Ways to Find Out If You Are in an Unhealthy Relationship

Do you want to know if the relationship you are in is toxic or unhealthy? These are some clues to find out if you are in one:

-Your partner's action does not back up their words. They say the love you and acts otherwise.
-Your partner puts you down when he or she is in front of their friends.
-Your partner checks up on you always and controls you.
-You try to do things just to please them.

Why would anyone want to be in an unhealthy or toxic relationship? A relationship that makes you feel ill or sad most of the time. Why would you be in a relationship that affects you negatively and that can harm you emotionally or physically?

A toxic relationship is always in a cycle. You are happy with your partner and everything seems to be going on well, then there is a blow up, followed by the partners coming back together again-at which point the cycle begins anew.

It is always a happy stage when you meet someone new and kick off a relationship with them. It is not until you get in deeper and that's when you realize you are in an unhealthy relationship and it becomes difficult to get out.

Some of the causes of toxic relationship can be a replicate of the childhood experience without them even knowing that they are doing it. They grew up in toxic homes. Some believe they do not deserve happiness and unknowingly make the relationship they are in toxic.

The first step in getting out of a toxic relationship and staying out of it is to realize that you have a choice. Some people have low self esteem and as such do not know they have a choice.

When you realize that you have choices, then you to start standing up for yourself. Toxic partners in a relationship always blame their partners for everything, that it is your entire fault. It becomes difficult to get out of a relationship when you buy into this and also difficult to set a standard that can heal the relationship.

Working in therapy groups can help some people get out of these horrible relationships.

Some people are able to break away from these horrible and unhealthy relationships and start a new healthier one, while some are able to repair their relationship and stay in it.

The good news is that most relationships can be salvaged. Sometimes it may be that the partners in the relationship need some space, other times, it takes counseling. But it is possible to renew the bonds in a healthy way if the partners involved make an attempt to do so.

You need to first decide within you that the relationship must improve or you are willing to walk away. If you are not willing to walk away, then you are not willing to heal that which divides you.

Once you are able to break away from the dependency which is the core of an unhealthy relationship, then you are ready to find out how to heal the relationship. Make your partner understand that you need their support but do not nag him or her. You can do this by telling them "I need your love and your support".

If you don't get what you need, your partner should know that you are prepared to walk away.