How to Approach a Girl - Going Back to Basics

Some guys can conquer the court or the playing field, the classroom, the kitchen, the stage, the entire auditorium, the top of a mountain, but the space between him and a girl that captured his attention? Tough luck. That's the problem with some, if not most guys who get temporarily paralyzed from waist down and cannot approach the girl that caught their fancy. 

They begin feeling like a kindergarten who was asked to recite the multiplication table of 8 on the spot. They feel helpless. They feel like first-time swimmers on the pool. They don't know what initial steps to do on how to approach a girl across the bar, the room, the street, wherever. They get stuck from where they are. Well, there are actually ways that could make you walk straight to them without tripping or stopping at the middle, and these things on how to approach a girl are what men will find out from here.

1. Observe first. Check if the girl you're eying is not with another guy already, which apparently could be her boyfriend or her date (lucky you if it's her brother or cousin). Now, once the coast is clear, so to speak, get ready for invasion!

2. Have a quick fix of yourself. It's not suggested that you go to the restroom and thoroughly examine your overall look as if you're appearing for a job interview. Hmmm... though it will not do any harm and might actually buy some time for you to muster enough courage, the only problem is that by the time you get back the girl might probably have disappeared on the scene or is entertaining another guy already. Anyhow, just have quick general check on yourself, like checking your collar or running your hand on your hair. These may seem petty but as they say, first impression lasts and you want an impression of someone who is presentable and neat-looking.

3. Take a deep breath. Inhale. Exhale. This is just a very simple step that has been proven for so many times already in so many different occasions to relieve any initial nervousness. Make this a part of your "attack plan" on how to approach a girl, and you could really feel the difference. You'll truly feel "light" as you walk your way to your precious find.

4. Keep it short and sweet and natural. Forget those silly, cliché pick-up lines or those pretentious "hey-yah-what's-a-hot-babe-like-you-doing-alone-here approach. A simple "Excuse me. I've seen you from across the room. I hope you'll not mind if I join you?" or "Hi! I'm Markus. Mind if I keep you company?" will actually do the trick, or who knows? It might already set off fireworks for that girl who's grown tired already of those bombastic lines and overbearing approach. Just keep your initial lines or "opening remarks" naturally brief and simple, and that's how to approach a girl without being dominating or timid. From there, who knows what might happen on the next round?

Conclusion:

In general, it's hard to approach a stranger. Getting to know a girl could be like a walk on a tightrope.  You don't know if you'll be turned down, get humiliated, mocked, or, well, accepted and affirmed. Approaching a girl is a game of chance. The important thing is that you made your decision to take the chance of knowing that girl, and hopefully establish a relationship with her. So, just remember those basic rules like keeping yourself presentable and natural, and being prepared for anything that might occur once you come face-to-face with the girl.