Get the Girl You Want - Tips For Shy Guys

Have you ever wondered why some men meet women easily, while others watch forever from the sidelines? About 20% of men are naturally shy. These people are not naturally at ease with themselves around others. They are unsure and are not ready to be noticed. They might even experience physical sensations like blushing, shaking, or feeling short of breath.

There is nothing inherently wrong with shyness; if it were something so terrible, then it probably would have been weeded out of the gene pool by now! But successful shy men learn to manage their shyness. They know that without putting in some effort to the contrary, shyness will prevent them from sharing themselves with others and successfully approaching women of interest.

Take comfort in the fact that you needn't change completely. Not all women want to date outgoing men. Some even find such men intimidating or turn-offs. And it's likely that the best match for you is a bit shy herself! But in order to meet her, you do need to learn to take the first step.

It might help to practice overcoming your shyness with people who aren't of romantic interest. Try talking a bit more to grocery clerks, neighbors, or co-workers. Try smiling and making eye contact a bit more every day. Once you become comfortable smiling at other strangers, smiling at a special lady won't be as big of a step as it was before. From there you can move to a simple "Hello."

Once you have set a date with a woman, you will probably worry about all the talking it could involve! One strategy is to plan a movie night followed by dessert or tea. The movie will then be a natural topic of conversation. Another strategy is to ask questions about your date's life. Once she starts talking, you'll be inspired with more ideas to contribute. And it's quite likely that she'll appreciate what a great listener you are!

Accept that shyness is a part of you, and that you do not have to change your core personality. You only need to become more confident in your own skin, and thereby allow others the opportunity to see just how thoughtful and fun you can be. It will be worth the hard work!