How to Ask Out a Girl in a Group - Group Theory 101

When someone asks me how to ask out a girl in a group, I tell them the same thing every time - The easiest way to ask a girl out when she is with a group of her peers is to use 'social proof'. Approaching a woman in a group can seem daunting, but it is actually easier for three reasons:

1. Her guard will naturally be down in the "comfort zone" of her group of friends


2. You can come across as "not too interested" in your target female


3. Using social proof correctly will force any woman to accept you

So, how do I use social proof? First you must pick your target and approach her group. Make sure you engage or "open" the leader of the group first. You can always tell who the leader of the group is, because it is always one of two kinds of people:

1. A loud or outgoing woman


2. A guy (or guys)

If your target is with one other person, approach the other person first. If she is with two or more women, approach the loudest or most outgoing woman first. She is most likely the leader of the group.

If the group contains a guy or guys, just approach any one of them first. Men are default leaders. Try to engage in a conversation, and then move on to engage the other members of her group, approaching your target female last.

It is important to engage the leader first, so that you can ensure that the group doesn't decide to do something other than talk to you.

Learn how to ask out a girl that is the leader of her group: If your target happens to be the leader of the group engage the next loudest or most outgoing woman or any man first. Let your target female engage YOU! Then you can turn your attention towards her.

Hold off the real conversation until you have the approval of her group. By that time she will be forced to accept you, and you will have already built up some attraction. Be sure to flirt!