How to Get Girls - The Fake Way and the Real, Natural Way

There's a little community out there. A community you may or may not have heard of but it's entire purpose is focusing on how to get girls. Ok, maybe it's not the ENTIRE focus but it's focus is revolved around attracting and seducing women and improving self-confidence and self-esteem.

The community is filled with a bunch of great guys whom are all knowledgeable in one form or another on this topic. BUT the problem I have is that most of the stuff they're teaching is linear.

Meaning - They approach the subject like attracting women is step-by-step, which it's not and is almost impossible for it to be that way. Every woman and man is different. No "ONE" experience will ever be the same as another experience. Sure there can be similar situations but not ALL personalities are the same in every single encounter. If that was the case could you imagine how boring the world would be?

You see, their whole theory is wrapped around creating a shell identity of yourself.

A shell identity is just your outside and fake personality to attract women. You're not genuine, you never internally change. You learn how to do magic tricks, or to say this when she says this, or do this when she does that (all social conditioning and inauthentic stuff) - but it's all actions and words that the REAL you would never use. In fact, most people who HAVE been doing this for a long time will begin to notice that they don't even know who they are anymore. Scary stuff.

They notice that relationships start to fall apart and attraction in the long run will come to a screeching halt because eventually you'll become transparent and incongruent with your REAL personality. Worst, you'll feel uncomfortable and fake because you'll realize the truth - she's not genuinely attracted to the real you, she's attracted to your shell identity. Which is just pigment of your imagination, it doesn't exist.

Obviously this isn't the right approach on how to get girls. If you're doing this, you're treading on thin ice. If you're like me, you don't want to do that. You want to be genuinely attracted to a women and have her be genuinely attracted to the REAL you. The YOU who can exude confidence and a great personality that is congruent to no one but yourself. I call this type of person, a Natural.