can be the same situation with guys to girls.

Either way, the worse thing someone can do in this situation is keep the secret from one party and continue on as if nothing happened. The best thing to do is to confront both parties about what happened and suffer the consequences. Most likely you'll be forgiven.

Enough about these types of secrets though! A lot of times secrets can have a negative connotation to them, like if someone was holding a secret from someone else. However, you should try to keep secrets fun in relationships rather than making them something to worry about.

Here are some ways to keep good secrets in relationships. Before your lover goes to work, whisper in their ear that you have a secret waiting for them tonight. Emphasize the word - secret. You can do it in a seductive tone of voice that sends chills down their body.

Now, you may have no idea what the secret will be, but rest assured, your lover will think about you all day long. Unless you have a very adventure-like job, most jobs can be boring and tedious. After you tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that you have a secret for them tonight, they'll constantly be thinking about what it will be and it will drive them towards high anticipation and temptation to seeing you.

Now, even though you may be clueless to what the secret will be, you don't have to worry. The point of doing that was to create anticipation and mystery in your relationship. The secret you will give to your girlfriend or boyfriend can be anything simple. It's not that hard to make a spaghetti candle-lit dinner and takes less than an hour. Your lover will appreciate this time you guys have together. Or perhaps when your love comes home, the first thing you can do is blindfold them, grab them by the hand, and lead them to the shower. You can then proceed to give them a fifteen-minute massage after a days worth of hard work, enter the shower together, and make love afterwards. This would be a very cool secret for them, giving you kudos for heating up the relationship.