Decoding Male Psychology - Find Out What He Needs

Do you envy women who just seem to have an innate ability to decode the male psyche? Would you like to know what they know? Have you watched men come in and out of your life and you still have no idea what it is they really want or need? If your frustrated by the mixed signals you're getting from every which way, know that you are not alone. Many women struggle with the sometimes ambiguous needs of men. Just when you think this is what they want and you give it to them, they turn away. Some women give and give and give, and still the man is unhappy. So, what's the deal?

If you feel you've given him every opportunity to be happy; you do the activities he likes; you go to the places he wants to go; you hang out with the people he enjoys being with and he just wants more, you may be chasing an unrealistic relationship. Here you are being so generous and compliant and he's just asking for more and then dumping you.

So what did you do wrong?

Though a man will surely appreciate your generous and giving nature one day, right off the bat, an over eagerness on the part your to please your man at all cost can backfire. You really want to take your time and ease your way into a relationship. Chances are if you are too giving, too soon, the guy will just take advantage of your generous nature.

By so readily giving in to him, you are also curbing his need to be challenged and to work to win you. He has to merit your generosity and your kind heart. Don't just give it away.

Try to keep yourself just within his grasp. Not enough for him to take for granted that he has you and no longer has to make any effort, but just enough to let him know that the possibilities are there. If he plays his cards right, if he treats you the way you deserve, if he is generous in his own way, you can start to show your appreciation for all that he is and for all that he does by giving back.

So when you go out to meet a guy, what should you be thinking?

Start by making sure the way you look reflects the woman you are; whether that is casual in jeans, elegant in heels or whimsical in flashy colors, make sure you're dressed to flatter your own body type. Then appeal to his need to express himself by being fun to be around and easy to talk to.

You want the conversation to allow you to get to know about him, while giving out tidbits about yourself. But don't be in a rush to spill everything. You have plenty of time for that. And finally, don't feel you have to say yes to everything. You shouldn't make yourself available to every date he invites you on. Decode the male psyche then take advantage of what you know.