Understanding Your Troubled Relationship

Are you confused about the relationship you are in? Do you feel like the relationship has gone as far as it will ever go? Do you feel like you are not being honest with yourself? Maybe you are only pretending to be happy or are afraid of what the next steps will be? These signs of a troubled relationship can plague you and put strain on a possibly damaged relationship. One of the more common feelings is guilt over lying and hiding ones true feelings over the relationship and its status. There was a great deal of love in the relationship, but now there are a lot of mixed feelings and factors that are contributing to the mixed feelings that you are feeling.

Once you have begun to examine your troubled relationship you will want to pay attention to what it is you want and do not want in your relationship. Maybe you do not want to be cheated on, abused or ignored. Instead you may want to be loved, cherished and adored. When it comes to items that you want to have happen, these can include wanting to grow and develop emotionally. One can want for excitement and romance in the relationship. Sometimes one wants intellectual and spiritual stimulation, including discussions and events outside the home.

Gather your list of what you want and what you do not want and pick through them to identify those that are the most important to you. Figure out what type of situation you are in and whether you think it will change or stay the same. Watch your partner and try to decide if you feel they are capable of growing and changing your troubled relationship. They need to be able to contribute to repairing the relationship and moving it forward.

If you feel that things are just too bad at this time you may need to step back and clear your head. This may mean a temporary separation to give you and your partner time to evaluate the situation without distractions. By being apart you will both have a chance to give your troubled relationship and honest evaluation.

You may discover that the relationship is to much and that the two of you can just not be together. Realize some relationships are just not meant to be and that there is someone out there for you. If you find that your troubled relationship is capable of being handled then you need to make sure there is an open line of communication.

A troubled relationship does not necessarily mean that the end is near. What it does mean is that you and your partner need to take the steps to work things out and move the relationship forward, whether that is towards its end or continuation.