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What's Obama's greatest success? - Not the Presidency!

Most of the world - especially people of colour - is ecstatic over the ushering in of a black man into the White House. I am equally pleased, proud and positively thrilled. However I think that the presidency is not his greatest achievement. It is not his crowning moment as many believe. It is not even the thing we should be hailing praise upon him for. I think the presidency is but a by-product of his true success. A success that could have manifested itself in one of a million ways.

Barack's chief attainment in life lies years ago - October 1992. It was then his romantic campaign climaxed into a wedding to one Miss Michelle Robinson. A powerhouse of a woman who was initially used to mentor him in a predominantly white law firm.

I once came across a quote which said "Choose carefully because 90% of your happiness or misery is the result of the choice of a partner."

I want to suggest to you the Barack's Presidential success is not merely due to wise political advisers. Or clever campaign tactics. These all helped in the recipe of winning. But I will like to put it to you that the major ingredient in his historic victory is his family - his wife and their precious children.

What if Barack chose a different woman. A woman that didn't complement him like Michelle. What if Barack and Michelle had a lukewarm relationship as John and Cindy McCain.

Cindy and John started off their relationship while he was still married to another woman. She confessed that they both lied about their true age. She never found out his real age until the marriage bands were published. Then they realized that they both had lied to each other.
Love is like a double edged sword. It can lift you to the dizzy heights of happiness and success or it can plunge you to the depths of despondency and despair.

How can you tell if someone is the right person for you?

Here are a couple of questions you can ask yourself:

1. Is this person toxic or nourishing?
2. Would I like to become like him or her?
3. Would I like him or her to be the parent of my children?
4. Does he/she have a conscience?
5. Would he/she help you to grow and become all that you can be?
6. What is his/her family/romantic history?
7. What do people say about him or her?

Remember the man or woman you let into your life can help to rise above the mountains of obstacles or bury beneath them. They can bring tremendous joy or painful grief. Choose wisely. One day you will see the results of your choice like John McCain and Barack Obama.