Role of Courtship in Building a Longer Lasting Relationship

The period of Courtship for two individuals in love with each other plays a vital role in building a longer lasting relationship than many civilizations will want to give credit and attach importance to.

What is rife is falling in love one moment and then living in the next moment. This can be traced to the easy permissiveness that has permeated the moral fabric of our society and the community we live in bringing such levels of degradation and moral depravity fiction books should feature.

Aside of getting to meet that young man or young lady that makes your world turn 'rainbow' over and over, melts your heart with the touch of love... there is every need to get to know each other in a more responsible way than the average knowing that will suffice for any fleeting acquaintance.

Communication in relationship building is such an essential tool that both partners will need to master and deploy at every available opportunity. The time of courtship presents the couple with such a golden opportunity in getting familiar with each other.

Courtship is a time whereby you get to meet and begin relating with each other in such a way and at such a level that will enable you move from the position of strangers to being intimate friends.

One mistake many couples who are into Courtship make from time immemorial is spending this period to go on dates such as taking strolls/walks in the garden, going to the movies, day dreaming about one another, writing and sending love messages in form of letters, poems, flowers, presents, etc.

As much as all these are necessary, many delay till a later time especially when they have both finally tied the 'nuptial knot' to become husband and wife before taking out time to discover their spouse.

This alone explains why there is so much resentment when the couples begin to discover how incompatible they both are in the love relationship turned marriage. They both feel trapped and doomed to a life of misery and unsatisfied desires, hopes and aspirations.

In many instances, this marks the beginning of many surprising discoveries about their 'better half'.

Time that could have been spent in asking each other important questions about likes and dislikes, favorite colors, your partner's views on issues such as in-laws, friends, joint savings account, number of children desired, mood swings, to mention a few is expended on 'enjoying life' during the period of courtship.

As much as you might want to enjoy life with your heartthrob during courtship going on dates, sightseeing, being in each other's company for as long as time and opportunity will allow, one very important thing you should do is get to meet and know your lover's real and true self by asking questions.

Waiting until you are finally joined in matrimony as husband and wife may simply prove late.

Courtship is an essential season in a relationship that opens your eyes and feeds your mind as you get to know and understand your partner even though your heart is overwhelmed with love.

This way, you stand a better chance of building a longer lasting relationship seeing you will have had sufficient time to determine and ascertain the extent of compatibility that exists between the two of you.

This alone can save you a lot of heartache and disappointment in later years to come if you make the mistake of entering into agreement in marriage with your spouse.

Courtship allows you determine the extent of your compatibility and equally informs you whether to continue or end the relationship at whatever stage it has reached.

Marriage is to be celebrated and life with your partner enjoyed to the full rather than having to tolerate each other the remaining days of your life imprisoned in marriage.
Fallout occurs and divorce is imminent.

Handling the period of your courtship well cannot be overemphasized. It is one good opportunity to do all the checks and balances, additions, subtractions, and equally provides you valid time to make the right choice and take the appropriate decision in life about the relationship you have going with your partner before you enter into a lifetime commitment together married as husband and wife.

To build a longer lasting relationship, utilize the period of your courtship well -ask questions, get to meet and know your partner and ascertain the level of your compatibility together first.