For the Guys - 4 Tips For Your First Date

Many single guys feel that first dates are a difficult time. When a person hasn't been dating for a lengthy stretch of time, it's especially stressful.

Not knowing what to talk about with a near stranger you know little about are very common fears. Concerns over rejection can also be a source of tension.

A good way of dealing with this stress is knowing what's to be expected on a first date. Some suggestions for that important occasion:

1.) Seeing a movie is probably not the best idea. Why is that? Because it's extremely hard to get to know someone when you're sitting in a dark room and can't do any talking.

An equally important reason is that it's boring. It is a cliche date. It's an extremely common thing to do.

Dates centered around an activity are fun. Suggestions include skating, wine tasting, a simple walk along the beach, or playing some miniature golf. For a great outing you should find out something about your date's interests.

Getting a bite to eat is a good plan when you've finished your activity. Stay away from a place that is very expensive because it will seem as if you desperately need to impress her.

2.) Bear with me on this obvious suggestion but there are some who need to be reminded: personal hygiene is important. A bath, shave, mouthwash, deodorant, and clean teeth are the basics. Don't let a case of nerves or time pressure make you overlook this.

3.) Clean and attractive clothing are a must. Your date won't be successful if she gets a bad first impression. The type of clothing you wear is decided by the nature of your date. It's a sure thing that a woman will take notice of your shoes, so leave the old shoddy shoes at home.

4.) Before the date, put some thought into your conversation strategies. Many dates have flopped because of too many silent gaps in the conversation. Engage in small talk about something on her person or something interesting in your immediate environment.

The conversation can be steered to getting to know one another after she's relaxed. You can find out what you have in common by asking some open ended questions and listening to her responses.

A balance between talking and listening is the essence of good conversation. If you ask too many questions then the date will resemble a job interview. If she can't get a word in because you're talking too much then the date is all about you.

Too much nervousness on a first date is not good because it makes you appear as lacking in confidence. Feeling relaxed will also make your date feel relaxed and help you to establish a connection with her. Don't put yourself under pressure by placing big expectations on the date's outcome. Remember that you'll be with an interesting person, so relax and have a good time.