Rebound Relationships - How to Tell If You Are in One and Why They Often Fail

Breaking up is one of the hardest things to deal with. No matter how many times one experience it, it does not get easier. The lucky few are able to move on quickly, but the rest need to dwell with the bitterness. Even though most broken relationships are salvageable, many people do not know how and they throw themselves into another relationship as quickly as possible to avoid dealing with the pain of their broken hearts. This is known as a rebound relationship.

Rebound relationship is not a recommended thing to do for several reasons. They have weak foundations and often fail easier than the first relationship that was broken. The following are the common signs if you are in a rebound relationship and the reasons they fail easily:

1. You get together with your new partner only to get over your ex. Likely that your new love happens to be available while they are not really your type under normal circumstances. If that is the case, it is only a matter of time before you realize that the two of you do not have what it takes to make a relationship work.

2. You expect your new partner to have the good qualities your ex was lacking. If you broke up with your ex because they never had time for you, then you may expect your new one to spend all time with you. You try to compensate whatever missing from your earlier relationship. You can potentially drive them away for being too demanding.

3. You expect your new love to also have the qualities you love from your ex. If your ex used to come home with a bunch of roses for you and you love it, you would want your new partner to do the same. Problem is, each individual is different and they show their feelings or do things their own way.

4. You start comparing your new love with your ex. The way they do things or how good they are in bed. People hate to be compared. They are all unique individuals with their own unique attributes. This is one of the worst mistakes people often do, sometimes unconsciously.

5. You are still in love with your ex. That is why you are in a rebound relationship as you cannot handle the pain of losing your ex. Being involved with someone else will close your chance of rekindling your relationship with your ex as they will see you already move on, and think they should too.

If you just experienced a break up, allow yourself sometime to cool down. Then make an effort to think things through and decide if you want to try getting back with your ex again or to move on. Do yourself a great favor by overcoming the pain in positive ways and not getting involved in another potentially miserable relationship.