Windows to the Soul!

Ok, guys, it isn't as easy finding that perfect woman anymore, is it? We now have to be attractive to women. Hit the gym, look presentable, don't be a slob. She now has a choice! Gone are the days when a woman dropped a handkerchief in hopes that the man she had her eyes on will pick it up. We actually, God forbid, have to work on it. We have to do the flirting. Not just women. And how do we do that?

They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. So use them! If you are able to make the proper eye contact you can really go a long way to meeting that special someone. Eye contact is the best body language you can possibly use. You are telling that person that you are interested in her. Look into her eyes. It is with your eyes that you first make contact. Now as guys, we tend to look at the whole picture.

We see her from head to toe, and everything in-between. And, if you like what you see, go back to her eyes. Don't linger on one particular aspect that all guys find attractive. Be smart. If you do it right, all possibilities are open to you.

If a woman likes what she sees, and believe me she has also looked you over from head to toe, she might want to get to know the entire package. She may look away at first, but she will give you a subtle hint that she has checked you out and it is ok to approach her. Gosh, all that power that women have.

It's enough to make grown men cry. But, you have to play it this way. Look at her and smile. This should be the open door to say hello. You introduce yourself and you are now talking to that special someone.

The night is going well. You've made her feel at ease. You haven't come on too strong. You made her laugh. And, if you don't know how to make a woman laugh, there are books on the subject. I know, more work for you, but in the long run it will be worth it.

You are getting to know her. She is great at conversation. She probably does something cute and you find her terribly attractive. You want more! A kiss?

It is time to use your flirting body language again. Remember, the eyes are the window to the soul. So, stare at her intently! Feel the heat and the passion of the moment. If she stares back, watch carefully what she does with her eyes. If she is interested in kissing you she will flick her eyes back and forth between your eyes. She is trying to get a good read on you.

Look at her pupils. Are they dilated? The more dilated and the wider her pupils the more attracted and excited she has become. She is expecting a kiss right now, the way should be clear. Don't screw it up. Don't allow uncertainty to ruin your chances. And make sure you kiss the right way. There are books on this too!

Flirting - tough work? Yes, now more than ever. Be confident! Move forward! Zero in on her eyes and linger there - eventually she will notice and hopefully you'll be on your way to that blissful feeling that the best of relationships can bring. But remember, you have to do the work. Times have certainly changed and you have to change with them!