Preparing to Date After Divorce - 3 Tips For Success

Getting back into the dating game following a divorce can seem an intimidating prospect. If you have been out of the dating pool for a long time, it can seem as if you are starting from scratch knowledge wise. Where do you meet people? How much do you share about your past and when? To put yourself in the best position and mental state of mind to answer these questions, it is helpful to implement some strategies. Here are 3 tips for success in re-entering the dating world following divorce:

1. Take excellent care of yourself. This means eating right, avoiding processed junk foods and sugars, and consuming mostly fresh vegetables, fruit, proteins, and whole grains. Supplements are a great addition if they will be beneficial; it is helpful to consult your health care practitioner before trying new supplements. A good place to start is a food based multivitamin, calcium, and fish oil. Implementing a regular, doctor approved exercise program is also a fantastic way to elevate your mood (particularly if you are doing cardio - this releases endorphins). Exercise also improves body image. Caring for yourself well is a good first step in improving your self esteem and attracting people who will treat you well.

2. Spend lots of time with supportive friends and family. Stay busy and emotionally fulfilled with the relationships you already have in your life; this way you are not desperately searching for companionship and settling for someone who isn't suitable for you. And, when you are approached and asked out, you will literally have to check and see when you can schedule the date in - showing your prospective date that you have an active a fulfilled life, which is more attractive than saying "Oh yes, I am always free."

3. Take time for yourself. It takes time to recover from as major a life change as a divorce, so don't feel pressure to rush anything. If you aren't quite ready to date, just keep spending time with friends and taking care of yourself. Find ways to cherish yourself, do little things you enjoy, and do some work on yourself to be sure you understand your part in the failure of the marriage. You will be far more likely to avoid the same mistakes if you are consciously aware of what did not work before.